Advice for Married People

[HistoryPrincess]

Well when my wife gets to walk away with both my children, take half of everything I have and will earn, may move my kids into another man's adulterous home, and there is nothing I can legally do to stop it, I say that at least this man is getting the short end. I'm not the only one.

Look it up. 2/3 of divorce is initiated by women, and Christians are divorcing at a slightly higher rate then the secular population.

That may be a popular statistic, but it's false. Christians are actually much less likely to divorce than seculars.

 

[maxwel]

Considering that we live in a country of hundreds of millions of people, eight percent is still a big number.

They don't represent any specific denomination. I got those from a Religion and Ethics Newsweekly called "Religion, Family and the General Social Survey."

1. That 8% difference may or may not even appear in each individual church.

2. That 8% difference may be large as a statistical average, but it isn't an enormous number in the average church... even if this statistic does appear in a particular church.


3. Without being privy to the methodology of the study... I would be reluctant to give it much credence.

It could easily be weighted by a particular denomination, or a particular senod.

So without looking at the methodology, the study is fairly meaningless.


4. If you're a woman in a church with no men... you can always find a different church.

 

[Tommy379]

That may be a popular statistic, but it's false. Christians are actually much less likely to divorce than seculars.

I got it out of a newsletter that focus on the family mailed me after I called them.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

Adoption costs money. A LOT of money and a LOT of work. It's not as easy as Angelina Jolie and Madonna make it out to be. Hundreds if not millions of requests for adoption will go unanswered. For one thing, you have to have a certain amount of money to bribe the country to give you the kid. I personally don't want to have kids, but even if I did, I wouldn't deprive that child of the father they need in addition to the mother.

You were worried about biological clocks but you don't want to have kids. The truth is you don't really know what you want. I don't see the point of marrying but not wanting to have children.

 

[Tommy379]

That may be a popular statistic, but it's false. Christians are actually much less likely to divorce than seculars.

But I will say this, all those women I see sitting alone in church are divorced.

 

[HistoryPrincess]

You were worried about biological clocks but you don't want to have kids. The truth is you don't really know what you want. I don't see the point of marrying but not wanting to have children.

I have an aunt and an uncle who don't have kids and are perfectly happy. Besides, if I didn't have children, it would be easier for me to look after my mom and dad should something happen to them.

 

[Tommy379]

You were worried about biological clocks but you don't want to have kids. The truth is you don't really know what you want. I don't see the point of marrying but not wanting to have children.

I didn't really want kids when I got married. I just wanted sex and lots of it. But that leads to having kids, and I'm glad I had them. Sometimes I wish and even pray for 20 more.

 

[HistoryPrincess]

I got it out of a newsletter that focus on the family mailed me after I called them.

Well, they need to get their facts straight. Pick up "The Good News About Marriage: Debunking Discouraging Myths about Marriage and Divorce." And "Christians Are Hate-Filled Hypocrites...and Other Lies You've Been Told." They both consist of studies from recent years.

Newsletters don't really have the space needed to give credible sources.

 

[HistoryPrincess]

You were worried about biological clocks but you don't want to have kids. The truth is you don't really know what you want. I don't see the point of marrying but not wanting to have children.

And don't assume you know what I want and don't want. The fact is I do know what I want.

 

[Tommy379]

Well, they need to get their facts straight. Pick up "The Good News About Marriage: Debunking Discouraging Myths about Marriage and Divorce." And "Christians Are Hate-Filled Hypocrites...and Other Lies You've Been Told." They both consist of studies from recent years.

Newsletters don't really have the space needed to give credible sources.

How do we know your guys are right? Maybe Dr. James Dobson is on point.

 

[Urijah]

You were worried about biological clocks but you don't want to have kids. The truth is you don't really know what you want. I don't see the point of marrying but not wanting to have children.

Companionship?

 

[HistoryPrincess]

How do we know your guys are right? Maybe Dr. James Dobson is on point.

Or maybe you didn't take the time to actually dig in and just took something at face value. Course, I'm just making a guess.

 

[renewed_hope]

Let me say this about men being in church....I find it extremely attractive to see a man stand up, raise his hands in reverence to our savior out of humility.

I remember a particular church i attended we held hands at the beginning and the end of the service and it didnt matter how young or old the man was, I felt the strength and authority God gave him and because of that, I felt at peace....I also feel that about a man's voice. So many people underestimate men being in church especially men, but their presence is vital for God to move in the direction it needs to

 

[Tinkerbell725]

And don't assume you know what I want and don't want. The fact is I do know what I want.

I did not assume, that's why I asked you questions. It was all based on what you said on your posts.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

Companionship?

A dog is a good companion too. Sometimes better. Lol!

 

[maxwel]

A dog is a good companion too. Sometimes better. Lol!

Some girls could do with a nice puppy for companionship... until they find a nice man.


But other people... well... some people are probably better off just sticking with the dog.

 

[Tommy379]

Or maybe you didn't take the time to actually dig in and just took something at face value. Course, I'm just making a guess.

I'll make a guess. And this has nothing to do with an argument over statistics, cause I don't really care and it doesn't really matter, but here I go.

I think you have a personality that probably turns men off.
You are college educated, which in your mind, puts you on a higher level that you would never accept less education in a man.
You have impossible expectations that has left you painted in a corner.

Just hold on. The Japanese are working diligently on companion robots.

 

[Urijah]

A dog is a good companion too. Sometimes better. Lol!

I disagree, a dog especially of all the animals can never take the place of a person. Though it is a sad observation that many people these days do indeed put that most filthy of beasts above their fellow human beings.

 

[Tommy379]

I disagree, a dog especially of all the animals can never take the place of a person. Though it is a sad observation that many people these days do indeed put that most filthy of beasts above their fellow human beings.

Yeah, I rather have a cat.

 

[Urijah]

I'll make a guess. And this has nothing to do with an argument over statistics, cause I don't really care and it doesn't really matter, but here I go.

I think you have a personality that probably turns men off.
You are college educated, which in your mind, puts you on a higher level that you would never accept less education in a man.
You have impossible expectations that has left you painted in a corner.

Just hold on. The Japanese are working diligently on companion robots.

Just as with the dogs, I perceive this robot phenomena to be symptoms of the same problem. Heart weep inside me and lament! How much do today's men hate women and today's women hate men that they will take unthinking rocks and filthy animals to be their companions?