Are there single Christian girls in Finland ?

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Lynx

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Love her, adore her, heal her, make her forget all her problems, make her feel better.

And give her a provider with faith in Christ. And a family.
For some reason I keep thinking about an xkcd comic...

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"I'm nothing without you" is such a terribly messed up sentiment.
 

seoulsearch

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Love her, adore her, heal her, make her forget all her problems, make her feel better.

And give her a provider with faith in Christ. And a family.
What do you do for a living?
 

TenderHeart

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So let's rewind.

What, exactly, do you have to offer this wife you absolutely must have?

Your story is the exact reason why myself and many of both my male and female friends are single.

We meet lots of singles who want, want, want: "Love ME, adore ME, heal ME, make ME forget all my problems, make ME feel better!"

But when asked what THEY have to give to the OTHER person - they don't even have an answer, let alone a clue - because all they've thought about is everything they want the other person to do and be for them.

In fact, they don't even bother asking what the other person wants or needs - because they're too busy rolling out their list of expectations, and it's the length of a jumbo size roll of toilet paper.

So... Which category do you fit under?
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🎯
 

TenderHeart

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Agree, you come across as very self-centered. It’s all about what you want. Biggest turn off ever. Even if the most ‘perfect’ Christian Finnish girl showed up, who’s to say she would want you? What can you even offer her? You’re approaching relationships very self-centered. Good luck with that.

God bless you
 

Kauko

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Agree, you come across as very self-centered. It’s all about what you want. Biggest turn off ever. Even if the most ‘perfect’ Christian Finnish girl showed up, who’s to say she would want you? What can you even offer her? You’re approaching relationships very self-centered. Good luck with that.

God bless you
What a question. I cant know this until I meet her.
 

Lynx

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I guess this is flaming right ?
Oh, no no no no no. No. No way.

Yeah, no, if I were flaming it would be WAY more blatant. Ask anybody here. I am a few things, but nobody has ever accused me of being subtle. :p
 

Kauko

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Ok, if you are just going to repeat the same over and over, just tell what you say I must do now.
 

Kauko

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Forget about the girl, get a cat/dog for company and develop your relationship with the Lord and learn of his plan for your life like the rest of us.
A pet ? No way.

I want a girl. I want a girl. Why I cant ?
 

Lynx

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If I dont get a girl I will have no future !
That's exactly why you're not ready for a girl. You'd drive her batty. No girl can put up with that much neediness for long.

It's like having a dog that has to be always leaning against your leg, getting his ears scratched, or he whines.

Speaking of which, get a dog for five years. If you can't take care of a dog, you can't take care of a lady.
 

Kauko

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That's exactly why you're not ready for a girl. You'd drive her batty. No girl can put up with that much neediness for long.

It's like having a dog that has to be always leaning against your leg, getting his ears scratched, or he whines.

Speaking of which, get a dog for five years. If you can't take care of a dog, you can't take care of a lady.
So what you say I must do ?

Im not going to have a pet anyways. I hate pets. They are really dirty and never grow up. A girl is far better than a pet. I prefer loneliness to a dirty pet.
 

seoulsearch

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So what you say I must do ?

Im not going to have a pet anyways. I hate pets. They are really dirty and never grow up. A girl is far better than a pet. I prefer loneliness to a dirty pet.
So what if the girl of your dreams adores pets?
 

cinder

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I was talking about the person I could be in the future if I was still alone.
You are in control of the person you become in the future. Being single or married is not the determining factor. Using being single as an excuse to not become the best version of yourself, seems like a lot of single young men do that and then wonder why they stay single.

Love her, adore her, heal her, make her forget all her problems, make her feel better.

And give her a provider with faith in Christ. And a family.
This sounds like you want to treat marriage as a drug. A happy pill that makes you feel good and forget all your problems. Successful marriages aren't based on that. Successful marriages are about sharing some common goals and building a life together that pursues those goals. I don't think any healthy relationship lasts when people are holding on to it for the sake of having and being in a relationship.

And as a single Christian female, I'm just going to go on record saying.... I don't want a flatterer to tell me I'm wonderful when I'm not being so wonderful or tell me don't worry everything's fine when it's all about to come crashing down. I want a collaborator who isn't afraid to tackle problems head on and faces them realistically but with courage and confidence. If all you can do is make someone feel better, there's a whole self help / self esteem industry that makes money telling people how wonderful they are and all they ask in return is a little money.