Is being a submissive wife really taboo?

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WolfGaming

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so by saying that you don't mean I don't know much help me understand what your intent was by saying that?
 

mystdancer50

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so by saying that you don't mean I don't know much help me understand what your intent was by saying that?
Scientifically, a person's brain isn't fully functioning on a cognitive level until their late twenties. I can't find the correct wording, but basically, most teens are unable to see past the 'now' and determine the long term consequences, good or bad, for their actions or lack thereof. I believe this is what the comment made was referring to.

Stage 3: 7 to 22 years

  • The neural connections or ‘grey’ matter is still pruning, wiring of brain still in progress, the fatty tissues surrounding neurons or ‘white’ matter increase and assist with speeding up electrical impulses and stabilize connections. The prefrontal cortex is the last to mature and it involves the control of impulses and decision-making.
  • Therefore, teenagers need to learn to control reckless, irrational and irritable behavior. Avoiding drugs, alcohol, smoking, unprotected sex and substance abuse.
  • http://nancyguberti.com/5-stages-of-human-brain-development/
 
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Scientifically, a person's brain isn't fully functioning on a cognitive level until their late twenties. I can't find the correct wording, but basically, most teens are unable to see past the 'now' and determine the long term consequences, good or bad, for their actions or lack thereof. I believe this is what the comment made was referring to.

Stage 3: 7 to 22 years

  • The neural connections or ‘grey’ matter is still pruning, wiring of brain still in progress, the fatty tissues surrounding neurons or ‘white’ matter increase and assist with speeding up electrical impulses and stabilize connections. The prefrontal cortex is the last to mature and it involves the control of impulses and decision-making.
  • Therefore, teenagers need to learn to control reckless, irrational and irritable behavior. Avoiding drugs, alcohol, smoking, unprotected sex and substance abuse.
  • http://nancyguberti.com/5-stages-of-human-brain-development/
so can't understand the hole book of revelashon wow God gives us understanding and you know what you guys can think I am dum I am foolish I am just a kid witch I am all of that but thanks to God now I can be more much more.
 
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so can't understand the hole book of revelashon wow God gives us understanding and you know what you guys can think I am dum I am foolish I am just a kid witch I am all of that but thanks to God now I can be more much more.
You are so right. God gives us what we need to know and when we need it. This isnt a subject you need right now
 

mystdancer50

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so can't understand the hole book of revelashon wow God gives us understanding and you know what you guys can think I am dum I am foolish I am just a kid witch I am all of that but thanks to God now I can be more much more.
You asked for an explanation and I gave you one. If you don't like it, I can't help you. I didn't say it had anything to do with understanding God's word, did I? Nope.

Incidentally:

1. Sentences begin with capital letters.
2. Hole is not the same as whole.
3. It's "Revelation" not revelashon.
4. Puncutation matters.
5. It's dumb, not dum. The 'b' is silent.
6. Witch is a person, "which" is the word you were looking for.

And that is my momentary grammar police moment. :) Every moment is a teachable moment, yes? Don't take these forums too seriously. There are ALWAYS going to be people that argue with you and disagree with you. There will ALWAYS be someone who says something to get your goat, kind of like my grammar moments there. And, yes, you will meet bullies on here. Why? Because we're human and we can become overly passionate when we can argue online. That's the way of life.
 
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so can't understand the hole book of revelashon wow God gives us understanding and you know what you guys can think I am dum I am foolish I am just a kid witch I am all of that but thanks to God now I can be more much more.
If you've given your life to Jesus, and you continue seeking after His ways, you have an exciting future ahead!
 
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Tintin

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so can't understand the hole book of revelashon wow God gives us understanding and you know what you guys can think I am dum I am foolish I am just a kid witch I am all of that but thanks to God now I can be more much more.
No-one here is calling you dumb or foolish. You could be the smartest teenager ever, but the reality still is that you wouldn't be fully developed yet. That's not an attack on you, it's reality. No-one here is knocking your smarts. No-one.
 
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WolfGaming

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Scientifically, a person's brain isn't fully functioning on a cognitive level until their late twenties. I can't find the correct wording, but basically, most teens are unable to see past the 'now' and determine the long term consequences, good or bad, for their actions or lack thereof. I believe this is what the comment made was referring to.

Stage 3: 7 to 22 years

  • The neural connections or ‘grey’ matter is still pruning, wiring of brain still in progress, the fatty tissues surrounding neurons or ‘white’ matter increase and assist with speeding up electrical impulses and stabilize connections. The prefrontal cortex is the last to mature and it involves the control of impulses and decision-making.
  • Therefore, teenagers need to learn to control reckless, irrational and irritable behavior. Avoiding drugs, alcohol, smoking, unprotected sex and substance abuse.
  • http://nancyguberti.com/5-stages-of-human-brain-development/

UNPROTECTEC SEX? WOW look guys sex is ok as long as you where a condom WHAT THE HELL no its not ok sex before marriage is a SIN

Matthew 5:28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart (and that's just with your eys)


Hebrews 13:4Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous



Proverbs 6:32He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself





Ephesians 5:3But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints







chose your words careful so you may not lead someone in to thinking Sex outside of marriage is ok for this is fails.
 
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WolfGaming

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No-one here is calling you dumb or foolish. You could be the smartest teenager ever, but the reality still is that you wouldn't be fully developed yet. That's not an attack on you, it's reality. No-one here is knocking your smarts. No-one.
P.S I am calling my self that I know I can be that way sometimes I felt less attacked when I was acting foolish 24-7 .
 
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WolfGaming

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If you've given your life to Jesus, and you continue seeking after His ways, you have an exciting future ahead!
I must be doing something wrong if you guys could not tell I LOVE GOD I need to try harder to let my light shine a man does not light a candle and hide it under a bush but puts it on a candle stick to bring light to the hole house.
 

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Scientifically, a person's brain isn't fully functioning on a cognitive level until their late twenties. I can't find the correct wording, but basically, most teens are unable to see past the 'now' and determine the long term consequences, good or bad, for their actions or lack thereof. I believe this is what the comment made was referring to.

Stage 3: 7 to 22 years

  • The neural connections or ‘grey’ matter is still pruning, wiring of brain still in progress, the fatty tissues surrounding neurons or ‘white’ matter increase and assist with speeding up electrical impulses and stabilize connections. The prefrontal cortex is the last to mature and it involves the control of impulses and decision-making.
  • Therefore, teenagers need to learn to control reckless, irrational and irritable behavior. Avoiding drugs, alcohol, smoking, unprotected sex and substance abuse.
  • http://nancyguberti.com/5-stages-of-human-brain-development/

Just teenagers?
........highlighed there in red, sounds more like us adults.
 
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Tintin

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UNPROTECTEC SEX? WOW look guys sex is ok as long as you where a condom WHAT THE HELL no its not ok sex before marriage is a SIN

Matthew 5:28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart (and that's just with your eys)

Hebrews 13:4Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous

Proverbs 6:32He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself

Ephesians 5:3But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints

chose your words careful so you may not lead someone in to thinking Sex outside of marriage is ok for this is fails.
Um. I'm not seeing it. Where did she advocate sex outside of marriage?
 

mystdancer50

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UNPROTECTEC SEX? WOW look guys sex is ok as long as you where a condom WHAT THE HELL no its not ok sex before marriage is a SIN

Matthew 5:28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart (and that's just with your eys)


Hebrews 13:4Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous



Proverbs 6:32He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself





Ephesians 5:3But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints







chose your words careful so you may not lead someone in to thinking Sex outside of marriage is ok for this is fails.
Quoted from the internet, hence the link at the end. No one said sex outside of marriage is okay. It was a scientific person stating that this is something teens are in danger of doing. Read the whole thing instead of picking out parts to throw like candy at a parade, buddy. Let's not turn this into a spitting contest, yes?
 

mystdancer50

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I must be doing something wrong if you guys could not tell I LOVE GOD I need to try harder to let my light shine a man does not light a candle and hide it under a bush but puts it on a candle stick to bring light to the hole house.
No one is questioning your salvation or your love for God. What you're doing is being overly sensitive (which is why I said not to take these forums too seriously) and picking out things and assuming things...and we all know what happens when we assume, am I right? :) Just take a step back and breathe. It's fine. No one is attacking anyone here...at least not on purpose. One of the downsides of online forums is that the tone is taken based on how the person is feeling when they read something, not necessarily what the person typing is actually saying or feeling.
 
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Am I the only one here who read Eph 5:22-23? No, it should not be taboo for the wife to be subject to her husband.....however this only will turn out well if he truly loves you as Christ loves the Church. In fact I think about how fantastic it would be if women actually supported their husbands completely. The husbands just might man up and do something mighty if they felt fit to lead instead of lacking courage because even their own wife doesn't have enough confidence in him that he should be respected. Maybe even his kids would follow suit and admire that sort of man. Perhaps they would seek approval from him striving for similar qualities that they revere. Or we can just beat that woman who finds joy in striving to be a Proverbs 31 woman, so we can all go back to castrating the men and boys of today until there is nothing special or sacred about being male anymore.
Yes, of course. You're the only person ever to read those verses. :confused:

And my job isn't to make hubby "man up." He's already a man or he couldn't be a hubby. I'm not out to change him. I'm out to love him and support him. If you're looking to make your hubby a better man -- to fix him -- your marriage is going to get very difficult once you realize you didn't marry the guy you wanted, merely the guy you thought you could fix.
 
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Helper is defined as a person that helps or gives assistance. Equal is defined as the same for each person. Quite clear to me.
I was the Assistant Maintenance Manager. My primary jobs were to make sure the guys knew where they had to go and what they had to fix, and then do the paperwork to make sure they were all set. Then I was the person who called the exterminators, electricians, the locksmith, and HVAC guy. I also managed the phones. I was the guys' boss.

The Maintenance Manager did some of the jobs and he checked on the guys in the field.

So, exactly why was a lesser for helping him? I wasn't. I was helping him.
 
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You asked for an explanation and I gave you one. If you don't like it, I can't help you. I didn't say it had anything to do with understanding God's word, did I? Nope.

Incidentally:

1. Sentences begin with capital letters.
2. Hole is not the same as whole.
3. It's "Revelation" not revelashon.
4. Puncutation matters.
5. It's dumb, not dum. The 'b' is silent.
6. Witch is a person, "which" is the word you were looking for.

And that is my momentary grammar police moment. :) Every moment is a teachable moment, yes? Don't take these forums too seriously. There are ALWAYS going to be people that argue with you and disagree with you. There will ALWAYS be someone who says something to get your goat, kind of like my grammar moments there. And, yes, you will meet bullies on here. Why? Because we're human and we can become overly passionate when we can argue online. That's the way of life.
Seriously people? This is what you've come to? Grammar-shaming a fellow Christian simply because they won't necessarily accede to your view of an idea?

How on earth is this a reflection of mature behavior? How on earth is this a reflection of Godly behavior? His post was perfectly understandable. MOSES...you know...Mr. 10 Commandments, "Set my people free," was anxious about the shame and criticism he'd receive for his speech issues so he opted out of that aspect of his calling.

Doesn't it say in Timothy somewhere not to let people malign you because you are young?

I know I sound like a teacher, but this kind of behavior toward a teen and fellow-Christian does NOT demonstrate Christ, nor does it draw that young person toward Jesus. Would you want to hang out with Christians who shame you because you present a contrary idea and then refuse to bow to the clear authority they presume based on their AGE? And isn't it a bit of arrogance and power-mongering to presume that someone should defer to you just because you are older?

Present a compelling argument that deals with the issues at hand. Don't act like a bully and pick on his age, his grammar, his appearance, his location, his ethnicity, his gender, etc., etc. Part of being adult is moderating emotions and acting rationally.
 
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mystdancer50

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Seriously people? This is what you've come to? Grammar-shaming a fellow Christian simply because they won't necessarily accede to your view of an idea?

How on earth is this a reflection of mature behavior? How on earth is this a reflection of Godly behavior? His post was perfectly understandable. MOSES...you know...Mr. 10 Commandments, "Set my people free," was anxious about the shame and criticism he'd receive for his speech issues so he opted out of that aspect of his calling.

Doesn't it say in Timothy somewhere not to let people malign you because you are young?

I know I sound like a teacher, but this kind of behavior toward a teen and fellow-Christian does NOT demonstrate Christ, nor does it draw that young person toward Jesus. Would you want to hang out with Christians who shame you because you present a contrary idea and then refuse to bow to the clear authority they presume based on their AGE?
Tongue-in-cheek, humor, folks. Sorry that the subtlety of my humor is lost on you, but if you carefully read the post, you'll see that I was showing him that people can take things too seriously, hence the grammar correction, and for him to not take it too seriously, which you just did, too. This is an online forum full of OPINIONS folks. Don't take it too seriously.
 
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Tongue-in-cheek, humor, folks. Sorry that the subtlety of my humor is lost on you, but if you carefully read the post, you'll see that I was showing him that people can take things too seriously, hence the grammar correction, and for him to not take it too seriously, which you just did, too. This is an online forum full of OPINIONS folks. Don't take it too seriously.
Right...it's the kind of humor where you get to shame and insult a person and then get a pass because you were being "funny."

If you want to set a good example for young people, you'll stop engaging in subtle bullying tactics and deal rationally with the topic.

 

mystdancer50

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Right...it's the kind of humor where you get to shame and insult a person and then get a pass because you were being "funny."

If you want to set a good example for young people, you'll stop engaging in subtle bullying tactics and deal rationally with the topic.

Nice. Okay, whelp, since this is turning into the reading into things and accusing forum post, I'll be checking out of it now. I find great irony in the 'you're not loving' beatings we give. "Hi, Kettle. You're black." said Pot. And, no, that isn't a racial slur, just, you know, because that's where you're going to take it.

:) Enjoy your time here. :)