Coming On Too Strong

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1 Corinthians 10:13
13 No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.
Would you mind explaining what the heck you mean by this?
 

selfdissolving

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Actually, I find being anonymous really brings out my flesh. In point of fact I've never spoken to a woman like that before in my life, but hey, how would you know that?

Anyway dude... you should lift your advice a little. Im just saying...Im not complaining, I dont spend my life complaining I'm just ONCE saying it ONCE and for all (and online for all to see, no less) That the majority of women I've ever met, liked or dated were REPELLED BY THIS INFECTION YOU CALL 'GOD'S GIFT TO ME'... Im gonna start giving my own advice to guys, itll be a lot more useful. sorry if that's rude but my life is a living testimony to what 'doesn't' work when it comes to women. God bless.
Whether you're online or not, from the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.
If you want to attract a Godly woman, be a Godly man.
 

Lynx

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Well, it's possible He is providing vigilance to those you go after too quickly...
If I were a betting man, I would bet on this.
Perhaps a more specific question... How much talking of rubbish must one do and for how long until the woman opens up...and it is safe to ask deeper questions? Respectfully, sir, I don't think the answer is in Proverbs...
Depends on what the deeper questions are, depends on the girl, depends on how you are presenting the questions. Are you asking theological questions or discussing whether she will want you to get a vasectomy? Also, why is the "getting to know you" talk rubbish? If all the talk before the deeper questions is rubbish, somebody needs to find better stuff to talk about.
Do you often make inane statements? I am referring to coming on too strong to women... of course the relationship with God is different than each other. I thought the question was pretty clear ??!?
Do you often call people inane? I'm starting to get a very good idea why those women are being driven away from you.


Mattyboy I would welcome you to the forum, but it seems you are already busy insulting people and will not last long. I will beat the rush and wish you adieu.
 

Mel85

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Would you mind explaining what the heck you mean by this?
I was just replying to SD’s “God gave you that intense come on too strong nature” line.
 
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NoNameMcgee

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You weren't rude, buddy. I'm rude. Sorry for the bad attitude. Cheers.
God bless you man... I hope you find one good woman who is patient and caring who you will appreciate more than anything until death do you two part.

(i think you're not going to scare the right one away if you just are honest and you examine yourself and take it step by step...which would make everything up until then a blessing)
 

PennEd

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NOOOOOOOO!!!! YOU'RE MISSING THE POINT, BRAH !!! hahahahahahhahahah.... seriously. YOU. are missing the point. NO WOMAN LIKES ME. Must I really spell it out? I've repelled more women than Andy Dick, and that's before he was a pervert. All because I misread signs, came on too strong, asked too many questions, fall in love to easily. I am broken... I don't think God intended me to be a one man puppet show anymore than He intended for you to try to cheer me up with platitudes. While your at it, why dont you cut off my weiner with a dull axe and throw salt in it? Its a lot less painful than telling somebody that God created you a freak.
Simply can't imagine why women would shy away. True mystery.
 
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Simply can't imagine why women would shy away. True mystery.

I'm going to go out on a limb and say that you have en even more fitting piece of advice on the horizon? Now THAT I would not shy away from.
 
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A intimate relationship with God is completely different than a relationship with a person
I'm sorry for being rude. Being anonymous makes it very easy...that and I can never seem to ask questions without somebody giving an answer that I don't understand at all nor can contemplate how it remotely relates to my question. I'm not trying to be a smart alec here and serious. And I'm genuinely sorry for being a jerk. That is all.
 

PennEd

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I'm going to go out on a limb and say that you have en even more fitting piece of advice on the horizon? Now THAT I would not shy away from.

Matt. Let's slow down a bit. Welcome to CC!

Now reread your opening post. YOU ASK for advice! Advice is not always something we like to hear, but if we're going to ask for it, we need to be prepared to hear stuff we don't like.

You need to calm down, get closer to the Lord, read your Bible more, and experience His Peace. I think the person who suggested Proverbs is a great idea. It will give you a sense of the type of man God wants us to be.

Be Blessed down under, and get some sleep.
 
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(and because she knew me so well by then maybe it was harder for her to say no.... all I gotta do now is wrestle a ring on her finger and make her sign some papers...then I'm certain God will join us😏🙄)
I bet she could be blushing when reading this...:giggle::p
 

Demi777

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Do you often make inane statements? I am referring to coming on too strong to women... of course the relationship with God is different than each other. I thought the question was pretty clear ??!?
Do u always get rude id ur misunderstood. Seems like u need some anger management
 

BrotherMike

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The Bible is our instruction book for life. It has all kinds of advice including slow to speak slow to anger. Ask God to show you what you need to do to be a Godly man and look into the scriptures. Wish you the best!
 

PennEd

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Are you saying my intense nature is a SIN?
Well think about what you just said in the couple minutes you been here.

You basically said, if women reject me because of my "intense nature" I'm gonna throw a tantrum and get drunk!


I got news for ya. We ALL have an "intense nature". It's called our dead flesh. That is why again and again people are trying to get you to see that the answer is NOT to find a woman who likes your intense dead flesh, but to walk in your NEW LIVING Spirit. THAT is what a Godly woman is looking for.
 

Mel85

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Keeping you in prayers Matt. God loves you, and you are not a freak okay, you are created in His perfect image :)

Keep seeking the Lord and His Ways. He is our ultimate Councillor, and absolutely knows the best for you. Take what you experienced with these women as a learning curve, and surrender it all to God.

Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, our Saviour, and when you do, I guarantee God will show and equip you on how to act, and speak with wisdom and a humble heart.

Blessings in Jesus Christ!
 

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Do you often make inane statements? I am referring to coming on too strong to women... of course the relationship with God is different than each other. I thought the question was pretty clear ??!?
In your opinion did you start an inane thread?
 

tourist

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Has anybody ever wondered how so many christian pastors can give assert God's being so providential in our intimate relationships, while we are the ones who either repel or draw romantic partners? If you're the type who has a tendency to come on too strong, and have repelled (scared) more women away because of your intense personality...isn't it logical to assume God isn't really so involved in this regard when you come on too strong to potential dating partners? (Seriously, I've never understood this and wanted other christians advice because I'm single based on the awkward, intense, and weird person I am. I don't see what part God has to play in all of this, if any..?
Seriously, I would not rely exclusively on Christian pastors advice on how to start a romantic relationship. The part God would play is to assist you in not being such an awkward, intense and weird person that is affecting your confidence and self-esteem. In response to your opening question, no, I have never wondered about this.
 
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