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[Lynx]

Really though, I shouldn't have brought this on this thread. It started in another thread about a father losing his son and asking for prayer. She called the father who had just lost his son out for making a typo. She said he made a typo, but there is not even a typo there...so IDK...but it was really nasty.

She was on there talking about discernment, and then I saw her on here talking about people not having discernment and being rude to the OP and others here too. So that's where it all came from.

Whoops! I thought it was you she initially called out. Sorry about that.

 

[Cephas_rock]

@Cephas_rock I am sorry for derailing your thread. I am going to try to read it later and maybe make some legitimate posts.

Lynx, I'm a she not a he, but once again that is irrelevant here...lol

Really though, I shouldn't have brought this on this thread. It started in another thread about a father losing his son and asking for prayer. She called the father who had just lost his son out for making a typo. She said he made a typo, but there is not even a typo there...so IDK...but it was really nasty.

She was on there talking about discernment, and then I saw her on here talking about people not having discernment and being rude to the OP and others here too. So that's where it all came from.

Once again, sorry to all you guys and for derailing the thread. That was wrong of me. Big apology to @Cephas_rock.

Many thanks for your apology 1ofthem, although my thought about the thread, the one I started, being derailed was more due to Lynx choosing to be combative and trying to "put me in my place". I might be a n00b here, but I've earned my stripes over the decades and don't appreciate brothers and sisters in Christ acting like those of the world. Ideally, the conversation you "brought" here would've been better elsewhere, but on the plus side it let me see a few poster's "true colours". I genuinely appreciate your humility in this matter 1ofthem - not enough of that happening on this thread. Including for me, actually. I guess I'm tired of being disrespected in life and talked down to, and I was SO hopeful this would be a safe, mature place to really have some good discussions with meaning, respect, humility and all that. Sigh. I guess Satan always knows where to needle us, huh?

Bless you sister. May the Lord add His blessings and favour to your day, and may He honour your humility.

(Why is there no praying emoji on this site??)

 

[tourist]

yeah, discernment.......
something A LOT of people here claim to have, but obviously don't. You want to hide behind "typos" from someone who is known to say things to get people worked up who then goes and uses a very old, sick joke just to see what type of sympathy and reactions they can get from it. I am willing to bet that he is sitting back, reading the replies and laughing at all of you.
But whatever it's all on the user who wrote it and the gullible repliers.

1ofthem> 1 of who? people who speak one thing but show different? Yeah, it's me in my pic? I'd LOVE to know what you have to say..........
Jealous much? or should I say 'judgmental much?"

I hardly doubt he was telling an old sick joke at the expense of his son. If you knew this member better you would know that he really is a serious person and not one to joke around, especially in the manner that you falsely assumed.

 

[1ofthem]

Many thanks for your apology 1ofthem, although my thought about the thread, the one I started, being derailed was more due to Lynx choosing to be combative and trying to "put me in my place". I might be a n00b here, but I've earned my stripes over the decades and don't appreciate brothers and sisters in Christ acting like those of the world. Ideally, the conversation you "brought" here would've been better elsewhere, but on the plus side it let me see a few poster's "true colours". I genuinely appreciate your humility in this matter 1ofthem - not enough of that happening on this thread. Including for me, actually. I guess I'm tired of being disrespected in life and talked down to, and I was SO hopeful this would be a safe, mature place to really have some good discussions with meaning, respect, humility and all that. Sigh. I guess Satan always knows where to needle us, huh?

Bless you sister. May the Lord add His blessings and favour to your day, and may He honour your humility.

(Why is there no praying emoji on this site??)

I'm so sorry that you are having a difficult time on here.

I will be praying for you too brother. Thanks for the post it really touched my heart. God bless you.

 

[JustEli]

You don't get tired of advice on the job, you want a ton more when you get back to the forum? Where I w*rk there are multiple people spouting advice interminably. I could send them to you if there is an advice deficit at your job. I promise we can spare them... we could lose all but one advice generator and still have enough random advice and to spare.

Im number two on the job, boss lines out what needs to be done, I delegate from there. Sorry sorry off topic.

 

[wisebeardman]

this thread has gotten to a point it needs a TL;DR

 

[Mii]

"Seasoned Singles"
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Ironically when @17Bees drew attention to "seasoned singles" with vomiting I imagined some ghastly blend of spices. reminds me of one time I had a revolting amount of garlic on toast that still to this day I recall as quite possibly the worst toast I have ever had.

To be fair though. Perhaps one day this "ghastly blend" will mix with another's "seasoning" and produce the proper mixture and be palatable. One can hope

 

[suzzyQ]

You are free to stay as long as you want, and post anything you want (as long as it is not cussing or anti-Christian.)

 

[Lynx]

Yes, suzzyQ?

The flip side of course is everybody else has the same freedom.

 

[Lynx]

DISCLAIMER: The terms SAP (Self Appointed Prophet) SAG (Self Appointed Guru) and the phrase about swooping in when somebody asks a question were all "borrowed" from other people. I can't take credit, much as I would like to.

I would give credit where credit is due, but I don't know if the people in question want it known they originated the terms.

 

[cinder]

Coming at things like a bull in a China shop as you and others here seem quite happy to do - very unChristian behaviour, I might add - you overlook the fact that it could be the Lord Who sent me here to help people. Ever think of that? I've got WAY better things to be doing with my time than getting into mudslinging matches. You don't like the fact that a genuine, brother in Christ has "muscled his way in on your patch"? Fine, I can't change that, and yes, I find it offensive as I came here with genuine intent. What's in it for me? Glory? Fame? Money? No. Connection. That's it. The chance to bless other brothers and sisters with advice and wisdom and insight the Lord has given me, as He gives to everyone, to help people avoid mistakes I"VE made.

Anyway, that's my piece said. I won't be "casting my pearls before swine" on this thread any more, but I will reply to those who actually want to engage in useful, helpful, mature, adult conversation. Believe it or not, I have a very busy life here with important things to attend to. Please don't waste my time being combative and furthering Satan's agenda.

Other than that, I bless you in Jesus' Name and forgive you for your bad attitude and pridefulness, as we are called to bear with those still growing and maturing.

Hmm. If you've got better and important things to do, might those be the things that God is calling you to do rather than tear down those who disagree with you? And honestly, anyone who spends as much time talking himself up as you have does seem like someone who is in it for the glory, fame, and acclaim. Can't really remember Jesus doing much of that so I guess that's not very Christlike behavior either.

We can definitely enjoy useful, helpful, mature, adult conversations around here and we can also enjoy fun and light and inconsequential conversations. How long did you actually hang around here and scope things out before you joined so we could have the incomparable benefit of your wisdom and advice? Because it really shouldn't take that much logic or observation before you see that 1) people who want advice about something can just start a thread and ask for it (and there are plenty of us who will respond, some even with useful responses) and 2) that people who aren't inclined to ask a bunch of strangers online for advice also aren't inclined to ask one stranger who talks up all of his (unverifiable) "experience". Hopefully you have learned quite a bit in 50+ years of life; maybe you're even a much better guy in person and worthy of the trust people who take your advice place in you; but all we know about you is you've swooped in here and so far the advice you've demonstrated is throw a hissy fit if anyone dares question or just not believe how amazing and qualified you are.

But fear not, I have taken your example to heart; so I will never make a thread telling everyone how wonderful and wise and godly I have finally become and expect them to seek my advice like it were the very word of God for them. And I'll also have another case study in spiritual pride to reference if I ever need to discern if someone (including myself) is exhibiting small levels of it.

 

[Lynx]

...so far the advice you've demonstrated is throw a hissy fit if anyone dares question or just not believe how amazing and qualified you are.

Yeah, we're still in Act II. I estimate Act III in four days, give or take.

 

[tourist]

No no no, I'm not telling you to go away. I'm just explaining the lack of enthusiasm you have seen regarding your generous offer of advice, and telling you what you can expect and why you can expect it. You are free to stay as long as you want, and post anything you want (as long as it is not cussing or anti-Christian.)


This is a VERY good example of what I mentioned in my previous post. It does accelerate the timetable a bit though, and I will have to revise my estimate for when Act III will begin.

The current over/under odds is 2 days.

 

[Subhumanoidal]

Ah, thanks for the lovely big bucket of cold water, subhumanoidal. I don't see how dumping all over me was in any way helpful, and it's certainly not very brotherly or useful on a Christian forum, now is it? I think it would be useful to refrain from being negative. You have no idea how good my advice is, or how many hundreds of people I've helped, or how many people even today still ask for my help, so pooh-poohing me is both very un-Jesus-like and kinda spiteful for no good reason. It could well be you have some bitterness and other heart issues you need to attend to. The fact you took such a negative tone and tact, in a Christian forum, with someone you don't know but who clearly likes helping others, is very disappointing. I expect better from Christian brothers in this "dog eat dog" world. This should be a safe place for us to come to, not just another social media platform where people "let it all hang out" with no regard for others' feelings or well-being. There's a good reason I don't post on Quora any more - it's become a rather nasty, unpleasant place to be, where people are quick on the trigger as you have been. All advice can be good or bad - no one has the market cornered on "perfect advice", even "professional counsellors". I'm not obliged to offer anything to anyone. My life is plenty busy. But, I like helping people, I've had a LOT of experience in relationships, and I've observed over the decades that most people suck at relationships and communication (the latter being very much the case with you). So, before you play "Mr Wetblanket", perhaps a prayerful pause and a bit of respect for those who might know better than you would be helpful?

Paragraphs are your friend. As well as those reading (or attempting to) what you write.
As such I didn't get past the first line or two as it's too annoying to read a wall of text.
I'm sorry if you think listing facts is "dumping on you". Giving advice is easy. Bragging about yourself is easy. Listening to others advice, not so easy, eh?

 

[Lanolin]

I envisage a thread called

I survived the honeymoon!

or Tales from an unlikely marriage.

I work in libraries and have always known mills and boon romances were filed in the fiction section. some public libraries frown on them and dont even stock them, but in my area, they went out like hotcakes.

At the bookshop where im working at now, we dont stock them (another bookshop has them) and nobodys asked for them, but we do have a health and wellbeing section with a few relationship books. actually not many, I had to order five love langauages in but even that one doesnt seem to sell.

Most of what is in stock currently being published are books about looking after yourself, even books on not giving a f--- (excuse the language) actually nobodys bought one but I presume those kinds of books are for the newly divorced.

 

[Lanolin]

most people tend to buy fiction like crime novels, or they might buy the Bible, or a book on philosophy but very few will buy a book of advice on relationships.

its because of the tacky reputation of some of them like Men are from Mars, women are from venus type fake phd of them.