I wish, for being sure (not assured) I knew that´s the leadership ladies talked about. My 1st hand experience is not the best I could have kept but, I rather read on other´s ideas, like these:
10 Types of Christian Leadership by David Murray – Church Life
These were taken from a copy-paste idea on leading styles:
"LEADERSHIP STYLES
There are many types of leadership styles. I will delve into some and compare them to each other and
see which ones are workable in the church setting.
a) Dictatorial type of leadership
This is a master-servant type of leadership. What the master says is what goes and is final. The leader
has absolute power. He leads by fear, intimidation and manipulation. He is usually a power drunkard.
This type of leadership has failed wherever it has been used. The leader becomes unpopular thereby
attracting uproars to oust them from office. This in a political set-up or church it always breeds
uprisings. And once the people move in that dimension they are labeled rebellious. Serious casualties
follow the debacle. It is not the best trend in leading the people.
Examples of dictators in the Bible are:
I) Nimrod- he was very arrogant, Genesis 10:8-9.
ii) Nebuchadnezzar, Daniel 2:1-13; 3:1-4:33.
iii) The Caesar, he chased Jews from Rome, Acts18:2.
Sometimes the church has been faced with dictatorial tendencies by their leadership in the name of
spiritual parenting even when it is clear they are abusing their authority. They apply military style when
it comes to their leadership style. This type of leadership makes a leader not answerable to his/her own
people. In short there's no accountability. They end up with people rebelling, church splits, and etc, etc.
Many hunger for control and power which becomes autonomous and makes those under them start
feeling abused, unloved, and marginalized. When the devil sees that loop-hole he capitalizes on it and
brings disharmony and hinders church growth because hurts out-weigh the love side of the kingdom.
b) Laissez-fa-ire type of leadership
This one is where the leader leads by being care-free. Meaning he lets issues handle themselves without
him initiating solutions, saying, “Things solve by themselves.” The leader does not take the lead in his
role. The people following him/her are given the free reign to do what they desire. And the other thing
is that they have no time to develop their people. This is a leader who is afraid of confrontations, facing
issues head on and staying put is the only thing he would settle for. This type of leadership is another
worst kind because no issue solves by itself especially when it requires the leader's attention. This
leader abdicates his/her responsibilities by not taking his position to attend to his/her functions. The
leader fails to lead and, therefore, leadership roles are taken by those who are to be led by default.
When the leadership role is taken over by the led ones, there begins a move of anarchy, confusion, inorderly
manner, and no much progress. Once prolonged, casualties take place.
EXAMPLES OF LAISSEZ-FA-IRE LEADERSHIP
a) Eli could not handle his sons` sinful life. And
he had to pay for it. 1Samuel 3- 4.
b) Adam allowed this flow to take place in his life in the garden when he could not stop the wife being
entertained by the serpent about the fruit of the tree. We know the story, man fell. Genesis3.
c) David made a similar mistake when he could not do anything when his daughter, Tamar, was raped
by her half brother. Instead, Absalom took upon himself to do something, and it ended up disastrous.
2 Samuel 13:20-39. Isaiah 3:12.
c) Democratic type of leadership
This is leadership embracing the thought that people must be involved in decision making by using the
power to vote. It is taken as government of the people, for the people, by the people and through the
people. The Western world has been promoting this type of governance in the nations of the world. The
church has somehow adopted the element of democracy due to many issues of human rights. This type
of leadership has its own pros and cons.
Democracy originates from the Greek theory."
Which of this are best for EACH home built? I keep on learning, not every "home" is the same (not all churches are alike).