Willie, I may have made a mistake in not letting you have a chance to clarify this comment. So please forgive me, and explain what you meant by the comment in red.
Now, as for some of the other things, there are some stuff I did agree with you on, such as moving out immediately, and handling things legally, and not with violence. That I 100% agree with, and I mentioned this in my original comment that she should.
What I didn't agree with was bashing her for having children out of wedlock before she became a Christian. I don't hold non-Christians to the same standard as Christians, simply because they aren't Christians. When she became a Christian, then yes, she did need to start learning how to become a Christian. But babies don't do Algebra when they are first born. Instead they have to learn the basics.
And yes, I think she should definitely either have married her fiance, or moved out. However, I don't expect her to know everything right away, not even after two years, especially if she did not grow up in the church. I while I think you're right that every parent should grow up and become responsible when they have children, unfortunately, a lot of parents don't know how to do this, because they were never taught. I see this on a daily basis, as I work with children, many who have parents who are not much more then 20 themselves. Those parents were growing up themselves as they were raising they're children. But this is a soap box for another forum.