How is loneliness while single different from loneliness in marriage?

[Lanolin]

i think with marriage what can happen is if you spend all your time with just one person, your friendships start being neglected, and even more so if maybe your spouse monopolises ALL your time.

For some people, marriage then starts to be a trap, the thing they really wanted, maybe security, becomes like a maximum security prison, nobody ever visits, nobody can go out. You see that in some gated homes, where, its like fort knox to get in and out. You might be living in luxury and have a diamond on your finger, but then your spouse gets paranoid that if you go out, your diamond might get stolen. so they just never let you out. I think a lot of wealthy type trophy marriages are like that.

what ends up happening is these wealthy trophy type marriages end up aither having affairs or having
lots of overseas trips and clothes and jewellery to make up for the sheer lonliness of living in a huge mansion with nothing but servants for company. you are being kept captive, but, thats what marriage is basically.

 

[Lanolin]

I think if you are in that type of arangement, you do your best to be a good host with all the extra guest rooms your mansion might have. Then you wont be too lonely, espeically if you sent your kids to boarding school instead of homeschooling them until they are ready to leave you with a big old empty nest.

 

[CorrectiveLens]

We all know that not all singles and not married couples are lonely. However, people in both groups admit to being lonely. How is being lonely while single different from being lonely while married? Are they different or equally terrible? While everyone's views are welcome, I believe only people who have been both single (living alone) for an extended time and have been in long-term relationships/marriages can offer wise words on this topic.

When a person repents of their sins, turns to God for forgiveness, trusts in God's plan for our salvation through Jesus Christ, and is born again by receiving God's Holy Spirit, he becomes one with the Father and Son. This oneness is illustrated in that the Church ( not the building but the people) is considered to be the bride of Christ. Also, the Holy Spirit of God unites us so that we become part of Jesus' spiritual body and therefore are considered by the Father to be His children. All saints are brothers and sisters. What unites us all is the agape love that we share when God's Holy Spirit fills our hearts with it. The Father, the Son, the Holy Spirit, and all the brothers and sisters in Christ, and we still feel lonely? We are definitely not alone but why are we still feeling lonely?

Even before I got divorced after 17 years of marriage, I realized that we were not a unit and so I had made a decision to devote my life to my two kids. We both had gotten married for the wrong reasons. She loved me but " was not In love with me". I couldn't understand the difference. So, eventually, she decided to part with me looking for something else. We got joint custody of the kids, but they lived with me. I raised them and spent my life providing them with a loving home and being the best father that I could be. They know that I love them and raised them up as Christians with me supporting them and guiding them through the ups and downs in their lives. I've always been there for them not matter what and so I've provided the security blanket that everyone needs when things don't go well. I've always had my mom, dad, and sisters and there families , and my children close by. I'm not lonely because I never had the wife that shared her life with me as a unit and am no longer looking for one. I am very happy with who I am ( thanks to God) and absolutely am not lonely.

I don't know if you have any kids, but if you don't, adopt and devote your life to raising them with love for God and people. You feel lonely, but they are truly alone. If you do have kids, concentrate on them and not on yourself.

 

[Renee]

Meh, life is suffering, anyone who tells ya otherwise is selling you something. I like being alone sometimes, and not so much other times. I'm married, and have been for 25 years now. I can assure you that there are lonely times because I can not burden my wife with some of my personal issues. It is my job to be the protector. I am the man, the husband, the father, this is what God has called me to be, so I bear it. I take up my cross and follow Jesus. I lay my burdens at the feet of Jesus, and then soldier on.[/QUOTE

Thank you for explaining your way of handling your challenges and your emotions, I think that my husband may think similarly to you with regard to not burdening me. The problem for me is that when I watch my husband not express deep emotions I feel left out of his struggles and his life. I would like to have more insight into what my husband is thinking and feeling, but I don’t want to disrupt his way of being.

 

[mindfulzen]

We all know that not all singles and not married couples are lonely. However, people in both groups admit to being lonely. How is being lonely while single different from being lonely while married? Are they different or equally terrible? While everyone's views are welcome, I believe only people who have been both single (living alone) for an extended time and have been in long-term relationships/marriages can offer wise words on this topic.

Being lonely while living in a family is souldestruction. Better to be single and lonely. For the simple fact, that on your own you are not fed negative emotions by others, constantly filling up your cup of hurt. It goes for romantic relationships, family, friends and workplace. If you stay in such envirnoments that strain you, you get dragged down, and you age faster. Getting wrinkles, grey hair, bags under the eyes, etc. .