Yes, I'm afraid they're not all that happy clappy, but the idea of asking your parents or someone else with common sense can be smart. One guy from India from another forum really got married like that. He let his parents pick someone. He didn't think she was beautiful or attractive, but she was really nice. Wonder how it works out.
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I recommend Paul Washers video on dating courtship and marriage im nt sure if this was the sermon
I heard but it was a great realistic sermon God changed my life through it
frankly it moved me from a 'dreamy state' to growing up and I thank God for this man and how the Lord used this to transform more into the image of his Son Jesus a bit more
one of his main points is a girl nor a boy should marry rather by God's Spirit preparing over time a girl growing into a real woman and a boy into a man anything short of that you cannot marry that person you cannot hold that person in your arms and say im ready for marriage if you don't want to bear the responsibility and weight
the Hebrew or greek of the word Honor partly means to bear weight- something to that effect anyway.
I recommend Paul Washers video on dating courtship and marriage im nt sure if this was the sermon
I heard but it was a great realistic sermon God changed my life through it
frankly it moved me from a 'dreamy state' to growing up and I thank God for this man and how the Lord used this to transform more into the image of his Son Jesus a bit more
one of his main points is a girl nor a boy should marry rather by God's Spirit preparing over time a girl growing into a real woman and a boy into a man anything short of that you cannot marry that person you cannot hold that person in your arms and say im ready for marriage if you don't want to bear the responsibility and weight
the Hebrew or greek of the word Honor partly means to bear weight- something to that effect anyway.
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Yep. Not an ideal one obviously but Marriage is a very serious vow. It doesn't come with any guarantees of being happy. Might as well just change the whole "for better or for worse" to "until one of us isn't happy with it anymore".
Happiness is the ideal obviously but in reality, that doesn't happen a lot of the time. That is true whether it is arranged or chosen.
Happiness is the ideal obviously but in reality, that doesn't happen a lot of the time. That is true whether it is arranged or chosen.
I agree 100% man. I didn't grow up in a Christian home, nor did I even try to live trying to do "the right thing" for the vast majority of my life, but one thing God did bless me with is honesty. I have been with the same woman since high school, as a matter of fact I have now been with her for longer than I was not with her. Together at 17 and I'm now 36. Man I am so thankful for her, but I remember being with her for 8-9 years and not being married yet. We lived together and everything else we shouldn't have been doing then, even our first son was born before we were married, but I wanted to make sure that when I stood before God & everyone we knew, and vowed to stay with her threw think and thin forever, that I meant it.
I'm not sure why that particular thing was so important to me, heck it wasn't like I was a very moral person at the time, but it was just something God put in my heart even then, and I praise His name for it. I felt that was very important even then and wish more people were more serious about it these days, because while it is very hard work and not "easy" by any stretch of the imagination, man was it/is it worth it SO much.
I'm not sure why that particular thing was so important to me, heck it wasn't like I was a very moral person at the time, but it was just something God put in my heart even then, and I praise His name for it. I felt that was very important even then and wish more people were more serious about it these days, because while it is very hard work and not "easy" by any stretch of the imagination, man was it/is it worth it SO much.
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Within the next two or three I would be ready for marriage, so right now would be a great time to meet that person and start building a relationship.
As a person who doesn't believe in divorce, I take marriage extremely seriously. My mother and father were never together after I was born, therefore I grew up in broken home all life. I'm not going to continue that cycle.
As a person who doesn't believe in divorce, I take marriage extremely seriously. My mother and father were never together after I was born, therefore I grew up in broken home all life. I'm not going to continue that cycle.
I just did what he said. Then you don't have problems and fights. But if you get kids and you have to do everything alone and suddenly must take the lead, but just as he wants it, impossible. A stepdad with a new set of rules with kids who are used that I listen to them, for me that is impossible. I still listen to my ex. Then you have 2 bosses wanting to go a different direction. No thanks.
As a married man, I don't find marriage hard at all. If anything, I find it quite easy! I am loving life and my wife. Infact, I don't think marriage was meant to be hard, your getting to spend the rest of your life with someone you love.
I think when people talk about the struggles with marriage.. they are really talking about struggles with married with children. Suddenly your responsibility levels shoot up to levels that you just have to deal with, which add stress to the relationship. Children pretty much are burdens.. financially, emotionally, time-wise... lovable burdens, but burdens non-the-less and as the saying goes, "I can't live without my kids".
But marriage? I find marriage easy.. if you don't, I think perhaps you and your spouse don't mesh very well. That's just my opinion.
I think when people talk about the struggles with marriage.. they are really talking about struggles with married with children. Suddenly your responsibility levels shoot up to levels that you just have to deal with, which add stress to the relationship. Children pretty much are burdens.. financially, emotionally, time-wise... lovable burdens, but burdens non-the-less and as the saying goes, "I can't live without my kids".
But marriage? I find marriage easy.. if you don't, I think perhaps you and your spouse don't mesh very well. That's just my opinion.
