Is is wrong to start a relationship with a person who is separated but not divorced?
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IF YOU KNOW TRUTH (GODS WORD) AND GO AGAINST IT ANYWAY THEN YOU DID SIN ON PURPOSE. YOU CAN ONLY BE FORGIVEN IF YOU REPENT WHICH WOULD MEAN ENDING YOUR MARRIAGE AND THEN ASK FOR FORGIVENESS.YES JESUS DIED ON THE CROSS BUT YOU STILL NEED TO FOLLOW HIS WORD.NOT EVERYONE THAT STANDS IN FRONT OF HIM WILL GO TO HEAVEN.READ YOUR BIBLE
M
wow there is a lot of hate going tonys way on this, it seems that everyone here is very judgemental views on this, bible verse are getting thrown around left , right and centre. i bekieve the bible speaks out about judging others. i am glad that everyone is so in tune with god though thats great obviously he has spoken to each and everyone of you, thats great, or you just opened your mouths and let the dribble flow, the jury is still out on that. and for you who have experience of being lied and cheated on shame on you, where is the compassion for tony, you treat him as the criminal. come on people quit hiding behind the pad answer bible quotes and show the love that god showed you in your time of hurt
I certainly hope that I did not show any hate in my post?
My response was not only about Tony because he was the person married, but also Cathy for getting involved with someone who is still married.
We all have desires of the heart. For some, that is to never be alone and jump at the opprotunity to be with someone that causes us to feel special. BUT, should'nt the greatest desire of our heart be to please the Lord, forsaking all other things as secondary to Him?
Just some thoughts...I certainly hope that they way I worded my post did not offend you, but I do stand behind the intent of what I wrote.
Blessings.
I used to think there was nothing wrong with it until my roommate actually started dating a girl who was separated but not divorced yet. Aside from the fact that she was an insufferable wordIcan'tusehere, the biggest problem came from the fact that she was ready to end her marriage, however her husband, an army man in Iraq, was not ready to end it. And the whole time it went on I warned him if an angry army man came to break down our door because he was after the guy who was sleeping with his wife, I would simply toss him (my roommate) to the husband and say, "Here ya go, please don't shoot me." And the more it dragged on the more you could tell she didn't love him, she was using him to make her husband she kept claiming she was going to leave angry. She kept saying she was going to the courhouse to get the papers started, but she never did. And wouldn't you know it, as soon as her husband came back from Iraq, she decided, "Oh wait, I still love him. Bye!" and moved to another state with him to "start over".
Moral of the story, if you must date someone who has been married, wait till they're actually divorced. It's like the stereotypical stories you see in the movies where someone has an affair with a person who keeps promising, "Oh I'll leave him/her soon and then we will be free to be together!" Never ever believe that line. Whether you have religious issues with it or not, I say dating someone who is only separated but not divorced is a bad bad bad idea.
Moral of the story, if you must date someone who has been married, wait till they're actually divorced. It's like the stereotypical stories you see in the movies where someone has an affair with a person who keeps promising, "Oh I'll leave him/her soon and then we will be free to be together!" Never ever believe that line. Whether you have religious issues with it or not, I say dating someone who is only separated but not divorced is a bad bad bad idea.
This would be my advice to the couple, Don't do it.
I'm wondering why young single people would want to date divorced people anyway. I mean, when you are young and single and had never been married, you have a good chance of marrying someone who has never been married, or at least a widow or widower who'd had a successful marriage 'till death do us part.'
If a man divorces and says it is because his wife cheated on him, it's possible that it is not true. Some people are victims of this sort of thing, plain and simple. But in some cases, a wife cheats when she isn't satisfied with her husband for whatever reason, often emotional and not purely physical. Isn't a divorced person high risk on a number of factors?
I'm wondering why young single people would want to date divorced people anyway. I mean, when you are young and single and had never been married, you have a good chance of marrying someone who has never been married, or at least a widow or widower who'd had a successful marriage 'till death do us part.'
If a man divorces and says it is because his wife cheated on him, it's possible that it is not true. Some people are victims of this sort of thing, plain and simple. But in some cases, a wife cheats when she isn't satisfied with her husband for whatever reason, often emotional and not purely physical. Isn't a divorced person high risk on a number of factors?
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Being someone who recently went through the process of separation and then divorce, I would advise them not to get involved. In my own situation, I just felt that there was a need for my wounds to heal and I wouldn't be able to give myself to a relationship fully anyway. I also believe that until it is official, you are still married and it would be wrong to circumvent any possible reconciliation by jumping into a new relationship beforehand. Even till the end, I held out for an opportunity to reconcile. Probably still will, you never know.
God sets up all authority. you are suppose to act as married until the divorce. If they have any kind of emotional connection they have gone to far. Tony is on the verge of committing the same sin as his wife in his heart. tell tony to flee from sin.
They are not a gift from god to each other but they are a test or a temptation. i have been separated for 3 years. my wife has actually lived with another man. we are still married. I remain faithful to my wife and to god. i have researched the bible and there is absolutely know rule that would allow me to date or commit to another woman. lets see how would Cathy pray? " oh lord, i know you have a covenant with tony and his wife, but please break it so i can have tony. and when you do this thing that is against your laws please bless it so another woman cant get your help to take my husband away from me. NOT NOT NOT..... I AINT GONA HAPPEN....
PS ARE YOU CATHY?
They are not a gift from god to each other but they are a test or a temptation. i have been separated for 3 years. my wife has actually lived with another man. we are still married. I remain faithful to my wife and to god. i have researched the bible and there is absolutely know rule that would allow me to date or commit to another woman. lets see how would Cathy pray? " oh lord, i know you have a covenant with tony and his wife, but please break it so i can have tony. and when you do this thing that is against your laws please bless it so another woman cant get your help to take my husband away from me. NOT NOT NOT..... I AINT GONA HAPPEN....
PS ARE YOU CATHY?
Yes it's wrong.
1Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
Until the divorce is final separated couples should not be seeing nor dating anyone. Yes God hates divorce but we do not know whether there was infidelity involved or not. Anyone commenting on divorce who never experienced it will respond " God hates divorce" simply because it's the ritual righteous thing to say. BUt what they fail to realize is divorce a sin that is qualifies as " all manner of sin" and can in fact be forgiven. BTW divorce is not pre-meditated...it's decided. That being said the divorcees should always consider reconciliation to salvage what little love is left...it will give God the Glory.
Matthew 12:31 Wherefore I say unto you, All manner of sin and blasphemy shall be forgiven unto men: but the blasphemy against the Holy Ghost shall not be forgiven unto men.
1Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
Until the divorce is final separated couples should not be seeing nor dating anyone. Yes God hates divorce but we do not know whether there was infidelity involved or not. Anyone commenting on divorce who never experienced it will respond " God hates divorce" simply because it's the ritual righteous thing to say. BUt what they fail to realize is divorce a sin that is qualifies as " all manner of sin" and can in fact be forgiven. BTW divorce is not pre-meditated...it's decided. That being said the divorcees should always consider reconciliation to salvage what little love is left...it will give God the Glory.
Matthew 12:31 Wherefore I say unto you, All manner of sin and blasphemy shall be forgiven unto men: but the blasphemy against the Holy Ghost shall not be forgiven unto men.
M
I just wanted to say something to the people saying he got over his wife really quick. I've been there, gone through that three times now and am in the middle of it now. A wife's adultery does not only include sex. There are sometimes months or years of reduced or non existent attention to the victimized spouse. He may have stayed through some very hard times that no one else knows about. For him, he hasn't known his wife for a long long time and he owes nothing. He shouldn't get into any kind of immoral relationship with someone he's not married to, but I see no harm in him enjoying the company of someone who can treat him right and help salve his wounded ego.