I work at being aware of what I say to others, and to how it might land. I try to listen to what the person I am responding to is saying and thinking like it were my own words.
So it was a surprise to me when a member accused me of bullying other people on this forum, and has said that other people agree with the assessment of me being a bully. I went to this person in a PM, but they will not tell me where I have bullied others so that I can make amends to those I've hurt, or see evidence of the behavior so I can change it.
I don't want to behave in a bullying fashion, so if I have done this to you, or treated you unkindly and you've been afraid to approach me about it, I welcome your correction. I mess stuff up all the time, and I would love for my errors to be kindly brought to my attention. Now, I am not looking for a pat on the back, I really do want you to tell me if I have gotten it wrong where you are concerned. If you don't feel comfy posting here, please do pm me. Links and/or quotes would be helpful.
(Please be kind, can you imagine opening yourself up to the board like this? This is scary, but if I am wrong, I'd rather be corrected than stupidly act cruelly to others.)
Otherwise, I will chalk this up to this person trolling me.
Thanks!
Ole