Is bad to not want children?

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ArtsieSteph

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You can hit the disagree button all you want, it doesn't change the truth just because your feelings don't like it. This is truly a "forgive them Father for they know not what they do" issue.
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Sister, you really do not want to reach the age when you are unable to have children and realize that you should have. This regret ruins a lot of women. It's very tragic and sad and completely unavoidable. Don't fall for the BIG LIE and then end up forty, alone, with nothing but a career and cats.

God and family are all we have.
 
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I don't think there is anything wrong in saying, "I don't want children." Personally, I think children are great and beautiful, some suffer needlessly.

I have been there. I've been the one to say, "I don't want kids" not because I'm going against any "natural order of things" in some cases, if anything, I think men do go against the natural order of things by being abusive and well I can list many things but rather not.

I have one daughter, whom I've practically raised on my own and I can say that I don't want more kids for various reasons but here are some just to name a few.

1. I think there will be a lot of suffering in the near future.
2. Financial reasons.

I'm sure there are many reasons why people don't want to have kids but not all motives are due to selfishness. Mainly, for me it would have to be that I have yet to meet a man that I am willing to carry or bring their child to life. I'm also probably not mentally emotionally and physically stable to take on another child. So simply saying, "I don't want kids" is not a sin.

Furthermore, God has the last say. The Bible does say that it is a gift to be a mother and if he thinks I can again then I will in his time.
 

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As I mentioned before, I got really depressed when I turned 30 because I was very single, which meant not having children. The Lord helped me through that patch in life, and I was content being single and not having children.

Now, I’m married and 36 yrs old. Having children isn’t a priority. Hubby and I agreed if we get pregnant, praise God. If we don’t, praise God.
 
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I don't think there is anything wrong in saying, "I don't want children." Personally, I think children are great and beautiful, some suffer needlessly.

I have been there. I've been the one to say, "I don't want kids" not because I'm going against any "natural order of things" in some cases, if anything, I think men do go against the natural order of things by being abusive and well I can list many things but rather not.

I have one daughter, whom I've practically raised on my own and I can say that I don't want more kids for various reasons but here are some just to name a few.

1. I think there will be a lot of suffering in the near future.
2. Financial reasons.

I'm sure there are many reasons why people don't want to have kids but not all motives are due to selfishness. Mainly, for me it would have to be that I have yet to meet a man that I am willing to carry or bring their child to life. I'm also probably not mentally emotionally and physically stable to take on another child. So simply saying, "I don't want kids" is not a sin.

Furthermore, God has the last say. The Bible does say that it is a gift to be a mother and if he thinks I can again then I will in his time.
Why do women always feel the need to chime into these topics with a bunch of whataboutery regarding men? This has nothing to do with "abusive men". If anything this MAN is trying to help women not make a grave mistake when they are young and naive that they will regret later in life. It's not helpful for you to put your anxieties on someone else. Single mothers are another issue and one that needs attention but there are WAY MORE GOOD MEN OUT THERE THAT WANT TO BE GOOD HUSBANDS AND FATHERS then there are the few that have maybe come across your path...
 
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And you'll notice that not having children is only pushed in white christian countries. Why do you think that is? our birth rates are already plummeting and in third world countries the birth rate is astronomical. You're falling for propaganda if you choose to not have children. Not being able to is a different story. If I was on a date and a woman said she doesn't WANT children I would politely get up and leave.

Here is a propaganda poster in London urging white people to get STERILIZED!

View attachment 207438 EVIL!
I do agree though that there is an agenda to sterilize people they don't consider "worthy" for a good while now. Eugenics has been around for some time, many so called elite have funded for such research and experiments. The food we eat, medicine and many other things that we consume has been with the sole purpose to sterilize humanity. And no it's not a conspiracy. :rolleyes:
 
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Why do women always feel the need to chime into these topics with a bunch of whataboutery regarding men? This has nothing to do with "abusive men". If anything this MAN is trying to help women not make a grave mistake when they are young and naive that they will regret later in life. It's not helpful for you to put your anxieties on someone else. Single mothers are another issue and one that needs attention but there are WAY MORE GOOD MEN OUT THERE THAT WANT TO BE GOOD HUSBANDS AND FATHERS then there are the few that have maybe come across your path...
I was only pointing out that in some cases, if men actually did the role of Godly men, some women would actually want to carry their children.

I wasn't putting my anxieties on anyone, I was just sharing my experiences and pointing out that your statement of not trusting women was baseless because there are many motives and reasons why a woman wouldn't want to have kids having nothing to do with her character.

Additionally, my single parenting or abusive relationships was not the message I was addressing but thank you for pointing that out.
 

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Sister, you really do not want to reach the age when you are unable to have children and realize that you should have. This regret ruins a lot of women. It's very tragic and sad and completely unavoidable. Don't fall for the BIG LIE and then end up forty, alone, with nothing but a career and cats.

God and family are all we have.
What if you can't find a good enough man to marry? What if you can't afford children? What if you are sick and might not be able to conceive? I suffer from all the above.
I would rather be alone with my cats and a good career than to have babies with a man who's going to leave me or mistreat us. Then I can travel and take care of my parents.
Plus my brother loves kids and will probably have them. I'll just be the cool aunt that buys them sweet gifts. :giggle::LOL:
 
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I was only pointing out that in some cases, if men actually did the role of Godly men, some women would actually want to carry their children.

I wasn't putting my anxieties on anyone, I was just sharing my experiences and pointing out that your statement of not trusting women was baseless because there are many motives and reasons why a woman wouldn't want to have kids having nothing to do with her character.

Additionally, my single parenting or abusive relationships was not the message I was addressing but thank you for pointing that out.
OP is just a millennial musing about not wanting children because reasons. It's a bad mindset which will hurt her in the long run, you are older and are projecting your experiences on to her. Experiences, she can avoid if she makes the right choices. If she wants to find a good man and not be alone, she needs to understand that not wanting kids will make many good men not trust her.
 
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What if you can't find a good enough man to marry? What if you can't afford children? What if you are sick and might not be able to conceive? I suffer from all the above.
I would rather be alone with my cats and a good career than to have babies with a man who's going to leave me or mistreat us. Then I can travel and take care of my parents.
Plus my brother loves kids and will probably have them. I'll just be the cool aunt that buys them sweet gifts. :giggle::LOL:
This is terrible advice and I already said that women who cannot conceive are not applicable to my position.
 
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OP is just a millennial musing about not wanting children because reasons. It's a bad mindset which will hurt her in the long run, you are older and are projecting your experiences on to her. Experiences, she can avoid if she makes the right choices. If she wants to find a good man and not be alone, she needs to understand that not wanting kids will make many good men not trust her.
I'm only 4 years older :/ i'm not that old and idk if that is entirely true but I won't say anything cause then you'll say something else about me.
 
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Forgive them Father for they know not what they do
 

LittleMermaid

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OP is just a millennial musing about not wanting children because reasons. It's a bad mindset which will hurt her in the long run, you are older and are projecting your experiences on to her. Experiences, she can avoid if she makes the right choices. If she wants to find a good man and not be alone, she needs to understand that not wanting kids will make many good men not trust her.
I'm curious now...what are some things that women can do to make themselves more appealing to good men?
 
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Lol literal cat ladies are downvoting my posts. What a timeline!
 
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Lol literal cat ladies are downvoting my posts. What a timeline!
I'm not really an animal person, though I've been around many. And I didn't disagree with you. I just said that your reason to not trust a woman based on that was invalid.
 
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well you can lead a cat lady to milk but you can't make her drink i guess 😂
 

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I know it’s like how God populates the world and kids raised by Christian parents are a good thing for possible future believers but...do I HAVE to have kids? Is it ok that I don’t want any?

I have a coworker who was talking about her daughter giving her grand babies and that when someone else hadn’t it was like the kid OWED them grandchildren. Like really?

I know it’s a millennial thing but am I alone here? Am I wrong in my attitude?
No, you're not wrong. God knows there are people in this world who have children that should have never . I encountered a woman not long ago that was such a person. Abusing her kids in public of all things. Unbelievable.

It is your choice as to whether or not you wish to bear children into this world. If you know yourself well enough to know you do not want to be a mom, so be it. For your one choice there will be countless others who choose otherwise.
In short, yes, it is absolutely OK if you don't want children. No, you do not have to have kids.
None of Jesus Apostles had children. Mary Magdalene did not have children that we know of. And whatever you do, do not let anyone pressure you into it.
I know a woman who did that. Conceded due to pressure from her husbands family. And he wasn't an only child. He has nine sisters and brothers who all have kids.
Let's just say, she should have held to her own will and never had children. They're now about to divorce and the kids are a mess.
 

Whispered

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OP is just a millennial musing about not wanting children because reasons. It's a bad mindset which will hurt her in the long run, you are older and are projecting your experiences on to her. Experiences, she can avoid if she makes the right choices. If she wants to find a good man and not be alone, she needs to understand that not wanting kids will make many good men not trust her.
To be clear, you are that kind of man. Please do not dare to imagine all men are like what you describe, nor are all men of a mindset toward women as you describe.

It's unfair and arrogant to think you are able to speak for all. You speak of and for yourself only.

Are you single?
 
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To be clear, you are that kind of man. Please do not dare to imagine all men are like what you describe, nor are all men of a mindset toward women as you describe.

It's unfair and arrogant to think you are able to speak for all. You speak of and for yourself only.

Are you single?
Why do you want women to be unhappy?