Hello Everyone,
As I've mentioned in other threads, I am currently a member of two online Christian dating sites (I know many are opposed to online dating but I know several other Christians who have had success using these mediums, so my purpose here is not to debate online dating.)
Rather, here is the situation I find myself in continually--it is almost always men who are 50 and older who try to contact me. Just recently, there was one who was 66 who sent me 2 emails, 3 "smiles", and tried to instant message me twice while I was online.
All of them tell me the same thing: "You're Asian, and Asian women are always more respectful and submissive." "I need a young lady in my life to keep me feeling young." "A beautiful young woman by my side makes me look good."
Notice the basic summary here: "I want these things in a woman because she'll submit to ME and make ME look good." Is it just me, or is this incredibly selfish, especially for supposed Christian men? Does the Bible not say we are to love and SERVE each other, most especially our spouse?
I see beautiful, gorgeous, wise, and incredibly attractive women in their 40's, 50's, and 60's being passed by on these sites (and talking about it in the chat rooms) because the majority of men their age all want someone my age or younger (I would actually be considered old... a lot of them want 25-year-olds.) It makes me very sad for these women because here they are, 20, 30, and however many years more beautiful than I am, but hopefully God is putting me on the path to become as pretty as they are!
It had gotten to be so bad that I always put specifically in my profile that I am only interested in my own age range (up to about 45) and that, "Because I know God has made a woman as a helpmate, I have asked Him for the one I will be happy serving for the rest of my life. This is just an opinion, but a man 20-30 years older than I am will most likely be called home much sooner and will be unable to fulfill the marriage vow he has made before God to lead, provide for, and protect his new family."
And, let's be real here. Although I realize 40 is creeping up on me in only a few more moons... I would like to think I still have a chance at several happy years of marriage... and a God-pleasing, married sex life that doesn't involve drugs or medical apparatuses, because the obvious thought on a lot of these guys' mind is: "I'm going to get me some hot action with a younger women to make me feel good and make me look good in front of others and I'll just slap the premise of my supposed Christian faith all over it to justify my own interests."
I always have to fight the urge to shout, "I am NOT part of the senior dating pool, nor am I interested in being your Asian slave girl! What are you thinking!!??"
For the record, my 92-year-old Grandpa is dating a woman who is 65, only a few years older than my Mom (his daughter), so some may see me as a hypocrite... but their relationship is more like a good friendship... she has no interest in marrying him and he knows that. And if they did get married, he would see she was provided for even after he was gone.
Perhaps I am just being too harsh?
What are your thoughts? Experiences? Observations?
