Well every person is different and I can say from experience when my hubby went thru (and denied vehemently) midlife crisis, it was about 3 months of odd little things that I wrote off to just a 'phase' and then WHAM he was gone. Emotionally, Spiritually and then physically. So, to the original poster, I can feel your pain, mine also happened this year, well, in fact 4 days before my birthday he said he had an apartment and was moving out. Happy 50th to me right? Not. I will definitely pray for you, for your peace, strength and that you find your walk in Christ consoling and soothing. God bless you.