20 and still a virgin!

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Good point.....lol.....can't argue that one.....there's still plenty of stupid going around though :p
Oh I wouldn't argue with that either, my friend.

Reminds me of the Bene Gesserit "Litany Against Fear" in the scifi novel Dune.

I must not fear
Fear is the mind-killer
Fear is the little death that brings total oblideration...

Or in this case perpetual loneliness. :p
 
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Tintin

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#43
Dune, eh? Great world-building, interesting characters and a quality premise. Pity the writing style is so dry.
 
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josh123

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#44
same here guess i'm greatful for my parents bringing me up the right way when i went to do anything i would just remember what they thought me and flee from the situation, this thread is an encouragement though to see that they are other people out there keeping strong, keep on keeping on!
 
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Jesusismyrock

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Hi BIC and SIC,

I turned 20 on Monday by His merciful grace and I am so happy. I didn't think I would make it, the temptation has been horrible. I have never kissed a guy nor had a bf. I really do delight in the idea of being with one man. But now I have turned 20 and near graduation I wonder where my husband is, where we will meet and if I will be rid of all my bad habits before he arrives.

Sometimes I wonder if I am even beautiful because no guy has ever asked me out you know :-( I don't know. But I'll continue to serve God.

Any words of encouragement?
Nothing wrong with being a virgin. I will be a virgin until I am married.
 
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woka

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#46
WOW I take my hat off to all of you. It is wonderful to read of so many who take the Word of God as the final authority. It is really easy to have sex, honestly, to go with the flow. You guys are amazing and not going with the flow, of realising your value to yourself and the Lord and your future partner.

I cannot begin to tell you of the reward that await you for your faith, the emotionaly attachment that takes place in marriage when you have waited is unexplainable, it is experiencing the Lord on a level you never though possible. All the insecurities and doubts that so many young people have with their bodies, and their abilities is huge when they have not waited, as the new hubby or wife tell them how wonderful they are, they find it difficult to believe because a previous partner said something different.

To be pure and white is worth the wait.
 
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bao

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#47
haha~don't worry about that~^^
trust our lord will give you the best one ever :eek:
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.Romans 8:28
 

eugenius

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#48
You are concentrating too much on the virgin part, and not enough on the relationship part. I blame modern society for making everything be about sex. Relationships? Marriage? Who cares. Its all about sex today.
 

jrccomputer

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#49
I'm 19!! I'm still a virgin and am proud of it. I've dated a couple of girls, but never ever have had a girlfriend.

Stay strong, through it all.
 
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marrion

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You are a great example.May God reward your faithfulness with a Godly man.
i pray that you don't get impatient or hurried into relationships by friends and family because that's when the trouble starts.
Also maybe Jesus wants to spend some time with you before he brings that special someone in your life.
 

jrccomputer

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#53
Dated, I meaning went out with them on a date. I've dated just never had a girlfriend.

And a couple means 2, they were years ago. My dates that is.

That make more sense??
 
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Ace85

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#54
I just wanted you to know that you are not alone! I turned 28 a few days ago and I'm in the same boat as you. I have never seriously been asked out - only been asked out as a joke (must've been hilarious, cos the next day his friend asked me). It's easy to feel down, especially when you see friends getting married, having children and living their 'happily ever after' (does such a thing even exist??) but please remember that God has a perfect plan for you. Be excited for what He has in store for your future. But as someone else said, take this opportunity to get to know yourself, know God and to mature. It's actually something that I've been glad for in the past, as there were areas of my life that needed healing, and unemployed-ness, singleness and living with my parents, allowed me that time to heal and grow. Take advantage of this time!!
 
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#55
"Any words of encouragement?"

Why do a virgin need such an encouragement? She´ll be married somehow, by a loving husband. Just WAIT, save money, study, build your house. There´s time for all!
 
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Aniraj

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I am 25, and still single, Your too young for thinking bout it... But I do believe that God is preparing the best for you, because you are His precious daughter.. Don‘t think that your not beautiful... Just let God make a love story for you...ask and it shall be given, and waith for the right time.... The Lord God loves you so much..and He never allow that somebody get you out of His will... We just wait for the best and believe on it....
 

Pipp

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Im 30 and never even been kissed... no boyfriend ever.. I got asked out for the first time when I was 27 and had to decline because the guy wasn't saved and lived a unhealthy sinful lifestyle. I went through the " I guess I'm not pretty enough" stage and still do sometimes ,but I'm thankful that when God does see fit to let it be my turn I don't have a bunch of " baggage" to bring along into my relationship. Keep hanging in there.. what I lack from a relationship God has made up for with good friends and family who encourage me .