Husband got mad and shoved me into the counter and cubbard I am calling Abw tomorrow

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
Dec 4, 2017
906
35
0
I understand the advice on here I get it. I have applied for an apartment. I will be talking to the people at abw. I have told friends I trust what is going on people now what has happened and what I am doing to get out of the situation. I also am not seeking pity believe me on that. I don't want pity I seriously want to get out of the circle of crap and get on with life and try to be happy for once. I have a friend staying here now that will not let my husband touch me in anyway or he will take him down.. It is a good friend of both of ours and he knows what is going on as well. For right this moment I am safe and I won't take a place a shelter that someone else may need more then me at the moment. I am not saying that I am taking what happened lightly either I am saying that this circle has gone on for a long while so I know how it works. that is not to say that it can t change but I am praying that God protects me until I am can finish my things to be able t leave safely.
And what has been reported to the authorities(sheriffs office)?
 
D

Depleted

Guest
your advice is welcome you are just trying to help and say how you feel.. It takes courage to escape horrible things and life that leave marks on you forever. I still get angry at myself for things I have and have not done. But I try to look forward and rewrite my pages for the future based off on what I have learned from my past.. But yes if you can try to forgive the past other wise it will destroy your future. Holding onto past pain will eat you up and stop you from achieving many things. Forgiving is not forgetting but it does release your anger when you just forgive. I have written a letter to my mother forgiving her for all the horrible things she did to me. I never even gave it to her I just wrote it out read it and then ripped it up. In my mind I forgave her but it does not mean I forget the pain she has caused me at all.... writing is very helpful write out your feelings etc... then just rip it up burn etc. what ever you have to do.
Warning, forgiving isn't just done once sometimes. It "should" be but we're human, so often take it back. Some times we have to forgive one thing for years, decades. I have forgiven my rapist, and yet still have to forgive them again, whenever I take it back, and honestly? I haven't seen them since and it's 40 years ago. So it's not their problem. It's mine.

I suspect you'll be forgiving your Mom often. :)
 

jenniferand2

Senior Member
Mar 19, 2016
1,433
33
48
I have spent the late half of my adult life questioning everything I do two three sometimes four times. Because of the abuse I suffered when I was younger by my father I have been so unsure of anything I try to decide on. The fact that my mother stopped being a mother when I was 12 destroyed me as Well plus mt father divorced my mom and took off and was barley ever around. I have had so much rejection and abandoment in my life it is no wonder I don't feel safe making choices for myself.
I have tried for many years of therapy and such to rebuild my courage in myself and it is still hard to feel like I am making the right choices about things. The only choice I know is a good choice is rebuilding my relationship with God.
 
Dec 4, 2017
906
35
0
I don't think the Lord takes away fear. Where is courage and where is following anyway, if we fear nothing?

Fear is merely something to ride through while doing it anyway. It's a wave, not a brick wall.
Amen
i wasnt given a spirit of fear, i was left with a state of awe and Reverence for the Angel of the Lord.

Faith

Deuteronomy 31New International Version (NIV)
Joshua to Succeed Moses
Then Moses went out and spoke these words to all Israel:
“I am now a hundred and twenty years old and I am no longer able to lead you. The Lord has said to me,
‘You shall not cross the Jordan.’
The Lord your God himself will cross over ahead of you. He will destroy these nations before you, and you will take possession of their land. Joshua also will cross over ahead of you, as the Lord said. And the Lord will do to them what he did to Sihon and Og, the kings of the Amorites, whom he destroyed along with their land. The Lord will deliver them to you, and you must do to them all that I have commanded you. Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Then Moses summoned Joshua and said to him in the presence of all Israel,
“Be strong and courageous, for you must go with this people into the land that the Lord swore to their ancestors to give them, and you must divide it among them as their inheritance. The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.”

Now when Joshua was near Jericho, he looked up and saw a man standing in front of him with a drawn sword in his hand.
Joshua went up to him and asked,
“Are you for us or for our enemies?”

“Neither,” he replied, “but as commander of the army of the Lord I have now come.”

Then Joshua fell facedown to the ground in reverence, and asked him,
“What message does my Lord[e] have for his servant?”

The commander of the Lord’s army replied,
“Take off your sandals, for the place where you are standing is holy.”

And Joshua did so.
 
D

Depleted

Guest
I understand the advice on here I get it. I have applied for an apartment. I will be talking to the people at abw. I have told friends I trust what is going on people now what has happened and what I am doing to get out of the situation. I also am not seeking pity believe me on that. I don't want pity I seriously want to get out of the circle of crap and get on with life and try to be happy for once. I have a friend staying here now that will not let my husband touch me in anyway or he will take him down.. It is a good friend of both of ours and he knows what is going on as well. For right this moment I am safe and I won't take a place a shelter that someone else may need more then me at the moment. I am not saying that I am taking what happened lightly either I am saying that this circle has gone on for a long while so I know how it works. that is not to say that it can t change but I am praying that God protects me until I am can finish my things to be able t leave safely.
That friend? The guy who gave your hubby what-for during the time you guys were going to move to PA? If that guy, goodie! I feel better.
 

jenniferand2

Senior Member
Mar 19, 2016
1,433
33
48
And what has been reported to the authorities(sheriffs office)?
nothing has been reported to the police if I were to call the police it would make matters fifty times worse. He would go to jail for a day then come home and probably kill me. If you read the entire thread you would have seen why I did not report anything to the police.
 

jenniferand2

Senior Member
Mar 19, 2016
1,433
33
48
That friend? The guy who gave your hubby what-for during the time you guys were going to move to PA? If that guy, goodie! I feel better.

yes that is him lol...he would probably shoot my hubby before he would let him touch me again.
 
D

Depleted

Guest
I have spent the late half of my adult life questioning everything I do two three sometimes four times. Because of the abuse I suffered when I was younger by my father I have been so unsure of anything I try to decide on. The fact that my mother stopped being a mother when I was 12 destroyed me as Well plus mt father divorced my mom and took off and was barley ever around. I have had so much rejection and abandoment in my life it is no wonder I don't feel safe making choices for myself.
I have tried for many years of therapy and such to rebuild my courage in myself and it is still hard to feel like I am making the right choices about things. The only choice I know is a good choice is rebuilding my relationship with God.
Good, since the Lord is the rebuilder, not us. We're just broken jars he's restoring. He is the Kintsugi Master's Master.
 
Dec 4, 2017
906
35
0
nothing has been reported to the police if I were to call the police it would make matters fifty times worse. He would go to jail for a day then come home and probably kill me. If you read the entire thread you would have seen why I did not report anything to the police.
So a simple shove has been escalated to the man you are living with is a murderer.? And you have now invited another friend into the same house that would protect you by shooting your abuser.?

And might i ask, how is it that you have expected to Lie to the Holy Spirit.
 
Dec 4, 2017
906
35
0
nothing has been reported to the police if I were to call the police it would make matters fifty times worse. He would go to jail for a day then come home and probably kill me. If you read the entire thread you would have seen why I did not report anything to the police.
I advise reporting to the authorities(sheriffs office) immediately. Cowering to intimidation and threats on your Life are not the way of a Christian.
 

jenniferand2

Senior Member
Mar 19, 2016
1,433
33
48
So a simple shove has been escalated to the man you are living with is a murderer.? And you have now invited another friend into the same house that would protect you by shooting your abuser.?

And might i ask, how is it that you have expected to Lie to the Holy Spirit.
I have no idea how Am I lying to the Holy Spirit? I am not lying to the holy spirit he knows my situation and where my heart is...
 

blue_ladybug

Senior Member
Feb 21, 2014
70,869
9,601
113
Your reply makes no sense whatsoever...


So a simple shove has been escalated to the man you are living with is a murderer.? And you have now invited another friend into the same house that would protect you by shooting your abuser.?

And might i ask, how is it that you have expected to Lie to the Holy Spirit.
 

blue_ladybug

Senior Member
Feb 21, 2014
70,869
9,601
113
It wasn't a "simple shove". He's been physically abusive to her for quite awhile.. And yes, most abusers would rather kill their wife, rather than have her leave him. And I haven't seen where she's invited ANYONE to come over and shoot him..I think you need to put on your glasses and re-read her posts...

So a simple shove has been escalated to the man you are living with is a murderer.? And you have now invited another friend into the same house that would protect you by shooting your abuser.?

And might i ask, how is it that you have expected to Lie to the Holy Spirit.
 
Dec 4, 2017
906
35
0
It wasn't a "simple shove". He's been physically abusive to her for quite awhile.. And yes, most abusers would rather kill their wife, rather than have her leave him. And I haven't seen where she's invited ANYONE to come over and shoot him..I think you need to put on your glasses and re-read her posts...
My eyes are just fine.
One of the tact.s certain posters use to remain transparent is by using accronyms.
I've encountered these before.

There is no need to get yourself involved in this thread.
There is very little if no honesty being conveyed by the op.

They have only responded to sound judgement with contempt.
And when instructed to go to the Authorities, what was the response.
No,
 
Dec 4, 2017
906
35
0
oh no that is not what I mean I am sorry I just mean I do not want people to turn this thread into a battle zone about who should do what where why when etc... Sometimes threads turn into more of a debate then anything that is what I am trying to stop lol. Your story is more then welcome it is advice that some other person may read... I did not want to make this just about me either I am sorry. my words context sometimes comes out a little wrong... Please continue to post we all learn from everyone. I just want to keep the judgement out of the thread. but the advice part is great or the story about how people have gone about things is great... Thank you
Example above.
I don't recall someone who has genuinely been abused funding time to laugh about such things.
 
Dec 4, 2017
906
35
0
yes that is him lol...he would probably shoot my hubby before he would let him touch me again.
You finding this statement amusing is not even close to being sincere about your faith in The Holy One of Israel.

Readers: Discernment
https://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/Discernment,-Nature-Of
Though ive only recently come to this board(chatroom) a few weeks ago. I will not tolerate wolves creeping in to dissuade the confidence of the Faithful.
 
D

Depleted

Guest
So a simple shove has been escalated to the man you are living with is a murderer.? And you have now invited another friend into the same house that would protect you by shooting your abuser.?

And might i ask, how is it that you have expected to Lie to the Holy Spirit.
I'm really beginning to wonder about your sanity. What murder? And who is lying to anyone?
 
D

Depleted

Guest
Jennifer, don't worry about 777. Everyone else understood what's going on. And laughter? That's a good thing to still have.
 
Dec 4, 2017
906
35
0
Jennifer, don't worry about 777. Everyone else understood what's going on. And laughter? That's a good thing to still have.
Only a sadistic Ba'al worshipper seeks the detriment of their own soul.
And further seeks as many as it can to snare the innocent into their own misery.
If you do not understand.
This practice and relic of the past is promoted by whom exactly?


This instance on the mount is a crucial part of a persons walk with the Lord.
1 Kings 18Complete Jewish Bible (CJB)

18 A long time passed. Then, in the third year, the word of Adonai came to Eliyahu:

“Go, present yourself to Ach’av, and I will send rain down on the land.”

2 When Eliyahu went to present himself to Ach’av, the famine in Shomron had become severe. 3 Ach’av called ‘Ovadyah, who was in charge of the palace. Now ‘Ovadyah greatly revered Adonai; 4 for example, when Izevel was murdering Adonai’s prophets, ‘Ovadyah took a hundred prophets, hid them in two caves, fifty in each, and supplied them with food and water. 5 Ach’av said to ‘Ovadyah, “Go throughout the land, and check all the springs and vadis; maybe we can find grass somewhere, so that we can keep the horses and mules alive and not lose all the animals.” 6 So they divided between them the territory to be visited; Ach’av went one way by himself, and ‘Ovadyah went another way by himself.

7 ‘Ovadyah was on the road when suddenly Eliyahu encountered him. ‘Ovadyah recognized him, fell on his face and said, “Is it really you, my lord Eliyahu?” 8
He answered,
“Yes, it is I; go, tell your master, ‘Eliyahu is here.’”
9 ‘Ovadyah replied, “How have I sinned, that you would hand your servant over to Ach’av to kill me? 10 As Adonai your God lives, there can’t be a single nation or kingdom where my master hasn’t sent to search you out; and in each kingdom or nation where they said, ‘He isn’t here,’ he made them take an oath that they hadn’t found you. 11 Now you say, ‘Go tell your master, “Eliyahu is here.”’ 12 But as soon as I leave you, the Spirit of Adonai will carry you off to I don’t know where; so that when I come and tell Ach’av, and he can’t find you, he will kill me. But I your servant have revered Adonai from my youth — 13 wasn’t my lord told what I did when Izevel killed Adonai’s prophets, how I hid a hundred of Adonai’s prophets by fifties in caves and supplied their food and water? 14 Now you say, ‘Go tell your master, “Look, Eliyahu is here.”’ Why, he’ll kill me!” 15 Eliyahu said, “As Adonai-Tzva’ot lives, before whom I stand, I will present myself to him today.”

16 So ‘Ovadyah went, found Ach’av and told him; and Ach’av went to meet Eliyahu. 17 When Ach’av saw Eliyahu, Ach’av said to him, “Is it really you, you troubler of Isra’el?”
18 He answered, “I haven’t troubled Isra’el, you have, you and your father’s house, by abandoning Adonai’s mitzvot and following the ba‘alim. 19 Now order all Isra’el to assemble before me on Mount Karmel, along with the 450 prophets of Ba‘al and the 400 prophets of the asherah who eat at Izevel’s table.”

20 Ach’av sent word to all the people of Isra’el and assembled the prophets together on Mount Karmel. 21 Eliyahu stepped forward before all the people and said,
“How long are you going to jump back and forth between two positions? If Adonai is God, follow him; but if it’s Ba‘al, follow him!”
The people answered him not a word.
22 Then Eliyahu said to the people,
“I, I alone, am the only prophet of Adonai who is left, while Ba‘al’s prophets number 450. 23 Let them give us two young bulls, and they can choose the bull they want for themselves. Then let them cut it in pieces and lay it on the wood but put no fire under it. I will prepare the other bull, lay it on the wood and put no fire under it. 24 Then, you, call on the name of your god; and I will call on the name of Adonai; and the God who answers with fire, let him be God!”
All the people answered, “Good idea! Agreed!”

25 Then Eliyahu said to the prophets of Ba‘al,
“Choose one bull for yourselves, and prepare it first; because there are many of you. Then call on the name of your god, but put no fire under it.”
26 They took the bull that was given to them, prepared it and called on the name of Ba‘al from morning till noon — “Ba‘al! Answer us!” But no voice was heard; and no one answered, as they jumped around on the altar they had made.
27 Around noon Eliyahu began ridiculing them: “Shout louder! After all, he’s a god, isn’t he? Maybe he’s daydreaming, or he’s on the potty, or he’s away on a trip. Maybe he’s asleep, and you have to wake him up.”
28 So they shouted louder and slashed themselves with swords and knives, as their custom was, until blood gushed out all over them. 29 By now it was afternoon, and they went on ranting and raving until it was time for the evening offering. But no voice came, no one answered, no one paid any attention.

30 Then Eliyahu said to all the people,
“Come here to me.”
All the people came up to him, as he set about repairing the altar of Adonai that had been broken down. 31 Eliyahu took twelve stones, in keeping with the number of tribes of the sons of Ya‘akov, to whom the word of Adonai had come, saying, “Your name is to be Isra’el.”
32 With the stones he built an altar in the name of Adonai. Then he dug a trench around the altar large enough for half a bushel of grain. 33 He arranged the wood, cut up the bull and laid it on the wood. 34 Then he said,
“Fill four pots with water, and pour it on the burnt offering and on the wood.”
They did it.
“Do it again,” he said, and they did it again.
“Do it a third time,” he said, and they did it a third time. 35 By now the water was flowing around the altar, and it had filled the trench. 36 Then, when it came time for offering the evening offering, Eliyahu the prophet approached and said, “Adonai, God of Avraham, Yitz’chak and Isra’el, let it be known today that you are God in Isra’el, and that I am your servant, and that I have done all these things at your word. 37 Hear me, Adonai, hear me, so that this people may know that you, Adonai, are God, and that you are turning their hearts back to you.”

38 Then the fire of Adonai fell. It consumed the burnt offering, the wood, the stones and the dust; and it licked up the water in the trench.
39 When all the people saw it, they fell on their faces and said, “Adonai is God! Adonai is God!” 4
0
Eliyahu said to them, “Seize the prophets of Ba‘al! Don’t let one of them escape!”
They seized them; and Eliyahu brought them down to Vadi Kishon and killed them there.

41 Then Eliyahu said to Ach’av,
“Get up, eat, and drink, because I hear the sound of heavy rain.” 42 Ach’av went up to eat and drink, while Eliyahu went up to the top of the Karmel. He bowed down to the ground and put his face between his knees. 43
“Now,” he said to his servant, “go up, and look out toward the sea.”
He went up, looked, and said, “There’s nothing there.” Seven times he said,
“Go again.”
44 The seventh time, the servant said, “Now there’s a cloud coming up out of the sea, no bigger than a man’s hand.”
Eliyahu said,
“Go up, and say to Ach’av, ‘Prepare your chariot, and get down the mountain before the rain stops you!”

45 A little later, the sky grew black with clouds and wind; and heavy rain began falling; as Ach’av, riding in his chariot, made for Yizre‘el. 46 The hand of Adonai was on Eliyahu; he tucked up his clothing and ran ahead of Ach’av to the entrance of Yizre‘el.


Proverbs 25

If someone who hates you is hungry, give him food to eat;
and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink.

22 For you will heap fiery coals [of shame] on his head,
and Adonai will reward you.
23 The north wind brings rain
and a backbiting tongue, angry looks.


Would you encourage jennifer to be held captive posting thoughts of violence towards another human being.
"That friend? The guy who gave your hubby what-for during the time you guys were going to move to PA? If that guy, goodie! I feel better."

"I'm really beginning to wonder about your sanity. What murder? And who is lying to anyone?"