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I'm not judging you, but honestly you need to get on birth control is you're just going to go around having kids with different dudes. If you really feel you're ready to settle down and even want more children, pray for the answer but don't let anything get in the way of love. If you want to raise your kids by taking them to church every Sunday that's up to you but if he agrees to adopt them maybe he'll want them to be atheists. You should really discuss this with him and leave your family out of it as at the end of the day it's the couples discision.
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Sorry but I did not go around having kids with different dads.. I've only had a couple of partners. And they where very long term and I was left with my youngest. I don't need to be on birth control now as I'm saved and not having sex as I'm not married.. I'm very offended at the way you wrote that. Sounds like you think my kids came from 1 night stands or something. They both came from love actually.. And he does believe in God.. He's just not saved..
It doesn't matter how many partners you've had. The fact is, you DO have kids with different fathers. Anyhow, the bible says not to be unequally yoked to unbelievers. This guy may believe in God, but he's not saved. I would definitely rethink getting married to him and break off the engagement before it's too late.
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Hi I would love to help you with this question in the way Paul in the Bible explains it to us. From your story I guess that you were together with your fiancee before you became a Christian. If you came together as husband and wife before you became a Christian than in God's eyes you are married to him. Let me explain with scripture first Corinthians 7 verse 10 until 21. If you were called in this situation than remain if you want. In another part is say's that if we come to Christ all things of the old will be washed away and forgiven and Christ set us free from our old life. That life that you had with your former partners from former realtionships is gone like your former sins. You are a new creation the old has gone the new has come so the partner you had (your fiancee) in the time you came to the Lord is your husband because that was the state God called you in on that moment. So if you want you are free to stay with him as scripture states. Read it for yourself it is very clear in this scripture. Don't feel you sin because you spiritually were married to the last sexual partner you had for the Lord and in scripture it says that he is sanctified through you. I know he is not born again but he clearly wants to stay with you so please do this in prayer and read what the Bible suggests and together with the Holy Spirit you can make a decision in your heart. Praise God for your children who will be able to pray for him as well and if you make a choice don't let it be out of quilt but out of a knowing that you are free in Christ and that for the Lord you were called in this situation as you were (spiritually already married with this man). Now it is a choice of him and you if you want to stay together. There is no condemnation in this stage because you chose for him before you became a Christian. And you stayed pure after you became a Christian. Well done lovely sister. So know that you are free in this case and you gave your life and all that belongs to you to the Lord. So be assured that the freedom of choice and the help of the father is on your side. Whatever others say tell them about this scripture. You were not alone without a partner when you came to the Lord. Read it in different translations to make sure you understand it well. And use this to those who want to make you feel quilty. That the peace and freedom in Christ will make you strong and wise. God bless your sister in Christ Natascha.
I'm just looking out for you as most guys don't want to date a girl who has kids from other men, especially if they can't have sex with her either unless they marry her. The fact that you managed to find a guy who is willing to do both and he's not even a Christian is even more rare. I'd say he's a keeper.
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Hi Stephanie, you really sound committed and on fire for the Lord! That is beyond awesome!!
My 2cents... unless you are INCREDIBLY strong in your faith... you know what needs to happen.
Life as it is, is crazy enough and ANY inch the devil can get he's going to take! I assure you of that.
That isn't to say you have to toss him to the side however, ideally (which is always easy to say right) - break off your romantic relationship and tell him you will be happy to stay friends (No... not FWB) - but until he commits fully to Jesus you simply can't be with him.
Tell him it would be too difficult having a force in your lives (kids always come first!) pulling the wrong way. And he may be the best person on earth! But believe me, satan WILL take advantage of this situation... and yes, you may survive.... no one can say for sure... but you are at the fork in the road right now! You must choose...
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My 2cents... unless you are INCREDIBLY strong in your faith... you know what needs to happen.
Life as it is, is crazy enough and ANY inch the devil can get he's going to take! I assure you of that.
That isn't to say you have to toss him to the side however, ideally (which is always easy to say right) - break off your romantic relationship and tell him you will be happy to stay friends (No... not FWB) - but until he commits fully to Jesus you simply can't be with him.
Tell him it would be too difficult having a force in your lives (kids always come first!) pulling the wrong way. And he may be the best person on earth! But believe me, satan WILL take advantage of this situation... and yes, you may survive.... no one can say for sure... but you are at the fork in the road right now! You must choose...
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I want to encourage you once again not to listen to certain posters in here. Who you've had a relationship with is no ones business. You are a Christian now and that is under the blood. God doesn't remember your past so don't let others keep bringing it up to make you feel bad. You have the call of God on your life. Ask Him what you should do in this situation and listen carefully. He will work in your life,but sometimes we have to let go of some things or people that aren't in His plan for us. God will lead you because you are open to His will. Don't get discouraged,follow Him. 
Amen...you hold onto that word from the Lord that He gave to you honey...'Be still and know that I am God' ...one of the cool things about our Lord is that He loves us dearly and He lives outside of time.
He has gone into your future and has come back to give you His word that you will need to get you where He sees you in your future. Hold onto that word like a dog on a bone. meditate on it...speak it to yourself...talk to your Lord about it...."how do I do this Lord?".." How do I be still?....How do I get to know you better? "...just be real with Him and He will be real to you.
He loves you fiercely and you are His absolute favorite. He just loves to just hang with you! All is well!.......
He has gone into your future and has come back to give you His word that you will need to get you where He sees you in your future. Hold onto that word like a dog on a bone. meditate on it...speak it to yourself...talk to your Lord about it...."how do I do this Lord?".." How do I be still?....How do I get to know you better? "...just be real with Him and He will be real to you.
He loves you fiercely and you are His absolute favorite. He just loves to just hang with you! All is well!....
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