Wife is pregnant and separated from me

[gdyloves]

Thanks for all the positive support. I think that yes there is underlying problems and I slipped up and used drinking to try and dull everything. Thing is my wife gives no margin for error and has threatened divorce in the past over me having 1 cigarette (after I quit) so for me thats over the top. I regularly get verbal abuse from my wife and I really have been trying my best to look after her...working 6 days to support her as she has not worked for 6months. We have too many people stay with us in a two bedroom apartment but she refuses to kick one out so there's more space in the living room. I have offered to pay more to cover or find another place of our own etc. All this is stressful and I have struggled especially now she is pregnant and made me move out. I have taken responsibility for breaking the promise of not going home after drinking but she too could have dealt with the situation better instead of provoking an argument and calling the police when all I really did wrong was drink too much and wanted to go to sleep. Drink is something I need to stop and has been harder than ever since she won't allow me home but either way I don't want to let it control me. I have continued paying rent for her though I think perhaps I should stop...? Just thougt I should probably add a bit more to the story

Look no ones perfect but u opened this thread so I'm gonna respond to it as I see. You say get our own place which to me shows that where you live now is not your guys own place so u live with family ok . Yes the thing to do would be move out, can u really afford on your own to pay rent and the rest of the lovely bills that go along with it cause if not then your just talking when u say to move out and if your not being serious how can she take you serious? Next u say she's threatened divorce before when you smoked 1 cigarette after you quit which tells me 2 things 1 you have a dependency problem rather it be ciggerate or alcohol don't matter there's a pattern of dependency there. & 2nd A man is only as good as his word,
So although it was one drink or one ciggerate there's most likely an underlining reason to the treats if divorce.
She's pregnant so yes her hormones are a little out of wack most would say she is lucky to have a husband to reassure her and put up with her through this time but wait u work 6 days a week and sometimes u spend one of those days out drinking and dont even come home,
See where Im going with this?
Life's hard starting a family is hard but it's worth it u gotta be strong be understanding and give your family your all if u only have a little to give it has to go to your family not to doing things that only make u happy.
It might seem I'm one sided and that would be true cause she's not here posting so I am not addressing her I'm addressing you, if she were here I'd give my thoughts on what's she's doing wrong.
Anyways stay strong and think before you act. Is it worth it, if not dont do it. Peace and love brother

 

[Sailordreams]

Thanks I see your points. My fault for not describing accurately. Yes tenancy is in both our names 50/50 I meant move in to a cheaper place just the 2 of us. I don't seem to get a say in anything living there. Very frustrating and annoying! Thanks for posting, each post I get something to take away