Husband got mad and shoved me into the counter and cubbard I am calling Abw tomorrow

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Jennifer, don't worry about 777. Everyone else understood what's going on. And laughter? That's a good thing to still have.
Laughter is not What jennifer needs.
Encouragement to do what is right in the eyes of the Lord and raise her voice in prayer to guide her Heart to bring forth a well spring of living waters is what she needs.

[h=1]Psalm 83Complete Jewish Bible (CJB)[/h][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot]83 (0) A song. A psalm of Asaf:[/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot]2 (1) God, don’t remain silent!
Don’t stay quiet, God, or still;
3 (2) because here are your enemies, causing an uproar;
those who hate you are raising their heads,
4 (3) craftily conspiring against your people,
consulting together against those you treasure.
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[FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot]5 (4) They say, “Come, let’s wipe them out as a nation;
let the name of Isra’el be remembered no more!”
6 (5) With one mind they plot their schemes;
the covenant they have made is against you —
7 (6) the tents of Edom and the Yishma‘elim,
Mo’av and the Hagrim,
8 (7) G’val, ‘Amon and ‘Amalek,
P’leshet with those living in Tzor; (Selah)
9 (8) Ashur too is allied with them,
to reinforce the descendants of Lot.
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[FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot]10 (9) Do to them as you did to Midyan,
to Sisra and Yavin at Vadi Kishon —
11 (10) they were destroyed at ‘Ein-Dor
and became manure for the ground.
12 (11) Make their leaders like ‘Orev and Ze’ev,
all their princes like Zevach and Tzalmuna,
13 (12) who said, “Let’s take possession
of God’s meadows for ourselves.”
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[FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot]14 (13) My God, make them like whirling dust,
like chaff driven by the wind.
15 (14) Like fire burning up the forest,
like a flame that sets the mountains ablaze,
16 (15) drive them away with your storm,
terrify them with your tempest.
17 (16) Fill their faces with shame,
so that they will seek your name, Adonai.
18 (17) Let them be ashamed and fearful forever;
yes, let them perish in disgrace.
19 (18) Let them know that you alone,
whose name is Adonai,
are the Most High over all the earth.
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blue_ladybug

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What Jennifer needs, is for YOU to stop being judgemental, presumptuous and assumptive about her situation and her sincerity to God... It is ESSENTIAL for her to maintain a positive mindset during this time, and if that includes laughter, so be it.. And I still don't see where she has invited anyone to kill her hubby OR that she has laughed about doing so. You need to check yourself and make sure you're sinless, before casting stones at others.

Laughter is not What jennifer needs.
Encouragement to do what is right in the eyes of the Lord and raise her voice in prayer to guide her Heart to bring forth a well spring of living waters is what she needs.

Psalm 83Complete Jewish Bible (CJB)

83 (0) A song. A psalm of Asaf:

2 (1) God, don’t remain silent!
Don’t stay quiet, God, or still;
3 (2) because here are your enemies, causing an uproar;
those who hate you are raising their heads,
4 (3) craftily conspiring against your people,
consulting together against those you treasure.


5 (4) They say, “Come, let’s wipe them out as a nation;
let the name of Isra’el be remembered no more!”
6 (5) With one mind they plot their schemes;
the covenant they have made is against you —
7 (6) the tents of Edom and the Yishma‘elim,
Mo’av and the Hagrim,
8 (7) G’val, ‘Amon and ‘Amalek,
P’leshet with those living in Tzor; (Selah)
9 (8) Ashur too is allied with them,
to reinforce the descendants of Lot.


10 (9) Do to them as you did to Midyan,
to Sisra and Yavin at Vadi Kishon —
11 (10) they were destroyed at ‘Ein-Dor
and became manure for the ground.
12 (11) Make their leaders like ‘Orev and Ze’ev,
all their princes like Zevach and Tzalmuna,
13 (12) who said, “Let’s take possession
of God’s meadows for ourselves.”


14 (13) My God, make them like whirling dust,
like chaff driven by the wind.
15 (14) Like fire burning up the forest,
like a flame that sets the mountains ablaze,
16 (15) drive them away with your storm,
terrify them with your tempest.
17 (16) Fill their faces with shame,
so that they will seek your name, Adonai.
18 (17) Let them be ashamed and fearful forever;
yes, let them perish in disgrace.
19 (18) Let them know that you alone,
whose name is Adonai,
are the Most High over all the earth.

 
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What Jennifer needs, is for YOU to stop being judgemental, presumptuous and assumptive about her situation and her sincerity to God... It is ESSENTIAL for her to maintain a positive mindset during this time, and if that includes laughter, so be it.. And I still don't see where she has invited anyone to kill her hubby OR that she has laughed about doing so. You need to check yourself and make sure you're sinless, before casting stones at others.

Oh, do tell more how her safety will be assured in laughing?
 

blue_ladybug

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It will get her through this tough time. AND it will keep her in a positive mindset, and probably keep her from losing her sanity altogether.. If she caves in to tears and depression, she's done for.

Oh, do tell more how her safety will be assured in laughing?
 
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Also, God says to be joyful in ALL things.. That includes our trials, btw.. Being joyful includes laughing.
Trials yes.
If the circumstances are as dire as repetitive abuse, threatening suicide, and more so she fears he will retaliate if she goes to the Police is not a mere simple trial.
The severity of how she has presented her lifes circumstances is not what our Lord would want any of his children to endure for the sake of JOY.

From what you are saying, it sounds as if you would advise her to stay in the situation she is in put a smile on her face and consider it JOY.
NO, Joy will come in Knowing that there are Brothers in Christ out here who care and will offer help.

Praying earnestly for her and hers till the Lord removes the evil ones from her life is a part of my concern. As well as her immediate safety.
And i would encourage her to seek a Congregation nearby tomorrow and let them know what she is going through.
 
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Laughter is not What jennifer needs.
Encouragement to do what is right in the eyes of the Lord and raise her voice in prayer to guide her Heart to bring forth a well spring of living waters is what she needs.
Jennifer has been through hell and laughter is exactly what she needs. She has prayed for clarity of thought in how to proceed. She already has Jesus in her heart so she's all set with that spring of living waters stuff. What's that supposed to mean to someone who is suffering? Doesn't make any sense at all. Laughter is good medicine.
 

blue_ladybug

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Jennifer hasn't threatened suicide. And I've been in the same exact situation as her. My ex got me evicted and when I ended the relationship and told him he wasn't going with me to my new apt, he tried to strangle me.. I get flak on here all the time because I tell physically abused women to leave their abuser.. but one thing NO ONE here will EVER read in any of my posts, is me telling a battered woman to stay and ultimately get murdered.

Laughter is good medicine, as Tourist stated. Jenn is thankful in her trials. Thankful for her kids, for her therapy dogs, for her LIFE and as crappy as it is, she's even grateful for her health. Laughter and a positive mindset can get a person through anything.


Trials yes.
If the circumstances are as dire as repetitive abuse, threatening suicide, and more so she fears he will retaliate if she goes to the Police is not a mere simple trial.
The severity of how she has presented her lifes circumstances is not what our Lord would want any of his children to endure for the sake of JOY.

From what you are saying, it sounds as if you would advise her to stay in the situation she is in put a smile on her face and consider it JOY.
NO, Joy will come in Knowing that there are Brothers in Christ out here who care and will offer help.

Praying earnestly for her and hers till the Lord removes the evil ones from her life is a part of my concern. As well as her immediate safety.
And i would encourage her to seek a Congregation nearby tomorrow and let them know what she is going through.
 
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Jennifer hasn't threatened suicide. And I've been in the same exact situation as her. My ex got me evicted and when I ended the relationship and told him he wasn't going with me to my new apt, he tried to strangle me.. I get flak on here all the time because I tell physically abused women to leave their abuser.. but one thing NO ONE here will EVER read in any of my posts, is me telling a battered woman to stay and ultimately get murdered.

Laughter is good medicine, as Tourist stated. Jenn is thankful in her trials. Thankful for her kids, for her therapy dogs, for her LIFE and as crappy as it is, she's even grateful for her health. Laughter and a positive mindset can get a person through anything.
[h=1]Matthew 421st Century King James Version (KJ21)[/h][FONT=&quot]4 Then was Jesus led up by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]2 And when He had fasted forty days and forty nights, He afterward hungered.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]3 And when the tempter came to Him, he said, “If Thou be the Son of God, command that these stones be made bread.”[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]4 But He answered and said, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God.’”[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]5 Then the devil took Him up into the holy city, and set Him on a pinnacle of the temple, and[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]6 said unto Him, “If Thou be the Son of God, cast Thyself down. For it is written: ‘He shall give His angels charge concerning thee; and in their hands they shall bear thee up, lest at any time thou dash thy foot against a stone.’”[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]7 Jesus said unto him, “It is written again:
‘Thou shalt not tempt the Lord thy God.’”[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]8 Again, the devil took Him up onto an exceeding high mountain, and showed Him all the kingdoms of the world and the glory of them,[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]9 and said unto Him, “All these things will I give Thee if Thou wilt fall down and worship me.”[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]10 Then said Jesus unto him, “Get thee hence, Satan! For it is written:
‘Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and Him only shalt thou serve.’”[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]11 Then the devil left Him, and behold, angels came and ministered unto Him.

Devarim(deuteronomy 6
15 because Adonai, your God, who is here with you, is a jealous God. If you do, the anger of Adonai your God will flare up against you and he will destroy you from the face of the earth. 16 Do not put Adonai your God to the test, as you tested him at Massah [testing].


devarim(deuteronomy 17
14 When you come to the land the Lord your God is giving you and take it over and live in it and then say, “I will appoint a king over me like all the nations surrounding me,” 15 you must without fail select over you a king whom the Lord your God will choose. From among your fellow citizens you must appoint a king—you may not designate a foreigner who is not one of your fellow Israelites. 16 Moreover, he must not accumulate horses for himself or allow the people to return to Egypt to do so, for the Lord has said you must never again return that way. 17 Furthermore, he must not marry many wives lest his affections turn aside, and he must not accumulate much silver and gold. 18 When he sits on his royal throne he must make a copy of this instruction on a scroll given to him by the Levitical priests. 19 It must be with him constantly and he must read it as long as he lives, so that he may learn to revere the Lord his God and observe all the words of this instruction and these statutes in order to carry them out, 20 so that he will not exalt himself above his fellow citizens and turn from the commandment right or left, and so that he and his descendants may enjoy many years ruling over his kingdom in Israel

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Read closely at what the enemy of the Body of Christ would have jenifer do in her circumstances
The person(s) jenifer has around her are the cause of the suffering. And no Where in scripture is there a case where a believe is counseled to tempt the Lord and remain in harms way.
If The Holy Spirit has told jenifer that her Life is in danger, she would do well to listen and not lie to the Holy Spirit.
Refusing to go to the Authorities is one example of someone who would rather take matters into their own hands. And by the tone both you and her have taken. I have good reason to believe it has nothing to do With Christ or fellowship.



Generally speaking, i would like to thank the admins for the 5 min. rule. I see now that there are posters who are intentionally lying. And if the 5 min. rule were not in place they would alter their post.
 
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Matthew 421st Century King James Version (KJ21)

4 Then was Jesus led up by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil.
2 And when He had fasted forty days and forty nights, He afterward hungered.
3 And when the tempter came to Him, he said, “If Thou be the Son of God, command that these stones be made bread.”
4 But He answered and said, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God.’”
5 Then the devil took Him up into the holy city, and set Him on a pinnacle of the temple, and
6 said unto Him, “If Thou be the Son of God, cast Thyself down. For it is written: ‘He shall give His angels charge concerning thee; and in their hands they shall bear thee up, lest at any time thou dash thy foot against a stone.’”
7 Jesus said unto him, “It is written again:
‘Thou shalt not tempt the Lord thy God.’”

8 Again, the devil took Him up onto an exceeding high mountain, and showed Him all the kingdoms of the world and the glory of them,
9 and said unto Him, “All these things will I give Thee if Thou wilt fall down and worship me.”
10 Then said Jesus unto him, “Get thee hence, Satan! For it is written:
‘Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and Him only shalt thou serve.’”

11 Then the devil left Him, and behold, angels came and ministered unto Him.

Devarim(deuteronomy 6
15 because Adonai, your God, who is here with you, is a jealous God. If you do, the anger of Adonai your God will flare up against you and he will destroy you from the face of the earth. 16 Do not put Adonai your God to the test, as you tested him at Massah [testing].


devarim(deuteronomy 17
14 When you come to the land the Lord your God is giving you and take it over and live in it and then say, “I will appoint a king over me like all the nations surrounding me,” 15 you must without fail select over you a king whom the Lord your God will choose. From among your fellow citizens you must appoint a king—you may not designate a foreigner who is not one of your fellow Israelites. 16 Moreover, he must not accumulate horses for himself or allow the people to return to Egypt to do so, for the Lord has said you must never again return that way. 17 Furthermore, he must not marry many wives lest his affections turn aside, and he must not accumulate much silver and gold. 18 When he sits on his royal throne he must make a copy of this instruction on a scroll given to him by the Levitical priests. 19 It must be with him constantly and he must read it as long as he lives, so that he may learn to revere the Lord his God and observe all the words of this instruction and these statutes in order to carry them out, 20 so that he will not exalt himself above his fellow citizens and turn from the commandment right or left, and so that he and his descendants may enjoy many years ruling over his kingdom in Israel



Read closely at what the enemy of the Body of Christ would have jenifer do in her circumstances
The person(s) jenifer has around her are the cause of the suffering. And no Where in scripture is there a case where a believe is counseled to tempt the Lord and remain in harms way.
If The Holy Spirit has told jenifer that her Life is in danger, she would do well to listen and not lie to the Holy Spirit.
Refusing to go to the Authorities is one example of someone who would rather take matters into their own hands. And by the tone both you and her have taken. I have good reason to believe it has nothing to do With Christ or fellowship.



Generally speaking, i would like to thank the admins for the 5 min. rule. I see now that there are posters who are intentionally lying. And if the 5 min. rule were not in place they would alter their post.


Perhaps I missed it,I don't see anyone lying,nor lying to the Holy Spirit.
 

blue_ladybug

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Obviously you're rather ignorant about what happens with domestic abuse. Jenn has already stated more than once, that if she calls the authorities, it will make things 50 times worse. Those are HER words, not mine. She calls the cops, he will kill her. What part of that does your brain not comprehend?

And how dare you call us liars. You are totally ignorant on the subject of domestic violence. You're full of assumptions, false ones, I might add. People who haven't been domestically abused, shouldn't even comment on the subject if they haven't a clue as to what they're talking about.. *hint hint*
 
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Obviously you're rather ignorant about what happens with domestic abuse. Jenn has already stated more than once, that if she calls the authorities, it will make things 50 times worse. Those are HER words, not mine. She calls the cops, he will kill her. What part of that does your brain not comprehend?

And how dare you call us liars. You are totally ignorant on the subject of domestic violence. You're full of assumptions, false ones, I might add. People who haven't been domestically abused, shouldn't even comment on the subject if they haven't a clue as to what they're talking about.. *hint hint*
warring members is your issue.
 
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Perhaps I missed it,I don't see anyone lying,nor lying to the Holy Spirit.
Ive run across a few of these before. Yes, i asked how jenifer expected to Lie to the Ruach Hakodesh(Holy Spirit,
"This is where I get angry at God sometimes."


Jenifer
I am not going to be on her long tonight but just to post this. My husband got mad at me at dinner because I said something to him about I heard him . He said something to me and I didn't do what he said fast enough so he repeated himself and I said I heard you. He then shoved me into the counter and my face hit the cubbard. I am not hurt except for my back. I hurt my back real bad yesterday I was in the emergency room for 6 hours getting pain meds because what ever I did to it messed it up so bad I could barely walk. Anyhow knowing I am still in excruiating pain he shoved me anyways. So I told him we are done he has to move out. So I am hoping and praying he does not try to hurt me while I am sleeping tonight and tomorrow I will go to the abw and see ifvthey will put me up in a hotel with my dogs until I can get him out of the apartment. He was nice the last few weeks when I had money to spend on him and now that he got all the stuff he wanted and knows I used money to pay down bills he is back to being an a hole. So I pray to the lord for protection tonight and that he does not try to hurt me while I am sleeping. Please pray for my protection. I am seriously done. I would rather he killed me then keep living this way anymore. I just hope he is not dumb enough to hurt me because all my friends and my sister have gotten messsges and know what happened and if anything happens to me . He will be the first person that is looked for. God bless all my friends on here.I will get back on as soon as I can to let you all know I am okay...I won't leave any of my caring friends here worry about my safety so I will keep updating you. God bless
Jenifer
yes sir I am near rochester . I have called police on him before when he held me at gunpoint and threaten to commit suicide in front of me and they did nothing at all. I have no faith in the police and calling them now will only piss him off more and he would be out by tomorrow mad as all hell. So i think for now i will just stay locked in the bedroom until tomorrow and then call the battered woman's place and let them know what is going on. I need to find a hotel to stay or something because I do not want to leave my dogs behind with him. I lvoe my dogs way to much they are my comfort and i will not let them go.

Jenifer
My bank account is empty thanks to him. I have 8.00 to my name right now and will not get paid from my new job for three weeks when I am done training.

Jenifer(no call to any help provided,)
Ok so here is today's update I went for my first training day 7 hours non paid and now I can barely move it was a sit down day also so that means my back is not going to be nice to me at all. Which also means the job I really would love to keep probably is a no go. As I sit here about in tears because I hurt so bad. I got home and he is acting like nothing happened last night like always when he does wrong. Lynn was it you that mentioned something about feeding my dogs off 8.00 lol I can't remember if it was you or some one else. Either way I just bought doggy food so they are good with that hehe they eat before I do. They will never go hungry. I also have some stuff I need to return to the store which will give me about 100.00 until the 3rd. I tried finding help before with my dogs when I wanted to leave him last time and no one could or would help. I am sitting down tonight and will try to see what I can do and make a plan of some sort. I do have a friend that would help me with some money but I hate asking but he knows how my husband is so he definitely would do it. I just do not like oweing people money. Then I have to find a place I can afford on my tiny income where I can have my dogs. I think I may have to check out another mobile home park ughh. But my wheels are turning and I have the motion going. I have a friend in Georgia that told me to move there . I just can't afford to go that far. I may see if abw can help me get into a place that goes by income for now. I have to say i am pretty mad it seems like everytime my back acts like it is going behave I try to do something and it messes right back up. It is so annoying and getting me aggervated. I want to work and it is being stupid and not letting me. This is where I get angry at God sometimes. He knows the situation i am in he knows I want to leave and I am to poor to afford anything.he knows I want to work yet he won't make my back better so I can...


Jenifer(going on fifteen yrs now)
I live in rochester new york area and 15 years ago I called the police because he came to my apartment after I left him the first time with a loaded 22 held me hostage in my apartment and threatened to commit suicide in front of me.The cops came took the 22 and did a welfare check on him because by the time they finally got there he had gone back to his ex wifes house. he said he was fine and that was the end of that. I got a restraining order placed on him which he ignored he came around spying on me at night anyways. Told me what i had in my car when i stopped to get food etc... hence I have no faith in police and yes if i called them last night he would have been put in jail he would have had a hearing this am and he would have been let lose this afternoon until a hearing could take place then another restraining order would be put on which he would just ignore anyways. So instead of throwing fuel onto a fire already burning I just removed myself from his presence came into the bedroom and stayed away from him for the rest of the night. today he acts like nothing even happened. He is sucking up cooking me dinner trying to be nice etc. like every other time he treats me like crap. So after 20 years of his stupid cycle of abuse I know enough to know that if i just shut up and leave him alone I am most often fine . If i continue to harp on him and keep fighting or keep crap going it would be a hurting on me he would get more violent and probably knock me into next week. That is why I just walked away shut up and went to bed. Nothing I can do except stay out of his way after he explodes like that to keep myself safe. He most always calms down realizes he was an a hole and he messed up and then next day he sucks up and trys to make it better like nothing ever happened. but you see I am done with this cycle I can not take it anymore he is destroying my little bit of sanity and happiness i do have. I am going to leave him as soon as I possibly can take my doggies with me and my daughter. I do not hate the guy I hate how he treats me. he can not and will not ever change so I am doing what I have to do to get out of this circle of crap.... he makes me so miserable I just want to end my life most days. I have been stuck for so long because of lack of money and because of my kids not being able to leave with me but now my daughter will be 18 in two weeks and she can go where ever she wants to. I just know that even if we are not together as a couple she will still want to see her dad and spend time with him. So i need to stay on some what good terms with her father so I can keep tabs on my daughter while she is with him hanging out.

Jenifer(and curiously blue lady bug sure knows alot about jenifers personal life)i gues it would be a P.M consulting)
I had to bring him with me this last move I only make 656 dollars a month I can not sustain life with out his income coming in which is why i was trying so hard to hope this part time job would work. it might have worked out okay if I had not ripped something in my back sat afternoon I was bending over the tub washing my hair out and when i stood up something went horribly wrong i could barley walk i was in the er for 6 hours getting shots of dilaudid and it still could not move. I sucked it up and tried my first day of work anyways today and now I am back to not being able to move again sigh.. So i do not think the part time job is going to work out. However if I leave him I did find out i will get my ssi back so my money will go up to a whopping 900.00 a month to live off yeah. 15 years ago when i left i went back to him because i had no support from anyone not my mother not anyone and my mother stole my kids and i went into a psychotic break down I stopped caring about anything so he stuck around and took care of me and cheated on me and treated me like crap but he was there for me I guess if that makes sense. most mothers would say oh my gosh come here i will help you get away from that monster but not my mother she was like yank my kids away and left me high and dry. took me for child support and kept my kids away from me I only got to see them supervised by her.. So i was her little puppet just to be able to see my kids. she could not have pushed me closer to my husband if she had tied us together..






 

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Yes, I DO know more about her situation than most here do, and YES, it's through PM's... You are just intent on proving that she is nothing but a liar and a fraud. I (and no one else) don't see where she has lied, either to us OR to God.
 
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Yes, I DO know more about her situation than most here do, and YES, it's through PM's... You are just intent on proving that she is nothing but a liar and a fraud. I (and no one else) don't see where she has lied, either to us OR to God.
If you want what is best for Jenifer, then tell her to seek help.
And trust in the Authorities.
 
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kaylagrl

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Ive run across a few of these before. Yes, i asked how jenifer expected to Lie to the Ruach Hakodesh(Holy Spirit,
"This is where I get angry at God sometimes."


Jenifer
I am not going to be on her long tonight but just to post this. My husband got mad at me at dinner because I said something to him about I heard him . He said something to me and I didn't do what he said fast enough so he repeated himself and I said I heard you. He then shoved me into the counter and my face hit the cubbard. I am not hurt except for my back. I hurt my back real bad yesterday I was in the emergency room for 6 hours getting pain meds because what ever I did to it messed it up so bad I could barely walk. Anyhow knowing I am still in excruiating pain he shoved me anyways. So I told him we are done he has to move out. So I am hoping and praying he does not try to hurt me while I am sleeping tonight and tomorrow I will go to the abw and see ifvthey will put me up in a hotel with my dogs until I can get him out of the apartment. He was nice the last few weeks when I had money to spend on him and now that he got all the stuff he wanted and knows I used money to pay down bills he is back to being an a hole. So I pray to the lord for protection tonight and that he does not try to hurt me while I am sleeping. Please pray for my protection. I am seriously done. I would rather he killed me then keep living this way anymore. I just hope he is not dumb enough to hurt me because all my friends and my sister have gotten messsges and know what happened and if anything happens to me . He will be the first person that is looked for. God bless all my friends on here.I will get back on as soon as I can to let you all know I am okay...I won't leave any of my caring friends here worry about my safety so I will keep updating you. God bless
Jenifer
yes sir I am near rochester . I have called police on him before when he held me at gunpoint and threaten to commit suicide in front of me and they did nothing at all. I have no faith in the police and calling them now will only piss him off more and he would be out by tomorrow mad as all hell. So i think for now i will just stay locked in the bedroom until tomorrow and then call the battered woman's place and let them know what is going on. I need to find a hotel to stay or something because I do not want to leave my dogs behind with him. I lvoe my dogs way to much they are my comfort and i will not let them go.

Jenifer
My bank account is empty thanks to him. I have 8.00 to my name right now and will not get paid from my new job for three weeks when I am done training.

Jenifer(no call to any help provided,)
Ok so here is today's update I went for my first training day 7 hours non paid and now I can barely move it was a sit down day also so that means my back is not going to be nice to me at all. Which also means the job I really would love to keep probably is a no go. As I sit here about in tears because I hurt so bad. I got home and he is acting like nothing happened last night like always when he does wrong. Lynn was it you that mentioned something about feeding my dogs off 8.00 lol I can't remember if it was you or some one else. Either way I just bought doggy food so they are good with that hehe they eat before I do. They will never go hungry. I also have some stuff I need to return to the store which will give me about 100.00 until the 3rd. I tried finding help before with my dogs when I wanted to leave him last time and no one could or would help. I am sitting down tonight and will try to see what I can do and make a plan of some sort. I do have a friend that would help me with some money but I hate asking but he knows how my husband is so he definitely would do it. I just do not like oweing people money. Then I have to find a place I can afford on my tiny income where I can have my dogs. I think I may have to check out another mobile home park ughh. But my wheels are turning and I have the motion going. I have a friend in Georgia that told me to move there . I just can't afford to go that far. I may see if abw can help me get into a place that goes by income for now. I have to say i am pretty mad it seems like everytime my back acts like it is going behave I try to do something and it messes right back up. It is so annoying and getting me aggervated. I want to work and it is being stupid and not letting me. This is where I get angry at God sometimes. He knows the situation i am in he knows I want to leave and I am to poor to afford anything.he knows I want to work yet he won't make my back better so I can...


Jenifer(going on fifteen yrs now)
I live in rochester new york area and 15 years ago I called the police because he came to my apartment after I left him the first time with a loaded 22 held me hostage in my apartment and threatened to commit suicide in front of me.The cops came took the 22 and did a welfare check on him because by the time they finally got there he had gone back to his ex wifes house. he said he was fine and that was the end of that. I got a restraining order placed on him which he ignored he came around spying on me at night anyways. Told me what i had in my car when i stopped to get food etc... hence I have no faith in police and yes if i called them last night he would have been put in jail he would have had a hearing this am and he would have been let lose this afternoon until a hearing could take place then another restraining order would be put on which he would just ignore anyways. So instead of throwing fuel onto a fire already burning I just removed myself from his presence came into the bedroom and stayed away from him for the rest of the night. today he acts like nothing even happened. He is sucking up cooking me dinner trying to be nice etc. like every other time he treats me like crap. So after 20 years of his stupid cycle of abuse I know enough to know that if i just shut up and leave him alone I am most often fine . If i continue to harp on him and keep fighting or keep crap going it would be a hurting on me he would get more violent and probably knock me into next week. That is why I just walked away shut up and went to bed. Nothing I can do except stay out of his way after he explodes like that to keep myself safe. He most always calms down realizes he was an a hole and he messed up and then next day he sucks up and trys to make it better like nothing ever happened. but you see I am done with this cycle I can not take it anymore he is destroying my little bit of sanity and happiness i do have. I am going to leave him as soon as I possibly can take my doggies with me and my daughter. I do not hate the guy I hate how he treats me. he can not and will not ever change so I am doing what I have to do to get out of this circle of crap.... he makes me so miserable I just want to end my life most days. I have been stuck for so long because of lack of money and because of my kids not being able to leave with me but now my daughter will be 18 in two weeks and she can go where ever she wants to. I just know that even if we are not together as a couple she will still want to see her dad and spend time with him. So i need to stay on some what good terms with her father so I can keep tabs on my daughter while she is with him hanging out.

Jenifer(and curiously blue lady bug sure knows alot about jenifers personal life)i gues it would be a P.M consulting)
I had to bring him with me this last move I only make 656 dollars a month I can not sustain life with out his income coming in which is why i was trying so hard to hope this part time job would work. it might have worked out okay if I had not ripped something in my back sat afternoon I was bending over the tub washing my hair out and when i stood up something went horribly wrong i could barley walk i was in the er for 6 hours getting shots of dilaudid and it still could not move. I sucked it up and tried my first day of work anyways today and now I am back to not being able to move again sigh.. So i do not think the part time job is going to work out. However if I leave him I did find out i will get my ssi back so my money will go up to a whopping 900.00 a month to live off yeah. 15 years ago when i left i went back to him because i had no support from anyone not my mother not anyone and my mother stole my kids and i went into a psychotic break down I stopped caring about anything so he stuck around and took care of me and cheated on me and treated me like crap but he was there for me I guess if that makes sense. most mothers would say oh my gosh come here i will help you get away from that monster but not my mother she was like yank my kids away and left me high and dry. took me for child support and kept my kids away from me I only got to see them supervised by her.. So i was her little puppet just to be able to see my kids. she could not have pushed me closer to my husband if she had tied us together..







Still don't see lying on her part.Nor lying to the Holy Spirit. She said she was upset with God. Like God doesn't know our thoughts anyway. Ive asked God why many times,so what? Lady Blue {bug} knows the situation better.So Jen has a friend she can reach out to. I dont know her life.Women put up with abuse for years usually before they make the break to freedom. We all support her the best we can.Bt none of us can make decisions for her. Thats up to her.But running her down sure isn't going to help her either.
 

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I HAVE told her to seek help, we've all told her. Both on this thread and her various other ones..

If you want what is best for Jenifer, then tell her to seek help.
And trust in the Authorities.
 
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I HAVE told her to seek help, we've all told her. Both on this thread and her various other ones..
777p has already proven himself to be a self righteous hypocrite in other threads. I wouldn't even acknowledge his bantha fodder.