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CherieR

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I am dating someone right now. I have heard about how God has pointed out " the one" to some people. Right now I am just not sure. What are some ways of having a idea if someone is right for you or not?
 

Dino246

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Congrats!

Take it slow. Ask the Lord for wisdom and insight. Enjoy the moments, but ask the hard questions as well.
 
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Sweetmorningdew78

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Hmm... His faith... You are comfortable with him and trust him. The communication is so smooth... Yeah there are misunderstandings but both of you know how to respectfully disagree and you are both ready to forgive quickly 😊

He is very firm about his intention toward you... :) He respects you. He is looking forward to marry you, and excited to start a life with you :) I am not married but these things are the things I didn't see and failed to see when I was dating my ex...so I wrote it down :)


God bless you sis and I will pray for both of you ❤
 

von1

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Trust your heart and ask God for guidance
 

Dynamaniac

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There are so many things to think about when it comes to marriage. Ask yourself these questions. Are each of you putting God first? Are you loving each other through the love of Jesus. Remember that love is an action (something we do), it's not an emotion (something we feel). Are you intentional in your relationship and making sure that your priorities are fixed in the kingdom? Are you serving each other as Jesus serves us? Are you praying about your relationship? If it is right, God will make sure you know it and you won't have to wonder. The fact that you're even asking the question is a good thing. I pray that God will bless you and your relationship.
 

Solemateleft

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Having faith in God's plan is key, as is having mutual faith in each other. All that being said, "uncertainty" is a bear. It would be nice if there we some sort of litmus test just to confirm our senses. Being able to genuinely tune into watching for his almighty signs via our ability to listen and have faith in our intuitive instincts - is easier said than done. Bottom line there are only three ways to mitigate our struggles with this sort of uncertainty: 1 find patience and strength through our Lord; 2 have them take a compatibility test; 3 simply go camping... Camping always reveals their true colors...
Sorry, there just isn't an easy answer... Enjoy the blessing of this opportunity that the Lord has afforded you to learn via self discovery...
 

Mel85

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I am dating someone right now. I have heard about how God has pointed out " the one" to some people. Right now I am just not sure. What are some ways of having a idea if someone is right for you or not?
Seek God and He will show you through widsom and discernment.

All the best :)
 
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Ugly

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I am dating someone right now. I have heard about how God has pointed out " the one" to some people. Right now I am just not sure. What are some ways of having a idea if someone is right for you or not?
The catch to all these stories is it's easy to hear it because you want to hear it. We've had many come to this site positive god told them to be with someone and then relationship fails. Its happened to me as well.
Some people luck out is all. Because whether the relationship works or not there are Always people in both camps equally confident.
Not to mention the notion of "the one" is entirely fabricated with the idea to reassure lonely people they won't always be lonely. Even if some end up that way.
 

Solemateleft

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One of the key lessons that I have learned thru my failed marriage is: "A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other."
Have to agree 'in-part' with Ugly's sentiment - there does seem to be a bit of arbitrary luck in whether or not 'the one' you select is actually one of those people who is able and willing to 'refuse to give-up on each other.'
I suspect that a fair share of people do not rationalize - until it is too late - that in order for the union to persevere - they need to be willing to concede or to buy into the notion that "it is better to be married, than to be right."
 
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It is important that both of you have common beliefs and principles. The apostle Paul wrote: “Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers.” (2 Corinthians 6:14; 1 Corinthians 7:39) Marriage to someone who does not share your faith in God makes it more likely that there will be severe disharmony. On the other hand, a mutual devotion to God is the strongest basis for unity. God wants you to be happy and to enjoy the closest possible bond with the person you marry. He wants you to be bound to Him and to each other by a threefold bond of love.—Ecclesiastes 4:12.

While worshiping God together is the most important aspect of unity, more is involved. To be attuned to each other, you and your prospective mate should have similar goals. What are your goals? For example, how do you both feel about having children? What things have the first place in your life? (Matthew 6:33) In a truly successful marriage, the couple are good friends and enjoy each other’s company. (Proverbs 17:17) For this, they need to have interests in common. It is difficult to sustain a close friendship—much less a marriage—when this is not the case. Still, if your prospective partner enjoys a particular activity, such as hiking, and you do not, does that mean that the two of you should not get married? Not necessarily. Perhaps you share other, more important interests. Moreover, you might give happiness to your prospective partner by sharing in wholesome activities because the other person enjoys them.—Acts 20:35.

Indeed, to a large degree, compatibility is determined by how adaptable both of you are rather than by how identical you are. Instead of asking, “Do we agree on everything?” some better questions might be: “What happens when we disagree? Can we discuss matters calmly, according each other respect and dignity? Or do discussions often deteriorate into heated arguments?” (Ephesians 4:29, 31) If you want to get married, be wary of anyone who is proud and opinionated, never willing to compromise, or who constantly demands and schemes to have his or her own way.

Best wishes for a successful courtship!
 

CherieR

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It is important that both of you have common beliefs and principles. The apostle Paul wrote: “Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers.” (2 Corinthians 6:14; 1 Corinthians 7:39) Marriage to someone who does not share your faith in God makes it more likely that there will be severe disharmony. On the other hand, a mutual devotion to God is the strongest basis for unity. God wants you to be happy and to enjoy the closest possible bond with the person you marry. He wants you to be bound to Him and to each other by a threefold bond of love.—Ecclesiastes 4:12.

While worshiping God together is the most important aspect of unity, more is involved. To be attuned to each other, you and your prospective mate should have similar goals. What are your goals? For example, how do you both feel about having children? What things have the first place in your life? (Matthew 6:33) In a truly successful marriage, the couple are good friends and enjoy each other’s company. (Proverbs 17:17) For this, they need to have interests in common. It is difficult to sustain a close friendship—much less a marriage—when this is not the case. Still, if your prospective partner enjoys a particular activity, such as hiking, and you do not, does that mean that the two of you should not get married? Not necessarily. Perhaps you share other, more important interests. Moreover, you might give happiness to your prospective partner by sharing in wholesome activities because the other person enjoys them.—Acts 20:35.

Indeed, to a large degree, compatibility is determined by how adaptable both of you are rather than by how identical you are. Instead of asking, “Do we agree on everything?” some better questions might be: “What happens when we disagree? Can we discuss matters calmly, according each other respect and dignity? Or do discussions often deteriorate into heated arguments?” (Ephesians 4:29, 31) If you want to get married, be wary of anyone who is proud and opinionated, never willing to compromise, or who constantly demands and schemes to have his or her own way.

Best wishes for a successful courtship!

We both share the same faith and have many things in common. He is pretty laid back and go with the flow. He is sweet and has made me laugh a lot. I just may need to wait and see if this could possibly go somewhere... I am not sure yet.
 

tourist

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We both share the same faith and have many things in common. He is pretty laid back and go with the flow. He is sweet and has made me laugh a lot. I just may need to wait and see if this could possibly go somewhere... I am not sure yet.
Why wait and see? Either you both care for each other or you don't.
 

tourist

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We do care about each other... but I want there to be a spark and romantic feelings.
I believe that chemistry is very important in the formation of an enduring relationship. I understand about how you want to see how it works out. My theory is that in the early stage of a relationship if you are not constantly thinking about the person in your life than perhaps this isn't the one of your heart's desire. Wishing you all of God's best in this endeavor.