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I think the age perspective changes during different times in life as well.
I have a good friend who was always attracted to men 15-30 years older. When she was, say, 25, she thought nothing of dating someone 45-55.
She told me though that she's glad she didn't marry someone so much older, because now that she's almost 45, her husband would have been, let's say, 70, and that would be a much more challenging age gap.
But different things work for different people. My 96-year-old Grandpa is healthier than most 65-year-olds, still lives completely independently (except for a housekeeper once a week)... and has had a girlfriend for 3 years who is 26 years younger than him. Everyone raises their eyebrows, yes, but she has been a real blessing to our family.
I have a good friend who was always attracted to men 15-30 years older. When she was, say, 25, she thought nothing of dating someone 45-55.
She told me though that she's glad she didn't marry someone so much older, because now that she's almost 45, her husband would have been, let's say, 70, and that would be a much more challenging age gap.
But different things work for different people. My 96-year-old Grandpa is healthier than most 65-year-olds, still lives completely independently (except for a housekeeper once a week)... and has had a girlfriend for 3 years who is 26 years younger than him. Everyone raises their eyebrows, yes, but she has been a real blessing to our family.
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well, I haven't been with anyone since my relationship with God started .. Wich was about five years ago..
I dated one older man (my preference due to maturity) but found the generation gap with social orders and a "woman's place" wasn't my cup of tea..it was very interesting to see the views however ..
Im not a professional dater .. Married at 18 divorced at 33 with only two relationships after .. One much older and one much younger .. Was enough for me .. As far as dating younger .. there was the problem of commitment on there end .. and as far as older .., well God not present and hurts became demands of keeping my place just didn't work out .. So really , i don't have a lot of experience .. Just a report
I dated one older man (my preference due to maturity) but found the generation gap with social orders and a "woman's place" wasn't my cup of tea..it was very interesting to see the views however ..
Im not a professional dater .. Married at 18 divorced at 33 with only two relationships after .. One much older and one much younger .. Was enough for me .. As far as dating younger .. there was the problem of commitment on there end .. and as far as older .., well God not present and hurts became demands of keeping my place just didn't work out .. So really , i don't have a lot of experience .. Just a report
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Balance to me is close to where I'm at .. To much older swings way to one side of the pendulum
To far the other way goes off balance too .this is my "summation" of course, just looking back and evaluating .. I don't know what it's like being in a relationship with a believer ....I do know , with God all things are possible ..
To far the other way goes off balance too .this is my "summation" of course, just looking back and evaluating .. I don't know what it's like being in a relationship with a believer ....I do know , with God all things are possible ..
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I was just thinking the same thing.
When a woman is in her 20s it can seem like guys aren't ready for anything serious (can't say as I blame them). In their 30s it seems a little better. In their 40s most guys are finally getting their priorities straight. In their 50s ...at least where I live...it doesn't seem like many guys are very active and they don't seem interested in taking care of themselves.
Don't mean to generalize...just my observations from my neck of the woods.
When a woman is in her 20s it can seem like guys aren't ready for anything serious (can't say as I blame them). In their 30s it seems a little better. In their 40s most guys are finally getting their priorities straight. In their 50s ...at least where I live...it doesn't seem like many guys are very active and they don't seem interested in taking care of themselves.
Don't mean to generalize...just my observations from my neck of the woods.
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Sweet, when's sessIon 2?
<CLEARS THROAT LOUDLY>
oh, never mind, guess you covered me with that part there. I am clearly in some more rare and lonely boat... but at least I know how to Wakeboard!
If I were to date again (and I am somehow more comfortable with that notion after my last meeting with my lawyer), I'd be like many of yall and care more about whether or not someone has their life together than how many rings i could count after I sawed them in half. (JK, yall I'm way more Dexter's Lab than Dexter)
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Factors for me definitely include, but are not limited to: how prepared they are to deal with the insta-fam (love my kids, it IS a deal breaker, thought I will stand with you when it comes to us vs. them drama, because they must accept you, also), what sort of end stage health issues will each of us likely have to deal with and how will the other react, how likely are they to wake up one day and decide that they missed out on being "young, wild, and free" and decide to go after that without me (not going down That road again..btw, that song is a great way to put me in a bad mood and either clam up or go on a tirade), how comfortable are the both of us with not getting the references the other makes (because no one gets all my references & the other way about), yadda yadda yadda...
I'll be 36 this year, and if I were dating (which I am Clearly not ready to do), I'd possibly not think twice about someone in their 40's, but would have to scrutinize more thoroughly someone in their 20's.
For the right person, there is always more flexibility on certain details like age.
<CLEARS THROAT LOUDLY>
oh, never mind, guess you covered me with that part there.
I am clearly in some more rare and lonely boat... but at least I know how to Wakeboard!If I were to date again (and I am somehow more comfortable with that notion after my last meeting with my lawyer), I'd be like many of yall and care more about whether or not someone has their life together than how many rings i could count after I sawed them in half. (JK, yall I'm way more Dexter's Lab than Dexter)
vs.
Factors for me definitely include, but are not limited to: how prepared they are to deal with the insta-fam (love my kids, it IS a deal breaker, thought I will stand with you when it comes to us vs. them drama, because they must accept you, also), what sort of end stage health issues will each of us likely have to deal with and how will the other react, how likely are they to wake up one day and decide that they missed out on being "young, wild, and free" and decide to go after that without me (not going down That road again..btw, that song is a great way to put me in a bad mood and either clam up or go on a tirade), how comfortable are the both of us with not getting the references the other makes (because no one gets all my references & the other way about), yadda yadda yadda...
I'll be 36 this year, and if I were dating (which I am Clearly not ready to do), I'd possibly not think twice about someone in their 40's, but would have to scrutinize more thoroughly someone in their 20's.
For the right person, there is always more flexibility on certain details like age.
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Red, in my corner of the state, you just described just about every post-collegiate man and woman. "Getting your priorities straight" here, apparently means get a job, make lots of babies, and have no time to take care of yourself AS SOON AS YOU CAN!!! Although in all fairness, considering how young many of them start, it's likely that making babies as soon as they do was likely not planned, and they are forced into throwing everything into work and taking care of their children that taking care of themselves goes right out the window. Ugh.
(Then again, I guess one should be surprised when 80% of the population believes that contraception is a sin. But we won't needlessly go there here.)
(Then again, I guess one should be surprised when 80% of the population believes that contraception is a sin. But we won't needlessly go there here.)
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If we clicked well enough, age wouldn't matter too much. I'd prefer he be my age or older than myself. But I probably wouldn't marry someone much more than 10 or 12 years older. Cause I'd want to spend more time with him. I wouldn't want to outlive the guy I loved by too many years.
Friendship-wise, I tend to be drawn toward people who prize wisdom over ambition (and who are maybe a little rebellious too, hehe). This makes age less important to me. Though it's nice to have friends who get your generational references too of course.
Friendship-wise, I tend to be drawn toward people who prize wisdom over ambition (and who are maybe a little rebellious too, hehe). This makes age less important to me. Though it's nice to have friends who get your generational references too of course.
Oh, and i'm rebellious-ish-eque-y. hmm..