Adoption! Pro or Con

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lighthousejohn

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Write a post as to whether you are pro or con on adoptin and explain why.

Pro Adoption

My wife and I were told that we could not have children. We both went through four years of testing before the Dr's. decided that. So we started talking about adoption. We applied to the State of Washington and went through the screening process. We were approved on December 15, 1973 and our daughter was placed in our home on our 5th wedding anniversary on the 20th of December. We raised her as if she were our own showing her all the love that we could. She grew into a lovely woman.

Unfortunately she blames us for all the stuff in her life that is negative. Her husband filled her head with all kinds of lies about us so now she resents us to a certain degree.

My life would be incomplete without her in it. I know she has made some bad choices but I can never stop loving her because she was a true gift from God.
 
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glenwood74

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I am pro adoption. Otherwise I would not be saved for I am a gentile.

There are children who are not cared for and who would benefit from a loving home, so if it is between a life in an orphanage or a life in a family atmosphere, I think the family life is preferable.
 
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hey i am pro adoption
the reason being biblical as well as personal:
the first reason take care of widows and orphans biblical so what better way to take care of an orphan than adopt

the second reason personal as some of u already know i was adopted by the best parents in the universe(besides our father who lives outta time but is everywhere but i am also adopted by him)in a sibling group of 8 when i was 10 years old
 
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I am pro adoption, of course, seeing as I am adopted into a most wonderful Christian family and love my parents with all my heart.

I do know it can be a heated discussion though. I have a brother who is adopted (but we are not biologically related) but is not close to my parents at all--he said in his heart, he could never feel close to them because of the adoption and the fact that he is a different race. However, he also harbors a lot of bitterness and resentment towards his birth family (though he does not know who they are, nor do I know anything about mine) for abandoning him (he was found wandering the streets alone--someone apparently had just left him there like a stray cat or dog--when he was about a year old.)

Something I always find interesting too is that Moses was adopted... we don't think about it much, but it must have really been something for the Princess of Egypt to bring home the baby of foreign slaves and announce, "This is my son."

And history as we know it surely would have been a little different if God had not influenced her to adopt him.
 
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jonnoboy

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Hello there, I am adopted myself my friend,

Adoption is a wonderful thing my parents mean the world to me but like ur daughter my sister is the same way her husband says the same things aswell (she even changed her religion now a muslim) Can i just say look on the internet and you will find out that girls who are adopted are more likely to do this than boys just dnt blame urself for anything ok, its not ur fault just pray for her, i will do now

Lord we come before you now to John's situation with his daughter, i pray that she will understand the truth about what her family went through to raise such a kind lovely women, I pray lord she will seek you again and go back to the family and start a new fulfilling life

In your name we pray

Jonno
 
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aprilrenee1

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I am sick of the pro adoption con adoption question
 
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jonnoboy

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well i find her rather rude, who does she think she is!?!
 
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jonnoboy said:
well i find her rather rude, who does she think she is!?!
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she has a point tho whats wrong with given a child a chance to belong to a loving family

where is the con in that
 
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aprilrenee1

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johnoboy, look in the threads. this gets...emotional and I am sick of adoption being discussed as if it were a act....not, in a way, dealing...with real people. Sure lets adopt kids, that sounds fun!.......hm...its hard....I admire anyone who sticks through it, but really con-adoption.....uggggggg

thank you seoul and zavok
 
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aprilrenee1 said:
johnoboy, look in the threads. this gets...emotional and I am sick of adoption being discussed as if it were a act....not, in a way, dealing...with real people. Sure lets adopt kids, that sounds fun!.......hm...its hard....I admire anyone who sticks through it, but really con-adoption.....uggggggg

thank you seoul and zavok
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thats ok :)
 
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lighthousejohn

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There are a lot of studies that show that many adopted kids have social problems due to a feeling of abandonment. They have difficulty with getting close to people so a close personal realationship is hard for them. Some of them have low self-esteem and develop a subserviant attitude towards authority figures. It must be very difficult for them
 
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aprilrenee1

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lighhouse are you adopted? do you know my life?
 
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lighthousejohn said:
There are a lot of studies that show that many adopted kids have social problems due to a feeling of abandonment. They have difficulty with getting close to people so a close personal realationship is hard for them. Some of them have low self-esteem and develop a subserviant attitude towards authority figures. It must be very difficult for them
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im sorry but many people have problems in life due to certain things i wasnt adopted but i felt abandoned by my father (and still have problems with me now) and i did have a few issues. now here u can say im being con family everything has its up and downs nothings perfect but got to ask your self the main important question whats is better to be loved or not to be loved by a family
 
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jonnoboy

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well as someone who is adopted myself i think it is wonderful so excuse me for being offende!
 
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lighthousejohn

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aprilrenee1 said:
lighhouse are you adopted? do you know my life?
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No, I am not adopted. I have an adopted daughter who is working through these issues in her life a this time. I have been supportive of her in any endevour that she wishes to pursue; such as trying to find her birth mother. She knows the circumstances of her adoption and that is part of the problem.

As a pastor working with street youth; I met and counseled many kids who had these same issues and many of them were not adopted, they just didn't have a clue as to who their parents were.

I know life can be a drag at times, and feelings such as these doesn't make life any easier. The kids I worked with all told me that it was good to have someone that would listen without judging them. That is what I try to do.
 
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I am sick of the pro adoption con adoption question
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LOL! I'm surprised the opening post in this thread doesn't state: "QuestionTime may not post in this thread, thank-you"

I am adamantly anti-Adoption of course, because our Lord never took babies from birthmothers and gave them to other adoptive mothers and then sent the birthmother away alone, starving and without help or hope. Our Lord would never do that. Our Lord would help birthmother and baby to stay together and have both of their needs met.

Adoption is about two things = baby and adoptive parents, and therefore is - in my opinion - self-centered. God wants us to care for birthmom too.

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lighthousejohn said:
There are a lot of studies that show that many adopted kids have social problems due to a feeling of abandonment. They have difficulty with getting close to people so a close personal realationship is hard for them. Some of them have low self-esteem and develop a subserviant attitude towards authority figures. It must be very difficult for them
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Adoptees also make up a large percentage of people in the prison system (40%?) despite being only a small percentage of the general population (4%). They also have difficulties with self-discipline.

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lighthousejohn

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QuestionTime said:
LOL! I'm surprised the opening post in this thread doesn't state: "QuestionTime may not post in this thread, thank-you"

I am adamantly anti-Adoption of course, because our Lord never took babies from birthmothers and gave them to other adoptive mothers and then sent the birthmother away alone, starving and without help or hope. Our Lord would never do that. Our Lord would help birthmother and baby to stay together and have both of their needs met.

Adoption is about two things = baby and adoptive parents, and therefore is - in my opinion - self-centered. God wants us to care for birthmom too.

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What would God do about a mother who was told by her boyfriend, "The brat or me!" She made her choice and ended up dead in a domestic killing. They never got married. What do you think would have happened to my daughter if she had somehow stayed with her mother and her boyfriend

We offered her love and a chance for a much better life than what she had at home. We did not take her from her mother. That decision had already been made. I now have four children and (three by natural birth) and I cannot tell which of the four I love more, but I will always consider my first to be God's "choice" for me.
 
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