Dating outside of your denomination

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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I believe the gifts of the Holy Spirit are still active today, i believe once saved always saved and i believe in predestination.

I would not date anyone who believed anything contrary to that. I have tried in the past and it wasn't a good situation. Several of the guys would always try and stir up arguments, start critisizing me and trying to make me feel like i was in sin because i believed these things.

I don't want to start a relationship in disagreement to something important to me. I would never ever try and shove my beliefs down someones throat, if you want to know why i believe what i do i would be more than happy to discuss it with you, but i won't argue about it. When has anyone ever won over someones opinion during a big argument.

As a matter of fact just two nights ago a guy on this site tried to start this huge thing with me about why my beliefs are wrong and how i don't follow scripture and i might not really be a christian. I kept saying look we'll just have to agree to disagree. I don't want to argue or have a debate with you about this. Yet he just kept on and kept on and kept on.....

sorry I know I'm all over the place with this... I just feel for myself that i wouldn't date anyone outside of what i believe.
 
zeroturbulence

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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
I believe the gifts of the Holy Spirit are still active today, i believe once saved always saved and i believe in predestination.

I would not date anyone who believed anything contrary to that. I have tried in the past and it wasn't a good situation. Several of the guys would always try and stir up arguments, start critisizing me and trying to make me feel like i was in sin because i believed these things.

I don't want to start a relationship in disagreement to something important to me. I would never ever try and shove my beliefs down someones throat, if you want to know why i believe what i do i would be more than happy to discuss it with you, but i won't argue about it. When has anyone ever won over someones opinion during a big argument.

As a matter of fact just two nights ago a guy on this site tried to start this huge thing with me about why my beliefs are wrong and how i don't follow scripture and i might not really be a christian. I kept saying look we'll just have to agree to disagree. I don't want to argue or have a debate with you about this. Yet he just kept on and kept on and kept on.....

sorry I know I'm all over the place with this... I just feel for myself that i wouldn't date anyone outside of what i believe.
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Was he from the Westboro Baptist Church? :rolleyes:
 
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Catlynn

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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
I believe the gifts of the Holy Spirit are still active today, i believe once saved always saved and i believe in predestination.

I would not date anyone who believed anything contrary to that. I have tried in the past and it wasn't a good situation. Several of the guys would always try and stir up arguments, start critisizing me and trying to make me feel like i was in sin because i believed these things.

I don't want to start a relationship in disagreement to something important to me. I would never ever try and shove my beliefs down someones throat, if you want to know why i believe what i do i would be more than happy to discuss it with you, but i won't argue about it. When has anyone ever won over someones opinion during a big argument.

As a matter of fact just two nights ago a guy on this site tried to start this huge thing with me about why my beliefs are wrong and how i don't follow scripture and i might not really be a christian. I kept saying look we'll just have to agree to disagree. I don't want to argue or have a debate with you about this. Yet he just kept on and kept on and kept on.....

sorry I know I'm all over the place with this... I just feel for myself that i wouldn't date anyone outside of what i believe.
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Great! Well that does it Holly, we can never date. :p
 
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GreenNnice

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The Lord leads, but, He knows me, and, I'm certain that I would be kept from anyone who would affect my faith, His Spirit in me would say, 'No way, Hosea,' so to speak :)
 
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Nuns_n_roses

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My dad is LDS and my mom was Lutheran at the time. Everyone told them the relationship wasn't a good idea and church leaders and family members ripped into them about the marriage. Therefore, my mom and dad never settled on a church to take us so I never grew up in church but I decided what I believe myself and my sister and I joined churches without a bias growing up.

I wonder why there is so much of a fuss caused over denominations as long as we can all get along... We are all the body of Christ!
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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This is what i'm talking about.... i posted what i believe and i already have some retard messaging me about to lay the smack down on me because of said beliefs....
 
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kenthomas27

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Wow! I'm just over here nodding my head like yeah! Well said -

NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
I believe the gifts of the Holy Spirit are still active today, i believe once saved always saved and i believe in predestination.

I would not date anyone who believed anything contrary to that. I have tried in the past and it wasn't a good situation. Several of the guys would always try and stir up arguments, start critisizing me and trying to make me feel like i was in sin because i believed these things.

I don't want to start a relationship in disagreement to something important to me. I would never ever try and shove my beliefs down someones throat, if you want to know why i believe what i do i would be more than happy to discuss it with you, but i won't argue about it. When has anyone ever won over someones opinion during a big argument.

As a matter of fact just two nights ago a guy on this site tried to start this huge thing with me about why my beliefs are wrong and how i don't follow scripture and i might not really be a christian. I kept saying look we'll just have to agree to disagree. I don't want to argue or have a debate with you about this. Yet he just kept on and kept on and kept on.....

sorry I know I'm all over the place with this... I just feel for myself that i wouldn't date anyone outside of what i believe.
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The man is supposed to be the spiritual leader in the home.

If a woman disagreed with me about everything... how could I lead her?

I think a woman should be looking for a man she trusts to be a leader.
If she disagrees with him about everything, and doesn't want to follow his lead in spiritual things...
then she needs to look for someone else.
 
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jimmydiggs

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Nuns_n_roses said:
My dad is LDS and my mom was Lutheran at the time. Everyone told them the relationship wasn't a good idea and church leaders and family members ripped into them about the marriage. Therefore, my mom and dad never settled on a church to take us so I never grew up in church but I decided what I believe myself and my sister and I joined churches without a bias growing up.

I wonder why there is so much of a fuss caused over denominations as long as we can all get along... We are all the body of Christ!
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Mormonism isn't a denomination, and it isn't part of the body of Christ.
 
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kenthomas27

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jimmydiggs said:
Mormonism isn't a denomination, and it isn't part of the body of Christ.
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Just because I don't know - why isn't mormonism a part of the body of Christ? I thought they believed in salvation through Christ by God's Grace. I know they whack out a little beyond that but they believe in the important things don't they? i mean - there are a lot of denominations that have some strange beliefs and practice some weird things - things you wouldn't normally see people do in a Walmart for instance. Well - maybe not a Walmart. Things you wound't normally see them do at a baseball game. What exactly is it that disqualifies them? Thanks!
 
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Tintin

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jimmydiggs said:
He wasn't making fun of it, so much as he was telling a lie about Calvinist doctrine.
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No, that wasn't my intention. I don't agree with Calvinism but why do people always assume the worst?
 
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Tintin

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Nuns_n_roses said:
My dad is LDS and my mom was Lutheran at the time. Everyone told them the relationship wasn't a good idea and church leaders and family members ripped into them about the marriage. Therefore, my mom and dad never settled on a church to take us so I never grew up in church but I decided what I believe myself and my sister and I joined churches without a bias growing up.

I wonder why there is so much of a fuss caused over denominations as long as we can all get along... We are all the body of Christ!
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LDS? I have to be so careful. I've never so much as puffed on a cigarette but I almost always read those initials as LSD. I think I have to go outside more, or stay in. :p
 
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jimmydiggs

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kenthomas27 said:
Just because I don't know - why isn't mormonism a part of the body of Christ? I thought they believed in salvation through Christ by God's Grace.
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No.

What exactly is it that disqualifies them? Thanks!
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They teach a different Gospel. They do not believe in the same God, but rather are psuedo-polytheists.
 
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kenthomas27 said:
Just because I don't know - why isn't mormonism a part of the body of Christ? I thought they believed in salvation through Christ by God's Grace.
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Like many "christian" cults (LDS, JW, etc) they use christian terminology and read from the same bible but alter the essence of our faith. Simply put, they preach a different Jesus by reducing Him to a created being and removing His deity. Mormons believe that Jesus is the literal son of God (removing His deity) and that he is the spirit brother of Lucifer. Christ's deity is one of the essential doctrines of Christianity.

Likewise LDS, JW, etc add to scripture and believe that their additional writings supercede the Bible when they contradict because they are a "new revelation."
 
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adekruif

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I only date outside of my league (above; of course) so dating outside of my denomination doesn't seem like to much of a stretch. :cool:
 
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Nuns_n_roses

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jimmydiggs said:
Mormonism isn't a denomination, and it isn't part of the body of Christ.
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I respect your opinion on this, and I understand why you believe it. However, please do not assume what is in my father's, sister's, or half my family's heart. We must all be united.
 
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Smudge

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Honestly, it comes down to the beliefs, not the denomination. I wouldn't want someone to turn their nose up to me just because they heard that I was apart of the Lutheran Church Missouri Synod. Then again, if they didn't agree with some of the key parts of my faith, it would just be a wedge between me and my spouse.

If I loved him, I would want confidence that man was saved. If he thought he just needed to be a good person to get to heaven, I would want to enlighten him that it is by grace he is saved. If he truly believed something I didn't, he would want to "enlighten" me as well. It would be sad if there was a difference that could mean that the pearly gates would be closed for a spouse. So many people try to find other ways to heaven when it is only through Christ.

Then there is another subject altogether that could lead the couple to a divorce. What to do about the children? What do you teach them? Which parent is right? If the parents cannot stand together, the kids will have to pick and choose who they think is right. And that isn't right.


Again, I don't think it's as simple as denominations. It really comes down to what you believe. I go to a contemporary Lutheran Church(Oxymoron, I know xD), and when I attended a traditional Lutheran Church while I was in college, the other students were interested in me until one of them who had visited my church was all, "I didn't like her church" then they pretty well ignored me. I haven't had the same problem at any other church, Lutheran or not, but for some people, just lacking a hymnal book could equal a ticket to hell.
 
maxwel

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Nuns_n_roses said:
I respect your opinion on this, and I understand why you believe it. However, please do not assume what is in my father's, sister's, or half my family's heart. We must all be united.
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Hey Nuns,

Hope you've been doing well.

I don't bash on Mormons because I know most of them are very sweet people.
They are very sweet people who are taught, by their church, completely unbiblical doctrine,
about almost everything in scripture.

I grew up in the Mormon church.
I'm intimately familiar with what they teach, and just how unbiblical it is.
They don't even know who Jesus actually is.
If you think Jesus was just a regular man, who "rose" to Godhood by the way he lived...
uhhh... that just has nothing to do with the bible at all.

However, I don't beat up on them.
I try to be loving and kind with them,
because they're usually very sweet people who are just taught unbliblical things.
 
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