Throwing in the towel

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HaydenC

HaydenC

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Hey everybody,

I am not a regular poster however I am looking to change that. As you can tell by the title, I am throwing in the towel with dating. I am a 23 year old male whose last two dates had gone horribly wrong. Despite all of my efforts to try and get out there and meet someone, online dating and almost daily requests via prayer only to be met with silence.

This has been a big blow to me for the last 3 years as i am just so sick and tired of being alone.
But oh well you win some you lose some.

If something happens from here on out good, otherwise i am no longer trying to find someone. Who wants to go out with a chubby guy anyway hahaha.

-Hayden
 
Lynx

Lynx

Folksy yet erudite
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Don't let it bother you too much. I'm 37 and I never did bother with dating. After a while you find out there's a lot more to life than finding a partner to live it with.
 
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imfinallyfree

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You are much better off really,im a 41 yr old man that's willfully been single all of my life and as a result im not in the same situation as most dudes that I grew up with who are destitute because they got whipped back in high school and never got over it because they weren't allowed to,you due to woman's liberation they can do whatever they want with their lives so they choose to spend them chasing boys with their school friends, I'm thinking that you are like me and don't have much money relatively speaking so they aren't chasing you,that's a good thing man,thank God ...seriously.

Dude whatever you do do not frequent those singles web sites because they are only there so people can sleep with as many people as the can and spread diseases,if you don't have herpes keep it that way because the reason for herpes is that it's God's way of identifying those that can't control themselves.

Herpes is the precursor to the plague that He is sending, if you have them them you probably got them because you couldn't control yourself, well He can't have that in Heaven that's why He kicked lucifer and the fallen angels out,I digress,they didn't become "fallen" until after He kicked them out.

Mainly due to progressiveness,liberation,and individuality today's women are not true women they are boy crazy girls taking advantage every chance they get.

My home town has a unemployment rate of 75% or more and every single dude that had a girlfriend or wife lost them along with the job because they jumped ship for greener pastures,that's not something that a mature woman does.

The world economy crashed because of these liberated "women" you see it's no fun to take responsibility and do their inherent job as faithful wives and mothers so all of those tax dollars that usually come from family subsidies aren't there because there aint no families.

All that you can do is prove to God that you don't deserve to go to hell by NOT frequenting those singles site NOT spreading diseases and NOT financing these life long little girls so they can spread their diseases and corruption.

Be Safe AND Be Smart man
 
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imfinallyfree

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I apologize I didn't mean to sound more "crazy" than I am,progressiveness,liberation,and individuality are good things when implemented by responsible adults.
 
Lynx

Lynx

Folksy yet erudite
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Lynx said:
Don't let it bother you too much. I'm 37 and I never did bother with dating. After a while you find out there's a lot more to life than finding a partner to live it with.
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Lord help me, I'm getting old and senile... or at least forgetful. I'm actually 38. The rest of what I said still stands.


My memory ain't what it used to be. Also, my memory ain't what it used to be. ^.^
 
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imfinallyfree

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^LOL^ Sorry again I meant subsistence you know ? what families need to survive?that stuff,it's this dang phone man,the "smart" auto spell function needs to go back to school and tell his teacher to flog it good for incompetence.
 
Silverwings

Silverwings

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HaydenC said:
Hey everybody,

I am not a regular poster however I am looking to change that. As you can tell by the title, I am throwing in the towel with dating. I am a 23 year old male whose last two dates had gone horribly wrong. Despite all of my efforts to try and get out there and meet someone, online dating and almost daily requests via prayer only to be met with silence.

This has been a big blow to me for the last 3 years as i am just so sick and tired of being alone.
But oh well you win some you lose some.

If something happens from here on out good, otherwise i am no longer trying to find someone. Who wants to go out with a chubby guy anyway hahaha.

-Hayden
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Hi Hayden!! Don't sell yourself short, a chubby girl would be very interested in a chubby guy!! Maybe you are looking I the wrong places? :rolleyes:
 
rachelsedge

rachelsedge

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I feel you.

I'm working hard on "not caring" and some days I do fantastical at it. Other days I just long for that companionship. I don't think there's anything wrong with desiring it, or even aching for it (unless it becomes an idol, but that's another point). It doesn't mean it doesn't hurt less.

I have found, though, that by doing my best not to focus on it and just living my life that I feel less pressure and more free, so to speak. I try to focus on what I can do being single as opposed to how I feel/what I can't do since I don't have someone. Perspective is hard to change, especially when it's your dream to married.

A lyric from a song I like: This isn't giving up, no, this is letting go.

That's what I'm trying to do. I still want to be married someday so I wouldn't say I'm giving up that dream....but I do want to let go so it doesn't control my emotions so much.
 
HaydenC

HaydenC

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Dec 23, 2016
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Thank you everyone for the kind words, words of wisdom, support and information. I am greatly appreciative of this. I long to be married, since I was ten all I have ever wanted was to be a good husband, be a good father (if i have children) and be a good Christian (as of 3 years ago when i came to Christ). This was such a hard post to put up because it is the companionship that I am after. Not coming home to an empty house all of time and having nobody to spend time with. To combat this I frequent many Christian chat rooms however the other day this started to take its toll.
 
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Sandd

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Dating can be really hard if you are with the wrong person. I learned the hard way and was left heartbroken and without faith, it took me a while but now I trust in the Lord that he has a better plan and that I deserve better and so do you. Trust on the Lord and he will provide you with what you need and desire. If you need a friend I'm here for you. We can pray together ☺️
 
Born_Again

Born_Again

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Nov 15, 2014
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Lynx said:
Don't let it bother you too much. I'm 37 and I never did bother with dating. After a while you find out there's a lot more to life than finding a partner to live it with.
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Yep! I'm with you! I'm 34, divorced and have recently noticed that when I took my mind off of dating and focused more on my service to God and the church, the need for or "want" for companionship has gone by the way-side. I decided that I do not infact need it. If you feel its not your thing, roll with it and dont worry about it.
 
Utah

Utah

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Women want to feel loved, adored, cherished, respected, safe, and they like to laugh . . .

That's why I've never married. :p
 
jsr1221

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One our basic desires is to feel wanted. It's normal for us to want that companionship and just have someone by our side. God created Eve so Adam wouldn't be lonely, after all. Being single is hard enough, but I believe being a young adult single is even harder because there is all of this pressure by both society and the church. I wouldn't give up after just two dates. They say third time is the charm. Plus, you're 23. Continue enjoying your own life. You'd be surprised to see what God might have in store.
 
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Amazing-Grace

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Bunch of cynics on here....!!!

First of all Utah - it's a sin to fell fibs.

Secondly to the OP, some day you will find the right lady when you stop looking and when and where you least expect it. Make sue she knows The Lord - that should be your #1 priority.
 
tourist

tourist

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HaydenC said:
Hey everybody,

I am not a regular poster however I am looking to change that. As you can tell by the title, I am throwing in the towel with dating. I am a 23 year old male whose last two dates had gone horribly wrong. Despite all of my efforts to try and get out there and meet someone, online dating and almost daily requests via prayer only to be met with silence.

This has been a big blow to me for the last 3 years as i am just so sick and tired of being alone.
But oh well you win some you lose some.

If something happens from here on out good, otherwise i am no longer trying to find someone. Who wants to go out with a chubby guy anyway hahaha.



-Hayden
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Don't sell yourself short by thinking that your not good enough to attract the woman that was meant for you. You have lost some, now it's time to win some.
 
BrokenSparrow

BrokenSparrow

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Utah said:
Women want to feel loved, adored, cherished, respected, safe, and they like to laugh . . .

That's why I've never married. :p
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Yeah, that list is spot on, but I don't know any man with all those qualities. If we were able to combine a few men then we might be able to make a perfect man :pjk
 
Born_Again

Born_Again

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BrokenSparrow said:
Yeah, that list is spot on, but I don't know any man with all those qualities. If we were able to combine a few men then we might be able to make a perfect man :pjk
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Best of luck with that! LOL Perfect man? Does not exist. If you want one bad enough, gotta take the flaws, as well as any pending mistreatment. LOL Its simple. We excel at what we like to do. But we suck at life. ;)
 
BrokenSparrow

BrokenSparrow

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Been there done that, so I might just take y'all's advice and just stay single:p
 
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