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GreenNnice

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You've answered your own question. God says don't yoke yourself to a non-believer, in dating one you'd be doing that very thing He tells you not to do. There is NO BUT, God changes people, we don't. God may choose to use you in changing this mans heart through a friendship.

Another thing to note is that saying "nothing would change my faith", is a challenge for the enemy. I've noticed people around me say things to this extent and then they crumble. If you let the world in, even just a bit now, it will make it harder for you and in turn it will change your faith in a different way (even if the change is simply that your faith is constantly being tested).

Seek God in all you do. God bless!



Very wise words said right here by SmileON:)
 
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GreenNnice

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hi,

so im kinda in a situation where i like this guy and he likes me. sadly hes not very religious and i am. nothing will change my faith but i like him and could see myself dating him. Is it wrong to date a non christian? I know 2 corinthians 6:14 says not to be yoked with unbelievers but theres always that chance that they will convert to christianity through Gods calling. Ive also read about "Missionary dating" im just confused and would like some opinions on what I should do. at this point im kinda thinking whatever happens happens but im standing strong in my faith and not going to be afraid to express it
"...you follow Me." John 21:22

"Pray without ceasing" it says in 1 Thessalonians 5.

The Lord leads. :)

I'm too young to date and not ready...

So here are my useless thoughts... I don't think he could change your faith. At the same time he does not believe what you believe in, therefore he may be okay with things you are not. This will lead to different wants in the relationship.

Like for me I am saving myself for marriage. I would think way more Christian guys would respect that than non-believers.

Last we can change no one but ourselves. Of course he could convert. You may lead him to Jesus. I would try to do that as a friend. I just would never think, 'hey I'll date that guy and he will see my love for Jesus and believe.'

Best of luck!
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lexi
I have a great Idea....you pray for me and I'll pray for you :) I'm so glad God sent you this way. You have encouraged my heart . I love you <3
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I have a great Idea.... you pray for me and I'll pray for you :) I'm so glad God sent you this way. You have encouraged my heart . I love you <3
Lexis is an Alaskan Angel (that's why she is AA)
 
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colalella2891

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I wouldn't say it's wrong, but it won't do you any good. One of the most common problems with this is: One person wants to have sex before marriage, one doesn't. Not to judge, but he probably does. Wait for the person God has for you.
 
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Something to think about:

There's NO WAY to give your heart to a man without opening yourself up to his own beliefs, priorities and convictions (or lack thereof). You might be able to casually date someone who doesn't know Christ (or is much less mature spiritually than you) but any serious relationship that involves love or even affection will certainly put your own faith at risk.
 
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Crazylove

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We're th same age and from one sister to another, do not do it. You don't want to settle for a non-Christians. As much as u want to, u don't need to, if a man has no respect for God he will hav no respect for u. A godly woman deserves no Christian and especially no non-Christian, but deserves a godly man who will do and not do things and love u becuz he loves God first. Plz don't settle sister.... Most of all pray and search God's word for ur answer, for His guidance and truth :)
 

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I've known people who have "missionary dated" and it has always ended in broken hearts for one of the following reasons.

A) Non christian does not convert and the christian ends up leaving because their convictions get the better of them

B) Non Christian does not convert but the christian stays with them and compromises their faith, years later they look back and can't help but wonder what they were thinking

C) Non christian "converts" and makes a good show of it until a few months after the wedding when it becomes clear that their conversion was just a ruse to get the spouse
 
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MySavior

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dating a non christian shouldn't be a problem unless they can accept u are a christian
 
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TaylorTG

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@reborn_again
Well, well well! Almost everyone on this thread advised against you taking further steps with that guy. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best.
 
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hi,

so im kinda in a situation where i like this guy and he likes me. sadly hes not very religious and i am. nothing will change my faith but i like him and could see myself dating him. Is it wrong to date a non christian? I know 2 corinthians 6:14 says not to be yoked with unbelievers but theres always that chance that they will convert to christianity through Gods calling. Ive also read about "Missionary dating" im just confused and would like some opinions on what I should do. at this point im kinda thinking whatever happens happens but im standing strong in my faith and not going to be afraid to express it

be careful..."nothing will change my faith" you never know what the future will hold
my personal story:
I was a christian , dated a non-believer, now i am an atheist.
Now it wasn't directly because of our relationship but it planted the seeds of doubt you could say.
I thought I could change her mind (missionary dating) and it did not work out that way.
So my advice is stay friends but be careful forming an emotional attachment with someone with different beliefs because in the end it rarely works out.
 
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TaylorTG

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@doseofreality
You joined yesterday, eh? Thanks for taking the time to contribute to this website and to this thread. It's good to have people here who are on the other side. More diverse conversations, you see?
 
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@doseofreality
You joined yesterday, eh? Thanks for taking the time to contribute to this website and to this thread. It's good to have people here who are on the other side. More diverse conversations, you see?
Thank you, i appreciate the gesture. I agree, the more diverse the ideas the better and the more one can learn. I have the perspective of both sides and it helps me understand where people are coming from.
 
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TaylorTG

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@doseofreality

I was born and raised in the United states, then moved to a third-world country. Despite the hardships here that are non-existent in the states, I appreciate my time here. I learn whats it like to be on the other side of the Earth. Good for character building skills, see?

Yep, having both sides of the story really does help understand what people are thinking. It helps to foster growth and understanding, things that this world can never get enough of.
 
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So the question pops up yet again and somebody will ask it again and again.

Bible says no. End of story.
Cheating, lack of honesty or commitment, bad experiences and hurting have said not (to me).
 
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I was born and raised in the United states, then moved to a third-world country. Despite the hardships here that are non-existent in the states, I appreciate my time here. I learn whats it like to be on the other side of the Earth. Good for character building skills, see?

Yep, having both sides of the story really does help understand what people are thinking. It helps to foster growth and understanding, things that this world can never get enough of.
Well! I haven't left this third-world you mentioned (I wish I leave it to relocate in the moon or somewhere else) but character and building skills are edified all around this atmosphere.

There in the USA, Cuba, China, Africa (etc) the same personal aspirations are sought for people to enjoy life, as much as it can be get to please this earthy longings. I've only been to Brazil's border, Colombia (5 moths), Cuba and Venezuela, so my scope is very limited to know those non-existent issues you tried to mention, since here (and there) are poor and rich, and both like the same thing, all over this perishing world.

I'm afraid I thought you didn't know there are poor in the USA (and in those nations) who think they belong to the 1st world. The problem is not in the world, but in the people.


Worthy is to say, that I don't believe in the COMMUNISM of Venezuela and Cuba. That I don't believe in humanism, except on the teaching of the Bible (particularly on those Jesus and the OT teach).
 
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TaylorTG

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@Secularhermit
Nice to meet you!
:confused:I'm talking about...The philippines! The majority of folks are hungry. Starvation and corruption aren't non-existent issues. The authorities in my neighborhood also accept bribes.:)

And the states isn't prefect. The people here think that everyone in the states is rich, what a crazy assumption!
I guess I agree. The general opinions of the people shape the world in both good and bad ways.
And yes, not doing something that we know we shouldn't do and instead work on something more productive promotes character building skills.
I'm not fond of communism either. I'll stick with the democracy which allows the free-market to dominate. The states suffered economic pressures before, but this is a cycle. It always gets back on it's feet.
 
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TaylorTG

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@Rachelsedge
Not at all, my dear. It does, however, leave little room for opposing views.