No, I don't think your marriage should be over, but it sounds like you two could use some help in your marriage.
Matthew 19:9 says,
[SUP]9 [/SUP]And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
I've never been violent with my wife, and I'm against violence in marriage, of course. But I don't believe you should leave your husband over this, or over him having yelled at you.
One of my relatives went to a safehouse because her husband was going through a time of mental instability, not violence, just some scary instability. As a teen, I browsed through some of the literature. One of the brochures said that once a man was violent, he would always be violent. I remember hearing that idea on a talk show, and the idea that all men were 'potential abusers.' From what I've read, none of these ideas are grounded in fact. This is the type of philosophy promoted in some domestic violence charities, often run by Feminists, and radical Feminism influences their definition and understanding of abuse and marriage. Radical Feminism has a much lower view of marriage than traditional Christian thought.
I don't believe a man who hit his wife once has to be stuck in some sort of of mode of abuse for the rest of his life, certainly not if he repents and the Holy Spirit is at work in his life, no more than I believe that a man or woman has to be stuck forever in a life of adultery, fornication, idolatry, homosexual activity, or other sins. I Corinthians 6 says "And such WERE some of you. But now ye are washed...." Also, If any man be in Christ, he is a new creation. Old things are passed away. Behold all things are become new.
Maybe you and your husband could go see a pastor or ask him to recommend a Christian who could counsel you on your marriage. Hopefully, they can give him some advice on how to interact with you in a more peaceful way.
Also, sometimes when relationships start to be characterized by yelling and not getting along, both parties get stuck in a pattern of poor communication, saying things that push the other's buttons, and things like that. As a wife, your duty is to treat your husband with respect/reverence, and to submit to him, as the Bible teaches. IMO, couples who argue frequently do so because either the husband isn't loving his wife as Christ loved the chuch and honoring her as the weaker vessel, or else because the wife is not subject to her husband and not reverencing him properly, or a combination of both. It sounds like he has some things he needs to change, but you could also consider if there are any areas where you could also improve, as a matter of introspection.
Do you have a pastor you can go to for help?
Matthew 19:9 says,
[SUP]9 [/SUP]And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
I've never been violent with my wife, and I'm against violence in marriage, of course. But I don't believe you should leave your husband over this, or over him having yelled at you.
One of my relatives went to a safehouse because her husband was going through a time of mental instability, not violence, just some scary instability. As a teen, I browsed through some of the literature. One of the brochures said that once a man was violent, he would always be violent. I remember hearing that idea on a talk show, and the idea that all men were 'potential abusers.' From what I've read, none of these ideas are grounded in fact. This is the type of philosophy promoted in some domestic violence charities, often run by Feminists, and radical Feminism influences their definition and understanding of abuse and marriage. Radical Feminism has a much lower view of marriage than traditional Christian thought.
I don't believe a man who hit his wife once has to be stuck in some sort of of mode of abuse for the rest of his life, certainly not if he repents and the Holy Spirit is at work in his life, no more than I believe that a man or woman has to be stuck forever in a life of adultery, fornication, idolatry, homosexual activity, or other sins. I Corinthians 6 says "And such WERE some of you. But now ye are washed...." Also, If any man be in Christ, he is a new creation. Old things are passed away. Behold all things are become new.
Maybe you and your husband could go see a pastor or ask him to recommend a Christian who could counsel you on your marriage. Hopefully, they can give him some advice on how to interact with you in a more peaceful way.
Also, sometimes when relationships start to be characterized by yelling and not getting along, both parties get stuck in a pattern of poor communication, saying things that push the other's buttons, and things like that. As a wife, your duty is to treat your husband with respect/reverence, and to submit to him, as the Bible teaches. IMO, couples who argue frequently do so because either the husband isn't loving his wife as Christ loved the chuch and honoring her as the weaker vessel, or else because the wife is not subject to her husband and not reverencing him properly, or a combination of both. It sounds like he has some things he needs to change, but you could also consider if there are any areas where you could also improve, as a matter of introspection.
Do you have a pastor you can go to for help?
