What's the point? Everything is selfish.

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True, but do you think it's helpful to tell the pastor's wife, that she's got a poor attitude and needs to do more, and stop being so selfish thinking about herself. As most people say here? Not the type "helpful" point that is needed by most. Who knows. Maybe it works for some.
Dai,
What is going on? I can't read all that you've written in the thread. But it seems you are depressed or something. Can you give a list of your ailments, make a bullet list. Then below that make a list of blessings in your life. You just seem to throw away every bit of good word people hand you. What is going on? I would like to help with words, thoughts, suggestions.
 

blue_ladybug

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It should be helpful, especially since it's true. :) You need to help yourself and get proactive in bettering your circumstances. Otherwise, you're going to remain catatonic, wondering why.. God can only do so much for you, but you have to pull your share, too.


True, but do you think it's helpful to tell the pastor's wife, that she's got a poor attitude and needs to do more, and stop being so selfish thinking about herself. As most people say here? Not the type "helpful" point that is needed by most. Who knows. Maybe it works for some.
 

Magenta

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Dai... please watch this video :)

[video=youtube;QNrq5Lw4OQM]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QNrq5Lw4OQM[/video]
 

Dai3234

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Hmm, I thought about this a bit today as I was out and about and as I was walking home just now. Makes me think of a particular Preacher. I think he is right and I think his words are applicable to your questions. I will put them below along with some words of my own.

I heard the cardinals sing, and I wondered for what do they sing? For what does the male cardinal in red coat sing for? Does he not sing for the females and they sing back to him? It is for vanity, it has no purpose outside of himself. I saw the squirrels running to and fro and I thought, for what reason does he run to and fro for? He does it for vanity, there is no purpose outside of himself. I saw a multitude of people coming and going in their cars and I wondered for what reason are they in such haste driving up and down the roads and going to their places? It is all for their vanities, there is no purpose outside of themselves. I saw a child, even a little girl child riding her tricycle down the sidewalk and I thought, for what purpose does the girl child ride her tricycle down the street? It is all for vanity, there is no purpose for it outside of herself. I thought to myself, why do I keep walking, why do I do such menial work with my hands, why do I keep thinking, and wading around the shallows and deep ends of wisdom in my mind? It is my vanity, there is no purpose for it outside of myself.

Ecclesiastes 1

1 The words of the Preacher, the son of David, king in Jerusalem.

[SUP]2 [/SUP]Vanity of vanities, saith the Preacher, vanity of vanities; all is vanity.
[SUP]3 [/SUP]What profit hath a man of all his labour which he taketh under the sun?
[SUP]4 [/SUP]One generation passeth away, and another generation cometh: but the earth abideth for ever.
[SUP]5 [/SUP]The sun also ariseth, and the sun goeth down, and hasteth to his place where he arose.
[SUP]6 [/SUP]The wind goeth toward the south, and turneth about unto the north; it whirleth about continually, and the wind returneth again according to his circuits.
[SUP]7 [/SUP]All the rivers run into the sea; yet the sea is not full; unto the place from whence the rivers come, thither they return again.
[SUP]8 [/SUP]All things are full of labour; man cannot utter it: the eye is not satisfied with seeing, nor the ear filled with hearing.
[SUP]9 [/SUP]The thing that hath been, it is that which shall be; and that which is done is that which shall be done: and there is no new thing under the sun.
[SUP]10 [/SUP]Is there any thing whereof it may be said, See, this is new? it hath been already of old time, which was before us.
[SUP]11 [/SUP]There is no remembrance of former things; neither shall there be any remembrance of things that are to come with those that shall come after.
[SUP]12 [/SUP]I the Preacher was king over Israel in Jerusalem.
[SUP]13 [/SUP]And I gave my heart to seek and search out by wisdom concerning all things that are done under heaven: this sore travail hath God given to the sons of man to be exercised therewith.
[SUP]14 [/SUP]I have seen all the works that are done under the sun; and, behold, all is vanity and vexation of spirit.
[SUP]15 [/SUP]That which is crooked cannot be made straight: and that which is wanting cannot be numbered.
[SUP]16 [/SUP]I communed with mine own heart, saying, Lo, I am come to great estate, and have gotten more wisdom than all they that have been before me in Jerusalem: yea, my heart had great experience of wisdom and knowledge.
[SUP]17 [/SUP]And I gave my heart to know wisdom, and to know madness and folly: I perceived that this also is vexation of spirit.
[SUP]18 [/SUP]For in much wisdom is much grief: and he that increaseth knowledge increaseth sorrow.
I forgot this, thanks. But in essence, vanity, in this text, implies as far as i know, that vanity is the only thing we feel and think about. So everything is vanity that a human thinks, roughly, unless it's for someone or something else and not ourselves. So others are first. Not sure how to apply it in most of my life though. Will have to make a list. Probably forget :)
 

blue_ladybug

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#67
Start thinking about others and helping them would be a good way to apply it to your life.. Start living for God, and nothing you think about or do, will be vain..


I forgot this, thanks. But in essence, vanity, in this text, implies as far as i know, that vanity is the only thing we feel and think about. So everything is vanity that a human thinks, roughly, unless it's for someone or something else and not ourselves. So others are first. Not sure how to apply it in most of my life though. Will have to make a list. Probably forget :)
 
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I forgot this, thanks. But in essence, vanity, in this text, implies as far as i know, that vanity is the only thing we feel and think about. So everything is vanity that a human thinks, roughly, unless it's for someone or something else and not ourselves. So others are first. Not sure how to apply it in most of my life though. Will have to make a list. Probably forget :)
Yes I suppose so, but even with their minds towards others, for what reason is their minds turned towards others? Is it not even for themselves, to comfort their own hearts, to reassure themselves, to hope for a reward in heaven or earth for themselves? Lo, even this is vanity! There is no purpose of it outside of themselves.

Ecclesiastes is a good book, you got me reading it now too, or perhaps I got myself reading it, it is vanity, all vanity, but I see in the first few chapters I have read over indeed it pretty well covers this topic and everything everyone has said herein all ready. Nothing is new under the sun.
 

Magenta

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Yes, the human condition has a will turned towards self, while the trials and
tribulations of our earth walk cause us to question the meaning and purpose
of life, and find our footing on the only Truth there is, upon the Rock of our
salvation, and learn how to bend our will to His :) Here are the lyrics to
the video I just posted. It is a beautiful song about the saved dog, but I can relate
:)

Praise God for the people with big hearts who take in strays, just
as God takes us in, even after we have strayed far from Him...

* * * *

Tell me, how'd I end up here alone
Calling, trying to find my way home

The darkness is heavy
The night seems to go on for years
The cold never ending
The weight of the world on these bones

My body is broken
My heart is untouched by the fear
Take me away someplace other than here now

Help me open the heaviest doors
Show me the life I was missing before

And every step that I take feels like hundreds of miles
But I'll keep on going
I've waited too long to be found

Give me the strength to keep getting up off of the ground
Someday I'll know what it's like to be kept around

Heart of God under skin and bones
Dispel this cold and take me home

Gone are the days where I'm wondering if I'll be found
Gone is the haze that hung over a future unknown

I used to think I would disappear into the ground
I'm not afraid because I'm on my way home

Heart of God under skin and bones
Dispel this cold and take me home


Gone are the days where I'm wondering if I'll be found
Gone is the haze that hung over a future unknown

I used to think I would disappear into the ground
I'm not afraid because I'm on my way home

 
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Dai,
You're not as bad off or hopeless as it seems you want us to believe. You're still here responding.
Any chance of a response to this:

Dai,
What is going on? I can't read all that you've written in the thread. But it seems you are depressed or something. Can you give a list of your ailments, make a bullet list. Then below that make a list of blessings in your life. You just seem to throw away every bit of good word people hand you. What is going on? I would like to help with words, thoughts, suggestions.
 
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I forgot this, thanks. But in essence, vanity, in this text, implies as far as i know, that vanity is the only thing we feel and think about. So everything is vanity that a human thinks, roughly, unless it's for someone or something else and not ourselves. So others are first. Not sure how to apply it in most of my life though. Will have to make a list. Probably forget :)
The best thinking from you I've heard yet. Stay on track, though, when an inevitable letdown comes along.

You might do well to listen to a few of these videos I posted for Tommy.
https://www.google.com/search?sourc...d+Fellowship,+Now+and+Not+Yet&tbm=vid&spf=186
 

blue_ladybug

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I'm still on here. I must be too stupid, stubborn or bullheaded for my own good.. lol


The best thinking from you I've heard yet. Stay on track, though, when an inevitable letdown comes along.

You might do well to listen to a few of these videos I posted for Tommy.
https://www.google.com/search?sourceid=navclient&aq=hts&oq=&ie=UTF-8&rlz=1T4GGLS_enUS721US722&q=Vineyard+Fellowship%2C+Now+and+Not+Yet&gws_rd=ssl#q=Vineyard+Fellowship,+Now+and+Not+Yet&tbm=vid&spf=186
 
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#74
True, but do you think it's helpful to tell the pastor's wife, that she's got a poor attitude and needs to do more, and stop being so selfish thinking about herself. As most people say here? Not the type "helpful" point that is needed by most. Who knows. Maybe it works for some.

No,we all get down, and those who have sickness,other issues can become depressed. But we cant stay there. Thats where the devil wants us. Yes,Ive suffered the "poor pitiful mes" too and Gods sends someone along to give me a boot in the pants and says "shake yourself and get out of this"! When I watch how people suffered though the Holocaust,like Corrie Ten Boom I think "well I haven't had to live through that". We had missionaries from Venezuela at our church a few weeks ago,people in that country are starving to death. We haven't had to face that. We have freedom in our countries that some do not have. We must look at the positive. The devil wants to keep you chained down with depression, not to see the positive,not to soar above your circumstances. He's making sure you stay unhappy. I understand that war within! The devil told me the same lies. And yet here I am in a home of my own and happily married.And I say to the devil "ha! you lied and had me depressed and full of fear but God had other plans"!! Ask the Lord,tell Him the desires of your heart and expect Him to do something special in your life and stop letting the old devil keep you down!!
 
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Just wondering if anyone else thinks that all this has no point except to be better off in heaven after death. As every dream or effort seems to have a selfish connection no matter what. Unless your a travelling healer preacher.
This is a very cynical view.
If Christs love is alive in your heart, you look for people to help and serve.
It is not selfish, but a gift from Christ through you to another.

Every believer can do this, it is our calling.
 
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Just wondering if anyone else thinks that all this has no point except to be better off in heaven after death. As every dream or effort seems to have a selfish connection no matter what. Unless your a travelling healer preacher.
If not You than Who?
 

Dai3234

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Dai,
What is going on? I can't read all that you've written in the thread. But it seems you are depressed or something. Can you give a list of your ailments, make a bullet list. Then below that make a list of blessings in your life. You just seem to throw away every bit of good word people hand you. What is going on? I would like to help with words, thoughts, suggestions.
•nothing changed in 34 years,
•never been treated equally until about 22,
•been to college 4x with ruined journeys.
•couldn't get dr referred for 5years.
•had to give up all exercises/arthritis.
•disconnected rib, ankle ligaments torn, work poisoning, whiplash, broken eye socket, damaged ear from steel toe caps,

•broken toe not healed fully, damaged wrist same, shocks in chest muscles if exercising, grinded shoulder socket, Gilbert's liver syndrome so can't drink anymore, no friends as church people are old/families or children/well off etc, bleed from collapsed or dead capillaries sometimes.

•still living at home, still smoking, still dealing with all issues after "healing" though they haven't, in another hazardous job with no windows, dust, noise, no-security for mortgage, car just blew headgasket last month so new car with unknown warning light issue. I think that's it for now, though being Welsh with an English accent and that rubbish was before 22years etc. Probably more i can't remember until it bothers me again. Generally crud n no future it seems.
 
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[video=youtube;ZZUTYM-07ws]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZZUTYM-07ws[/video]
 

Magenta

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Thank God you cannot drink any more :)

Really!!! Get down on your broken knees and thank Him for delivering you.
 
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Dai,
I hope you don't feel threatened or attacked by my earlier request (below). That request allows you to list all your unfortunate circumstances and conditions. What are they? Feel free to list them. That's important, especially since you are always given a raw deal.
Allow me and others to be able to empathize with you. Please!

Dai,
What is going on? I can't read all that you've written in the thread. But it seems you are depressed or something. Can you give a list of your ailments, make a bullet list. Then below that make a list of blessings in your life. You just seem to throw away every bit of good word people hand you. What is going on? I would like to help with words, thoughts, suggestions.