"Boring" Christian Men?

[alienx7587]

I read a letter recently written by a young Christian woman that seemed to be a large rant against Christian men. She complained about how she never could meet the right guy, and how she felt all the Christian men she knew were "sedentary" and never really had anything going on in their lives. She admits that her daydream is for Christian Slater to show up at church and sweep her off her feet as her knight in shining armor. Yet, she insists that she is "not the bad boy type".

Women like to have excitement in their lives, I (and most men) get that. However, judging us on the first date (or even before) by the lack of earthly activities we have scheduled throughout the week hardly seems fair!

This woman is definitely not the first woman I've come across with this attitude. This woman's attitude wreaks of selfishness and earthly desire. Please note, I'm not naive enough to think this type of issue is related only by woman, but it happened that a woman wrote the message. When women write these things and feel this way it is very discouraging at times. Personally, I feel that I don't have much going on in my life that a woman would be interested in or attracted to. After all, I'm just transitioning out of academia into an unstable economy.

To women: Living for and glorifying the Lord is the most exciting and challenging things we men have to do. That's where the real "excitement" is. Regardless of your gender, a relationship with God (as with any relationship) requires never ending maintenance. Our society is constantly telling us to remain sedentary and allow others (especially others) to work for us or bring us pleasure.

 

[alienx7587]

Hmm.. that ended kind of short. So basically, women, take a little more risks in showing kindness! Personally, kindness and selflessness really draw me to a woman more than anything. Encourage us and show us there are still admirable Christian women out there worth pursuing!

 

[AsifinPassing]

While not all women can be included in that, I hear ya bro. I'e heard that time and time again. Some women want a Christian/Worldly man. It shouldn't work that way. Like scripture tells us, a servant cannot serve two masters. So if partying and riches are their idea of excitement, this is likely not going to be in a strong Christian man's life.

Now, if you want to skydive together, hit me up. ^_~ lol

 

[KiwiCA]

Amen brother.

To the women, theres nothing sexier than a man who loves Jesus, his bible and and wanting to be a leader with his wife, children and other men. Get your standards of men from the bible and leave the attraction and romanticism up to God, he knows what is best for us and is a fantastic matchmaker.

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

Interesting topic. Despite my antipathy for romance and affairs of the heart (with regards to myself, not others tender interests ), I agree that people need to stop and consider what they need, rather than what they want. Aahh, desires of the flesh!

 

[Relena7]

Pfffft, I don't buy into that all Christian men are boring thing. There are plenty of "boring" nonchristian guys out there. And I've met some Christian guys with colorful personalities that you couldn't box in if you tried.

And besides, what I consider boring is what others here might call worldly. People who only care about vain things, and going to parties, being popular, and having the best stuff, and being super successful (it's good to have dreams, but it shouldn't be all you care about). That kind of thing bores me to death.

 

[See_KING_Truth]

Living for and glorifying the Lord is the most exciting and challenging things we men have to do. That's where the real "excitement" is. Regardless of your gender, a relationship with God (as with any relationship) requires never ending maintenance.

You said it!!!!!

 

[Catlynn]

I'm not sure I completely understand what the OP meant by "exciting" in regards to Christian men. Like....he's exciting if he has a lot of money and is successful in his job and whatnot?
To me, a man who seeks God's face in every facet of life is most exciting. Someone who is actively involved in some sort of ministry is also quite fantastic. I think that the most exciting things to me are when a man is active in his relationship with the Lord. The Lord and His truth have always been the most captivating thing to see in a person's life. In fact, I'm kind of bored by the man who wants to only pursue a career and money. :/ But that might just be me.
There are women out there who don't hold all of their values in material things. Be encouraged by that! A woman SHOULD be looking for evidence of God in someone's life above everything else. I think, though, that only a woman who is close to God herself will even be looking for that so you don't really want any other one anyway. haha
Cheerio!

 

[eelhsa]

I think that the most exciting things to me are when a man is active in his relationship with the Lord. The Lord and His truth have always been the most captivating thing to see in a person's life. In fact, I'm kind of bored by the man who wants to only pursue a career and money. ... A woman SHOULD be looking for evidence of God in someone's life above everything else. I think, though, that only a woman who is close to God herself will even be looking for that so you don't really want any other one anyway. haha
Cheerio!

I agree Catlynn. When a woman has this focus, she will be looking for a man who has the same motivation in his life. (And the same goes for a man seeking a Christian woman). The point is that God needs to be our highest priority, everything else will come out of that.

The world definitely has different ideas about what is admirable and "exciting". I personally am not interested in a man who goes to bars and parties and that kind of thing. I'm looking for a man who's life glorifies God, and I am trying to lead that kind of life as well. Hopefully then, if it's God's will that I get married, both my husband and I will glorify the Lord together. I'm not looking for someone who's perfect, because obviously, I am not perfect, but I do have morals and values that I will not compromise.

Anyway, to me it just seems that it would not be an issue if we looked to God first and foremost in our lives.There is certainly nothing boring about leading a godly life, whatever the rest of the world tries to tell you.

So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. ~Matthew 6:31-33, NIV


So, if God cares for us in this way physically, won't He also care for us in every other way? He knows our hearts and He understands everything we go through. We need to trust Him.

 

[Ritter]

What she is doing is mistaking a trend in Western Civilization for a trend in the Church. I should write a counter-rant against women who lack sociological awareness.

 

[Relena7]

What she is doing is mistaking a trend in Western Civilization for a trend in the Church. I should write a counter-rant against women who lack sociological awareness.

Two rants don't make an un-rant.

 

[Catlynn]

And skydiving is awesome.

 

[Ritter]

Two rants don't make an un-rant.

No, but drawing metaphorical blood is fun.

 

[alienx7587]

Very good points, everyone! I think what the woman meant by "exciting" is that the guy did not continually stimulate her interest. I don't know about other guys, but my life will never be all about a woman. Only Christ can be the center of my life, as that is the only way I feel fulfilled.

For example, a major theme of our culture is to tell us that we can fulfill our deepest feelings and desires for excitement by engaging in promiscuous behavior, but even sex is God-made. So without God, the act of sex itself fulfills nothing (Song of Solomon.)

What she is doing is mistaking a trend in Western Civilization for a trend in the Church. I should write a counter-rant against women who lack sociological awareness.

Too late! Someone already did, and it sounds very much like the OP.

Two rants don't make an un-rant.

But three lefts make a right!

 

[AsifinPassing]

I'm not sure I completely understand what the OP meant by "exciting" in regards to Christian men. Like....he's exciting if he has a lot of money and is successful in his job and whatnot?
To me, a man who seeks God's face in every facet of life is most exciting. Someone who is actively involved in some sort of ministry is also quite fantastic. I think that the most exciting things to me are when a man is active in his relationship with the Lord. The Lord and His truth have always been the most captivating thing to see in a person's life. In fact, I'm kind of bored by the man who wants to only pursue a career and money. :/ But that might just be me.
There are women out there who don't hold all of their values in material things. Be encouraged by that! A woman SHOULD be looking for evidence of God in someone's life above everything else. I think, though, that only a woman who is close to God herself will even be looking for that so you don't really want any other one anyway. haha
Cheerio!

And skydiving is awesome.

You're awesome!

...I've actually never been, but it's on my bucket list.

 

[Relena7]

But three lefts make a right!

Just don't get too dizzy.

 

[Tobby17]

If her definition of being exciting is like *NOT* talking most time about God and always interested mostly in Christian activities, then she's going to find me VERY VERY BORING..

 

[Catlynn]

You're awesome!

...I've actually never been, but it's on my bucket list.

Well thanks! It's great fun. I've been twice. I highly recommend going skydiving somewhere beautiful. Skydiving over farmland doesn't seem quite as fantastic as skydiving over Hawaii buuuuuut......I guess you gotta take what you can get. lol It's bound to be a rush either way. ^_^

 

[Jullianna]

Hmmm...exciting doesn't = worldly. Very strange...

God made an amazing world and filled it with awesome places, people, creatures, etc. Trying/learning something new isn't ungodly, but I realize that it's not for everyone. If I were to remain in my own little sheltered world, I don't think I could ever feel as though I was doing all I could for the Kingdom of God. It's not just about personal growth and coming to know Him more deeply. It's lending a helping hand whenever/however possible and sharing that with as many people in as many ways as possible as well. It's the Great Commission. For me, THAT's exciting...even moreso if I could share it with someone else.

 

[Catlynn]

Hmmm...exciting doesn't = worldly. Very strange...

God made an amazing world and filled it with awesome places, people, creatures, etc. Trying/learning something new isn't ungodly, but I realize that it's not for everyone. If I were to remain in my own little sheltered world, I don't think I could ever feel as though I was doing all I could for the Kingdom of God. It's not just about personal growth and coming to know Him more deeply. It's lending a helping hand whenever/however possible and sharing that with as many people in as many ways as possible as well. It's the Great Commission. For me, THAT's exciting...even moreso if I could share it with someone else.

Oh is that what the OP meant? hmm....well then I do want exciting. I want someone who wants to GO and do all that God calls him to do. I think I said that though. I was so unclear on what exciting meant from the beginning. lol Thanks for clearing up my foggy brain, jullianna. ^_^ Sitting and becoming stagnant is NOT cool.