In a quandary update

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Homewardbound

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Back in early January, I posted about being in a quandary about what to do about a friend who makes bad relational choices (January 6th in the Family Forum).
My friend did what we expected. He started in complaining again (3-4-weeks after marrying a woman he met online, but not but a day or so in person).
I told him I wasn't going there again, and if it is that bad, to seek professional help. I did say "I told you so", but I must confess, it didn't feel good.
I kind of feel sorry for him, but in a lot of ways, I just don't. He picked his path, now he has to figure out how to best follow that path.
I do not wish him ill. He IS my friend, and will always be. But he need wisdom when it comes to relationships.
 

Dino246

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It's hard to accept that we can't "fix" other people... or their problems. I have a friend who makes rash decisions with money and relationships... repeatedly. Sometimes the most effective response is to leave them in their mess. It hurts to see them suffer, but if you have told them the truth, and they haven't listened, it's on their heads. Don't carry it. Just pray for your friend and speak wisdom as you have opportunity. The Lord can redeem some very hopeless situations. :)
 
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Back in early January, I posted about being in a quandary about what to do about a friend who makes bad relational choices (January 6th in the Family Forum).
My friend did what we expected. He started in complaining again (3-4-weeks after marrying a woman he met online, but not but a day or so in person).
I told him I wasn't going there again, and if it is that bad, to seek professional help. I did say "I told you so", but I must confess, it didn't feel good.
I kind of feel sorry for him, but in a lot of ways, I just don't. He picked his path, now he has to figure out how to best follow that path.
I do not wish him ill. He IS my friend, and will always be. But he need wisdom when it comes to relationships.
Just pray for him...
 

Homewardbound

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Dec 10, 2018
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It's hard to accept that we can't "fix" other people... or their problems. I have a friend who makes rash decisions with money and relationships... repeatedly. Sometimes the most effective response is to leave them in their mess. It hurts to see them suffer, but if you have told them the truth, and they haven't listened, it's on their heads. Don't carry it. Just pray for your friend and speak wisdom as you have opportunity. The Lord can redeem some very hopeless situations. :)
Yes indeed, I do pray for him, and I stay out of his business.
The Lord has my friend in His hands, I know that much.
Yet it still makes me shake my head....
 

Didymous

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I married a Christian woman who lived alone for seven years-twice! She was /2 biker, 1/2 cowgirl, 1/2 hippie, and a little crazy. That was wonderful and terrible at the same time. Then I married an unbeliever, and things got really bad! I hope your friend figures things out, and that I do, too.