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Have you read Rebekah's story in The Book of Genesis? Do you think that's ridiculous too? God's way is not our way..He knows what is best for us. Does it matter if His best for you or other people may be more than 1000 miles away?
J
That is not a fair argument. There are plenty of things that God condoned in the Old Testament that would not be permissible (even to you) today. .
Just because it happened in the Bible doesn't mean that that is necessarily the same way that it will happen today.
The way people dated in those times was different. Girls also got married and pregnant at 12 or 13. It was just a different time with different circumstances.
What is it that is not permissible today? Dating people who live far away from each other??? Because we are talking about a long distance dating/courtship here, not other things... And who decide if it is permissible or not? YOU?
Whatever happens in the Bible, all the circumstances that happened are meant to show us that we should take them as examples to learn from..They are not just there for nothing!
Where is the Bible scripture to support this???
T
The rules vary from couple to couple but are set out in a meeting between the man, the woman and the parents of both. They set understandings of how the courtship will be conducted and put restrictions on time spent together, physical intimacy, chaperoning etc.
T
That is not a fair argument. There are plenty of things that God condoned in the Old Testament that would not be permissible (even to you) today. Just because it happened in the Bible doesn't mean that that is necessarily the same way that it will happen today. The way people dated in those times was different. Girls also got married and pregnant at 12 or 13. It was just a different time with different circumstances.
I definitely want to be courted in the sense that I want a man to show me that he is interested in a Godly relationship and he is ready to take care of me the way he should, just as I am to show him I am ready to be a wife. But it is not feasible at all to get parents involved. My family doesn't even share the same faith that I do first off. secondly, I am an adult with my own life, career, and mortgage I think I am capable of monitoring my own dates. I would gladly welcome input and advice from church elders though.
J
Right. I didn't say it wasn't. I just said that the circumstances today are different. The themes and concepts are the same, but we shouldn't do exactly the same things. Does that make sense?
What did you learn from Rebekah's story? Answer: Trust in God that He brings the best to you no matter where that best person might be, be it more than 1000miles away or less. That is my point.
It's not there, but it doesn't have to be. Plenty of other historical documents suggest that marriage ages were much younger 2000-3000+ years ago, even more recently than that. The Bible (while accurate) is not the ONLY accurate historical document.
T
No, it doesnt make sense. Please explain further,.. What exactly the same thing are you talking about?
What did you learn from Rebekah's story? Answer: Trust in God that He brings the best to you no matter where that best person might be, be it more than 1000miles away or less. That is my point.
You havent done much homework here. Most of the young marriages are stated in the Koran. Yet we are talking about the Old Testament. However, it is actually irrelevant to my point that I was trying to convey to you..
What did you learn from Rebekah's story? Answer: Trust in God that He brings the best to you no matter where that best person might be, be it more than 1000miles away or less. That is my point.
You havent done much homework here. Most of the young marriages are stated in the Koran. Yet we are talking about the Old Testament. However, it is actually irrelevant to my point that I was trying to convey to you..
Also just to be nit picky, does anyone remember that they were related? Are you going to go to another far odd town and court your 3rd cousin? Probably not. Are you going to also marry her sister and take their servants as wives as well? Probably not.
J
I think Seaco meant that all of our stories and situations are NOT going to mirror the ones in the Bible. Yes the story of Rebekka is a great one to learn from but there are so many other situations and circumstances in life that most peoples dating/courtship won't look anything like that. That is just one family's story.
Also just to be nit picky, does anyone remember that they were related? Are you going to go to another far odd town and court your 3rd cousin? Probably not. Are you going to also marry her sister and take their servants as wives as well? Probably not.
Also just to be nit picky, does anyone remember that they were related? Are you going to go to another far odd town and court your 3rd cousin? Probably not. Are you going to also marry her sister and take their servants as wives as well? Probably not.
I think Seaco meant that all of our stories and situations are NOT going to mirror the ones in the Bible. Yes the story of Rebekka is a great one to learn from but there are so many other situations and circumstances in life that most peoples dating/courtship won't look anything like that. That is just one family's story.
Also just to be nit picky, does anyone remember that they were related? Are you going to go to another far odd town and court your 3rd cousin? Probably not. Are you going to also marry her sister and take their servants as wives as well? Probably not.
Also just to be nit picky, does anyone remember that they were related? Are you going to go to another far odd town and court your 3rd cousin? Probably not. Are you going to also marry her sister and take their servants as wives as well? Probably not.
And yes Juliet, your point is clear, and I agreed with it a couple posts back. Like thimsrebma said, we just have to be aware that a dating relationship doesn't HAVE to mirror that to be Biblically sound.