So let's rewind.
What, exactly, do you have to offer this wife you absolutely must have?
Your story is the exact reason why myself and many of both my male and female friends are single.
We meet lots of singles who want, want, want: "Love ME, adore ME, heal ME, make ME forget all my problems, make ME feel better!"
But when asked what THEY have to give to the OTHER person - they don't even have an answer, let alone a clue - because all they've thought about is everything they want the other person to do and be for them.
In fact, they don't even bother asking what the other person wants or needs - because they're too busy rolling out their list of expectations, and it's the length of a jumbo size roll of toilet paper.
So... Which category do you fit under?