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I'm going to say something controversial, which probably applies to none of you as you are all Christians, but it is something I've noticed.
Remember the whole sexual revolution thing in the 60s? I don't think that was really for men at all, but instead for women. It was mainly for women to have their own utopia of being able to sleep around with whomever they please without consequence or judgement. It broke society's mold into letting women basically have free range and go for the alpha male constantly instead of settling for a good beta male who would provide for them as a husband. I mean statistics don't really lie... the average age of marriage before that time was 20. Nowadays it is 26. Also, for men at least, 90% of all men were able to find at least one marriage partner in their lives before 1960. Since then, it has dropped to about 60%. These are real statistics. Women changed their mind about the provider beta male and instead went for the alpha male. Part of it also has to do with women having the ability to provide for themselves after the whole feminist movement was able to get the same type of jobs men got. That isn't a bad thing, but there are obvious consequences that went with it in terms of relationships.
Now what am I really getting at? Beta men kind of became superfluous until women started double clutching after years of dating alpha males who won't commit or lower their standards and settle down. Monogamy used to be societies norm, and having multiple partners throughout the years was just a big black eye on people back then. It is completely different today. That mold got shattered.
What does it really mean? I'm not saying this applies to any of you here... but it is something I've noticed. Women peak at their beauty ultimately at an early age... in their early 20s. They look amazing and their absolute best during that time. MEN however, don't really reach their physical primes until a later age. We start looking better, we have good careers, we have money, and we have self confidence that we may not have had in our early years. The sexual revolution basically made women able to pick and choose whoever they want, but they go for the alpha males that don't want them back. Women say to themselves, "I'm looking amazing and these guys my age don't have it together yet, so why would I marry?" and so they don't. When they get to their 30's though, they lost some of their fertility (psychological thing), they aren't looking as good, and they are jaded by years of bad relationships with alpha males. They aren't as desirable anymore, and their years of turning down good men because they aren't completely mature yet screwed them over for their future. How? The men in their 30s have everything going for them all of a sudden, and then THEY can pick and choose who they want, and they will go for the girls in their 20s who are still looking amazing. It's a big psychological game and it's depressing, but it's the way society is now.
I'm not saying this applies to any one of you, but it is something I think no one thinks about. It might not be completely accurate, but I've seen it enough to know there are some truths there. There's a very big reason why the world is flooded with divorce and older singles compared to 50 years ago. I hope no one takes offense to this statement though, because I am just a young kid who thinks he knows it all
Every situation is different, and it probably does not even apply to most Christians, but it is something to think about with why society is so messed up these days.
Remember the whole sexual revolution thing in the 60s? I don't think that was really for men at all, but instead for women. It was mainly for women to have their own utopia of being able to sleep around with whomever they please without consequence or judgement. It broke society's mold into letting women basically have free range and go for the alpha male constantly instead of settling for a good beta male who would provide for them as a husband. I mean statistics don't really lie... the average age of marriage before that time was 20. Nowadays it is 26. Also, for men at least, 90% of all men were able to find at least one marriage partner in their lives before 1960. Since then, it has dropped to about 60%. These are real statistics. Women changed their mind about the provider beta male and instead went for the alpha male. Part of it also has to do with women having the ability to provide for themselves after the whole feminist movement was able to get the same type of jobs men got. That isn't a bad thing, but there are obvious consequences that went with it in terms of relationships.
Now what am I really getting at? Beta men kind of became superfluous until women started double clutching after years of dating alpha males who won't commit or lower their standards and settle down. Monogamy used to be societies norm, and having multiple partners throughout the years was just a big black eye on people back then. It is completely different today. That mold got shattered.
What does it really mean? I'm not saying this applies to any of you here... but it is something I've noticed. Women peak at their beauty ultimately at an early age... in their early 20s. They look amazing and their absolute best during that time. MEN however, don't really reach their physical primes until a later age. We start looking better, we have good careers, we have money, and we have self confidence that we may not have had in our early years. The sexual revolution basically made women able to pick and choose whoever they want, but they go for the alpha males that don't want them back. Women say to themselves, "I'm looking amazing and these guys my age don't have it together yet, so why would I marry?" and so they don't. When they get to their 30's though, they lost some of their fertility (psychological thing), they aren't looking as good, and they are jaded by years of bad relationships with alpha males. They aren't as desirable anymore, and their years of turning down good men because they aren't completely mature yet screwed them over for their future. How? The men in their 30s have everything going for them all of a sudden, and then THEY can pick and choose who they want, and they will go for the girls in their 20s who are still looking amazing. It's a big psychological game and it's depressing, but it's the way society is now.
I'm not saying this applies to any one of you, but it is something I think no one thinks about. It might not be completely accurate, but I've seen it enough to know there are some truths there. There's a very big reason why the world is flooded with divorce and older singles compared to 50 years ago. I hope no one takes offense to this statement though, because I am just a young kid who thinks he knows it all
Every situation is different, and it probably does not even apply to most Christians, but it is something to think about with why society is so messed up these days.
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First off, wow, there're so many ppl out there who, like me, wants to find the right person who loves Christ our Lord =)
I can relate to what some of u said in here. I love to spend what is the remaining years of my earthly years with the one I love, though sometimes I don't think it's really that bad to be alone. If you ever get too lonely, be sure you have friends who you can depend on, and getting a pet might help to ease the loneliness a bit
Of course, it's much better to stay alone than to marry the wrong one. I was that close to marry an atheist once, but am glad I pulled out at the end.
Being married doesn't guarantee you happiness or make your loneliness fades away. And it takes a lot of work to make to work and last. Of coz that shouldn't stop any of us singles from getting married if we were to find the right person, but know everything is in God's plan, and marry or not, life is good coz God is awesome!
I can relate to what some of u said in here. I love to spend what is the remaining years of my earthly years with the one I love, though sometimes I don't think it's really that bad to be alone. If you ever get too lonely, be sure you have friends who you can depend on, and getting a pet might help to ease the loneliness a bit
Of course, it's much better to stay alone than to marry the wrong one. I was that close to marry an atheist once, but am glad I pulled out at the end.
Being married doesn't guarantee you happiness or make your loneliness fades away. And it takes a lot of work to make to work and last. Of coz that shouldn't stop any of us singles from getting married if we were to find the right person, but know everything is in God's plan, and marry or not, life is good coz God is awesome!
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Hello I just turned 34 and live in Texas. I am a single parent of a wonderful 5 year old and I just recently began this amazing journey with God. Unlike many of you, I am not looking for anyone to settle down with. I think if it's in God's plan for me to marry, I will meet that person, and if not... I won't! Stressing over it one way or the other will not change the reality of the situation, and will only cause you to be unhappy and bitter with your situation. I am very happy just being social and meeting new and interesting people, and have learned to value the wonderful qualities of a true friendship over a relationship! I would much rather have a host of godly friends than a room full of failed relationships because I tried too hard.
I agree very much with DABEARS explanation about why it is many people cannot find a partner. That's not to say God cannot interevene and bring two people together, but as a general rule, I think we are destined to live in the society we (as a people) created. Hindsight is always 20/20!
I just turned 34 and live in Texas. I am a single parent of a wonderful 5 year old and I just recently began this amazing journey with God. Unlike many of you, I am not looking for anyone to settle down with. I think if it's in God's plan for me to marry, I will meet that person, and if not... I won't! Stressing over it one way or the other will not change the reality of the situation, and will only cause you to be unhappy and bitter with your situation. I am very happy just being social and meeting new and interesting people, and have learned to value the wonderful qualities of a true friendship over a relationship! I would much rather have a host of godly friends than a room full of failed relationships because I tried too hard. I agree very much with DABEARS explanation about why it is many people cannot find a partner. That's not to say God cannot interevene and bring two people together, but as a general rule, I think we are destined to live in the society we (as a people) created. Hindsight is always 20/20!
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Ya know, at the risk of being thought of as gross, and being arrested, I think in some ways that's kinda cool. You would get all of her best years, and she could pump out 4 or 5 kids before she's 20. It would be easier for her to lose all the weight after having babies. She also wouldn't have to put up with a man in his early 20s with no direction and purpose and money. She gets a man who knows what he's doing. I would start a new thread about this but I don't want to get arrested.
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I'm going to say something controversial, which probably applies to none of you as you are all Christians, but it is something I've noticed.
Remember the whole sexual revolution thing in the 60s? I don't think that was really for men at all, but instead for women. It was mainly for women to have their own utopia of being able to sleep around with whomever they please without consequence or judgement. It broke society's mold into letting women basically have free range and go for the alpha male constantly instead of settling for a good beta male who would provide for them as a husband. I mean statistics don't really lie... the average age of marriage before that time was 20. Nowadays it is 26. Also, for men at least, 90% of all men were able to find at least one marriage partner in their lives before 1960. Since then, it has dropped to about 60%. These are real statistics. Women changed their mind about the provider beta male and instead went for the alpha male. Part of it also has to do with women having the ability to provide for themselves after the whole feminist movement was able to get the same type of jobs men got. That isn't a bad thing, but there are obvious consequences that went with it in terms of relationships.
Now what am I really getting at? Beta men kind of became superfluous until women started double clutching after years of dating alpha males who won't commit or lower their standards and settle down. Monogamy used to be societies norm, and having multiple partners throughout the years was just a big black eye on people back then. It is completely different today. That mold got shattered.
What does it really mean? I'm not saying this applies to any of you here... but it is something I've noticed. Women peak at their beauty ultimately at an early age... in their early 20s. They look amazing and their absolute best during that time. MEN however, don't really reach their physical primes until a later age. We start looking better, we have good careers, we have money, and we have self confidence that we may not have had in our early years. The sexual revolution basically made women able to pick and choose whoever they want, but they go for the alpha males that don't want them back. Women say to themselves, "I'm looking amazing and these guys my age don't have it together yet, so why would I marry?" and so they don't. When they get to their 30's though, they lost some of their fertility (psychological thing), they aren't looking as good, and they are jaded by years of bad relationships with alpha males. They aren't as desirable anymore, and their years of turning down good men because they aren't completely mature yet screwed them over for their future. How? The men in their 30s have everything going for them all of a sudden, and then THEY can pick and choose who they want, and they will go for the girls in their 20s who are still looking amazing. It's a big psychological game and it's depressing, but it's the way society is now.
I'm not saying this applies to any one of you, but it is something I think no one thinks about. It might not be completely accurate, but I've seen it enough to know there are some truths there. There's a very big reason why the world is flooded with divorce and older singles compared to 50 years ago. I hope no one takes offense to this statement though, because I am just a young kid who thinks he knows it all Every situation is different, and it probably does not even apply to most Christians, but it is something to think about with why society is so messed up these days.
Remember the whole sexual revolution thing in the 60s? I don't think that was really for men at all, but instead for women. It was mainly for women to have their own utopia of being able to sleep around with whomever they please without consequence or judgement. It broke society's mold into letting women basically have free range and go for the alpha male constantly instead of settling for a good beta male who would provide for them as a husband. I mean statistics don't really lie... the average age of marriage before that time was 20. Nowadays it is 26. Also, for men at least, 90% of all men were able to find at least one marriage partner in their lives before 1960. Since then, it has dropped to about 60%. These are real statistics. Women changed their mind about the provider beta male and instead went for the alpha male. Part of it also has to do with women having the ability to provide for themselves after the whole feminist movement was able to get the same type of jobs men got. That isn't a bad thing, but there are obvious consequences that went with it in terms of relationships.
Now what am I really getting at? Beta men kind of became superfluous until women started double clutching after years of dating alpha males who won't commit or lower their standards and settle down. Monogamy used to be societies norm, and having multiple partners throughout the years was just a big black eye on people back then. It is completely different today. That mold got shattered.
What does it really mean? I'm not saying this applies to any of you here... but it is something I've noticed. Women peak at their beauty ultimately at an early age... in their early 20s. They look amazing and their absolute best during that time. MEN however, don't really reach their physical primes until a later age. We start looking better, we have good careers, we have money, and we have self confidence that we may not have had in our early years. The sexual revolution basically made women able to pick and choose whoever they want, but they go for the alpha males that don't want them back. Women say to themselves, "I'm looking amazing and these guys my age don't have it together yet, so why would I marry?" and so they don't. When they get to their 30's though, they lost some of their fertility (psychological thing), they aren't looking as good, and they are jaded by years of bad relationships with alpha males. They aren't as desirable anymore, and their years of turning down good men because they aren't completely mature yet screwed them over for their future. How? The men in their 30s have everything going for them all of a sudden, and then THEY can pick and choose who they want, and they will go for the girls in their 20s who are still looking amazing. It's a big psychological game and it's depressing, but it's the way society is now.
I'm not saying this applies to any one of you, but it is something I think no one thinks about. It might not be completely accurate, but I've seen it enough to know there are some truths there. There's a very big reason why the world is flooded with divorce and older singles compared to 50 years ago. I hope no one takes offense to this statement though, because I am just a young kid who thinks he knows it all
Every situation is different, and it probably does not even apply to most Christians, but it is something to think about with why society is so messed up these days.
I made a comment about something like this. I think this is very true. I personally wish the drug/sexual revolutions of the 60's had never happened. I think America would be in much better shape. Not just morally, but financially, govermentally, and societally. Some agree with me, some do not.