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Plus OP said there were some issues they needed to deal with. Its not just dry and boring. Or everyday. Every marriage gets monotonous. That's when you stop and make actual time with each other with zero distractions.
OP said....Mr says all kinds of things that hurt deeply. That's not fixed with spice.
OP said....Mr says all kinds of things that hurt deeply. That's not fixed with spice.
Living in the past never solves anything. Striving for good in the future is what heals relationship. Learning from the past and conducting yourself differently in the present is what heals. Your talking to a guy who has spent countless hours and thousands upon thousands of dollars in a counselors chair. All the marriage counseling....wasted time and resources. Personal counseling with a trained counselor who loves jesus working on yourself is where its at.
It works for very few....you know how I know? Because the guy I know who has met with thousands of couples at this stage told me so. People who go to marriage counseling are typically and usually trying to fix the other person. It never works...ever....to fix anyone but yourself.... and when a person approaches marriage counseling from the point of view of fixing the other person...it makes it worse and 9 times out of 10 ends up in divorce court.
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The way I see it, the best shot Kris has at waking her hubby up from his dark cloud is changing her own attitude about herself and him, getting a bounce in her step and a zest for life, being kind and gracious, assertive, honest and as unemotional as she can muster under relational stress with him....and playful.
If that doesn't wake him up to get on board....well....I don't know what to say.
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Start here:
In what way(s) does he feel like you do not support him? And --- not backing him up on what [ kind of things ] exactly?
Are you a stay-at-home wife-and-mom, or do you work a job outside the home?
Are you certain that he is not experiencing any "male problems" ( anything from impotence to concerns about prostate cancer - anything - "anything at all" - "anywhere in the spectrum" )?
Is he a Christian?
In what way(s) does he feel like you do not support him? And --- not backing him up on what [ kind of things ] exactly?
Are you a stay-at-home wife-and-mom, or do you work a job outside the home?
Are you certain that he is not experiencing any "male problems" ( anything from impotence to concerns about prostate cancer - anything - "anything at all" - "anywhere in the spectrum" )?
Is he a Christian?
I am thinking that there may be a 'root' issue underlying that issue...
if you're not scaring the cat you ain't doing it right.
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