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Once I dated a very unusual Christian girl.
I suppose that on the "outside", she was a bit less than a stunner.
In fact, on a scale of 1 to 10, she might have had trouble getting on the chart at all.
But she had such a close walk with God, that she just glowed.
Watching God's spirit move in her was like watching a beautiful sunset... every moment.
God made her stunningly beautiful.
I grew to love her, and eventually asked her to marry me.
We were from different countries, different cultures,
and during the engagement we realized that although we loved each other,
we just weren't the right fit.
But I will never get over how God could take such a very "plain" girl,
and make her so exquisitely beautiful.
When I looked at her, I felt like I was looking at a super model...
that's how I felt, and that's what MY eyes saw.
God made her exquisitely, unfathomably beautiful.
We should never limit what God is capable of doing.
I suppose that on the "outside", she was a bit less than a stunner.
In fact, on a scale of 1 to 10, she might have had trouble getting on the chart at all.
But she had such a close walk with God, that she just glowed.
Watching God's spirit move in her was like watching a beautiful sunset... every moment.
God made her stunningly beautiful.
I grew to love her, and eventually asked her to marry me.
We were from different countries, different cultures,
and during the engagement we realized that although we loved each other,
we just weren't the right fit.
But I will never get over how God could take such a very "plain" girl,
and make her so exquisitely beautiful.
When I looked at her, I felt like I was looking at a super model...
that's how I felt, and that's what MY eyes saw.
God made her exquisitely, unfathomably beautiful.
We should never limit what God is capable of doing.
I am going to confess something to help you ( I hope ) I always believed in God but never had a relationship with him until I was a in my late twenties. I was even saved as a teen but I went my own way. I dated a lot. Most of these relationships weren't healthy. I wasn't a virgin when I got married and I regret it. Stay close to God. Stay strong, it will be worth it.
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I think a lot of people wonder where their husband/wife is on here. Personally, I find comfort in expressing my frustrations to God and to other Christians. That would be my encouragement to you. And I know its hard not to look inward and wonder if there is something wrong with me, but in the end that is not helpful thinking. That type of thinking will just cause you to look or try to act like someone other than who you are. And the guy that comes along, and sees who you are trying to be, and likes you- well then you will have to keep up the persona. It makes you wonder if he would like who you REALLY are. So stay yourself, don't question your beauty, and lament like there is no tomorrow. Men and women are made for each other, it is natural to long for that connection that is God-given. And natural to feel frustrated by lack there of.
At 20 I may not have had a 'real date' at that point, or it might have been questionable (study with a girl, and stuff like that.) I wasn't really into dating. I was picky both for looks and spiritual characteristics and a little uptight about the whole issue.
Really, though, you shouldn't worry about dating until you are ready to get married. For a woman 20 may be a good age to get married if you marry a man who can support you. In this modern age it's hard for a man to have any kind of vocational training to be able to support a wife well at 20. You are still young and have plenty of time.
I used to think of dating, kissing, etc. as milestones I needed to reach in my life. Part of me wanted to be like other people who dated. There was no 'kiss dating goodbye' book back then, either, and no one sat me down and pointed out the flaws of the dating culture among the very young and how it lead to temptation and heartbreak.
There are men out there who do appreciate it if a woman is a virgin, and may even appreciate it if she hasn't dated. If I were a single young man looking and in this hypothetical scenario think like I do now, all else being equal, I'd choose a woman who was a virgin over one who'd messed around, of course. But I'd also choose the girl who'd never dated over one who had. Less baggage. Probably a lot of emphasis on purity. That's all else being equal of course. IMO, experience dating a lot of people is not something that really adds value to you as a potential spouse. Any value it adds, you can make up for being married a short while.
Really, though, you shouldn't worry about dating until you are ready to get married. For a woman 20 may be a good age to get married if you marry a man who can support you. In this modern age it's hard for a man to have any kind of vocational training to be able to support a wife well at 20. You are still young and have plenty of time.
I used to think of dating, kissing, etc. as milestones I needed to reach in my life. Part of me wanted to be like other people who dated. There was no 'kiss dating goodbye' book back then, either, and no one sat me down and pointed out the flaws of the dating culture among the very young and how it lead to temptation and heartbreak.
There are men out there who do appreciate it if a woman is a virgin, and may even appreciate it if she hasn't dated. If I were a single young man looking and in this hypothetical scenario think like I do now, all else being equal, I'd choose a woman who was a virgin over one who'd messed around, of course. But I'd also choose the girl who'd never dated over one who had. Less baggage. Probably a lot of emphasis on purity. That's all else being equal of course. IMO, experience dating a lot of people is not something that really adds value to you as a potential spouse. Any value it adds, you can make up for being married a short while.
I read the other pages of the posts. I remember on another forum a man lamenting that girls he dated turned out not to be virgins, and how he had his heart set on marrying a virgin. He was also thinking of giving up on being a virgin. He felt like being holding out and being a virgin entitled him to marriage to a virgin by his age. I reminded him that it was about staying faithful to the Lord, not about getting the reward of a virgin wife. But I also told him that there were virgin women out there who would really treasure a man who'd kept his virginity to his wedding night.
My wife and I were virgins. She's from a country where it is common for both to be virgins on their wedding night and a stigma if they are not.
I wonder if any of the virgins posting on here will get PMs from members of the opposite sex who suddenly get more interested. "Oh he (or she) is a Christian and a virgin. Maybe I ought to PM him/her and get to know him/her better." Why not? You probably get more PMs with pictures for avatars than without though.
My wife and I were virgins. She's from a country where it is common for both to be virgins on their wedding night and a stigma if they are not.
I wonder if any of the virgins posting on here will get PMs from members of the opposite sex who suddenly get more interested. "Oh he (or she) is a Christian and a virgin. Maybe I ought to PM him/her and get to know him/her better." Why not? You probably get more PMs with pictures for avatars than without though.
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Good point. I think it's good to desire a virgin wife/husband BUT those Christians who've made mistakes in the past or been abused aren't mistakes, they're God's children. Also, we should be careful that we don't make virginity our idol, our god. That's wrong too. Keep your eyes fixed on the one who made you.
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What's intimidating about them? Not an accusation - just curious. 
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