Nothing wrong and everything good on your list of 25.
The problem is, you need a #26. Compassion.
No one gets how necessary it feels to lash back at the person that insults you more than me. But…
If what you say about the other guy is true, then all those other great qualities, without compassion, don’t really mean much.
My friend, don't lag behind. Before I listed those 25 things I said, "Let's list a
few reasons you should be angry." Those 25 were only a
few. I can list the next 100 if you'd like me to. I'm sure you've made mistakes in your life and know a lot of people who've made mistakes in their lives. One of the biggest reasons people make mistakes is pride or thinking they know/understand more than they really do.
Within the
few 25 things I listed, you can see 'compassion'. Let me help you so next time you read something I write, you have better insight:
when I talk to someone(s) who I know wants to listen, I speak very plainly; but when I talk to someone(s) who I know doesn't want to listen or to a group of people and one or two don't want to listen, I use language that's frankly hard to decipher for most people. If you think I'm exaggerating, I can show you.
My younger brother and I made up what we called the "A-Language" when we were growing up. We used this language whenever we were around our parents and didn't want them to know what we were saying. We playfully said the CIA probably couldn't decode it, but all it was was inserting the 'A' (or 'aee') sound wherever there was a vowel sound (a, e, i, o, u), therefore, "A-Language". In the Bible, Jesus spoke parables to people when He realized many didn't want to hear. When you do this, it's your way of conserving your energy, your words, and the things you treasure that some others might not. So yes, I write in a way that can easily be mistaken. (Eg. "Am I not magnificent?" This was like the highest form of ridicule, but it was ridicule with compassion the way you pity a toddler or a puppy that does something stupid.)
So, I know people who don't want to listen by their reactions; and I know people whose hearts are hard because they don't understand. I save my energy this way. So, if I list 25 things, I actually have 200 to list. Lol. What do you think that means? Oh, and I meant those things I said to Live4Him3. I just didn't/don't have any feelings of animosity towards him. I pity him in the realest way. There's not a woman on this planet that would want to be with him, and he can't figure out it's because of the way he is, not because women don't appreciate 'nice guys'. They don't! LOL. Okay. I'm out. Read things slowly. If you can't discern beyond what you're accustomed to (ie. "Anyone who talks like this is angry; anyone who acts like this is arrogant", etc.), you won't be growing in discernment, and you'll never be able to see beyond a person's exerior.