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I am a single parent with 3 kids. My lfe has been rocky along the way to say the least but I would like to say if I met the right person - a christian person then if we were compatible and both share our faith, how many children I or he has would't come into it. Children are the way, regardless of circumstance and are a gift. Practically this may be difficult but Christianity isn't about the material. If like I have we choose to follow Jesus and repent, that is more important.
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It seems as though-- many make this plan for their life- when some of us, just made wrong choices. I am the spiritual leader of my family and i am single-- I am not waiting on some man to clean up any mess- because, I made my choices. But when a man pursues me, he must be willing to be equal with me and get to know me. I know what i need, I don't need a man to raise my children or deal with baggage. Baggage is something God must deal with me through-- seriously, so many men have baggage-- they just cover it up better. We each have to come to a point on asking God to change us to be the person he wants us to be-- I would want a man who would want to be with me and see me as beautiful--not as a woman who made wrong choices.
No one is perfect-- single moms seem to get a bad rap-- when in reality, we are the whole package-- you see what you are getting right in front of you. My 2 year old can read and have a conersation with you. I run a household and have my own interests and hobbies. I am not a lost cause waiting for my prince.
Not offended just so you know-- but there are wonderful single mothers who are independant-- I am one of them, I am happy : )
No one is perfect-- single moms seem to get a bad rap-- when in reality, we are the whole package-- you see what you are getting right in front of you. My 2 year old can read and have a conersation with you. I run a household and have my own interests and hobbies. I am not a lost cause waiting for my prince.
Not offended just so you know-- but there are wonderful single mothers who are independant-- I am one of them, I am happy : )
L
I have an ex husband and a child, For that i dont expect anyone to date, me nor do i think they would. I've settled it within myself that i have to be content being alone. I would never want anyone to think of my daughter as baggage, but i know thats what it would come down to im sure. Most guys dont wanna have to deal with that, and i dont expect them to. My ex husband has not been in the picture for years and years, however theres been massive damage done there, so yeah it all kinda rolled in one,
K
It sounds like it has been really hard. It also sounds like you have given up on falling in love and getting married.
So I'm going to risk making you mad and tell you- don't close yourself off. Yes life is hard and risking rejection and pain is not on the top of anyone's list, but there are good men out there who would treat you and your little girl right.
Are they out in mass traveling the streets? No. Good men are always hard to find. But regardless of your circumstances, good men do exist. You have a lot to offer- you are intelligent, have a sense of humour, you love your daughter and let's be honest you have great hair (your old avatar pic). So if a man you would consider, comes knocking on your door, don't shut it too quickly, you never know what good things God has for you.
So I'm going to risk making you mad and tell you- don't close yourself off. Yes life is hard and risking rejection and pain is not on the top of anyone's list, but there are good men out there who would treat you and your little girl right.
Are they out in mass traveling the streets? No. Good men are always hard to find. But regardless of your circumstances, good men do exist. You have a lot to offer- you are intelligent, have a sense of humour, you love your daughter and let's be honest you have great hair (your old avatar pic). So if a man you would consider, comes knocking on your door, don't shut it too quickly, you never know what good things God has for you.
wow! what an amazing young man you are. suddenly her child is your child. I think its sad that she's rejected the poor little soul, I'm sure he's very confused by this and the mom that I am can not comprehend the ability to be away from your child willingly... I'm away for 2 days & I go crazy missing em cant even bare the thought of going back to work outside the home because of my boys (I used to have another career) anyway, way to go doing the right thing for caleb!
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That's cool, CCG, God blessed even a guy named cheesemonkeys 
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I am sure you will be fine on your own, CCG, you seem real well grounded to me and you're so good at name games God is giving you this freedom, always no Christ's protection, ask for it by name WHENEVER fear strikes, because He will send His angels, or, maybe even Himself in what might seem like a dark hour. God will provide just the right job to complement your schooling, as you put Him first, school second, and, work, third. Try getting a school job, they will work with your school schedule best I think.
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On this thread, made up long ago by a sweet, talkative. gal named Kyra .... kids are fine , having ex's are fine long as the Lord is the center of their life. The Lord leads.
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Life is good but only with God
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(()))-- my, I should patent that one
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I am sure you will be fine on your own, CCG, you seem real well grounded to me and you're so good at name games
God is giving you this freedom, always no Christ's protection, ask for it by name WHENEVER fear strikes, because He will send His angels, or, maybe even Himself in what might seem like a dark hour. God will provide just the right job to complement your schooling, as you put Him first, school second, and, work, third. Try getting a school job, they will work with your school schedule best I think.---
On this thread, made up long ago by a sweet, talkative. gal named Kyra
.... kids are fine , having ex's are fine long as the Lord is the center of their life. The Lord leads.------+-----
Life is good but only with God
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(()))-- my, I should patent that one
B
I would date, marry a man who has a x and children or child.
1) vengeful x...yes, bitterness and malicious illwill from a x can be very bad indeed.
I know someone who has experienced this and the x did eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeverything to ruin her life and split them apart.She incited hatred upon her and did criminal things also and in a false manner so she covered it up as if it never happened.She had lots of money, was wellknown and popular, many friends and had position of power in community (which she missused in hatred and illwill upon someone innocent)
But if you truly deeply love this man your love may survive the x s illwill and there is such thing as restrainingorder if it get so bad.
Not always law works on those with positions of power but eventually perhaps with persistance.
"dont tell God how great the problem is tell the problem how great God is"
2)They may hate me.
Specially if their mother is bitter and incites hate upon you by talking badly of you to the child.
But one can endure this and miracles do happen.
Maybe with time they will change the hate to love.
3) This is a good thing.
I have a stepmother who I often call my soulmother.I say I have two mothers as such.
My Father split up from my soulmother but we still have contact and I have just been to visit and live with her for few weeks.
I am so blessed to have had her in my life.
My biological mother was jealous I think of our "bond" and didnt want me talk of her but now she appreciates her so much.
I just had cancer and my step/soul mother helped me and was there for me while my other mother was overseas.My mother said her admiration for my stepmother has just grown.(this is the woman who wouldnt let me talk of her even when I was child and who I think was jealous and bitter perhaps).
Miracles do happen and love is one of them.
1) vengeful x...yes, bitterness and malicious illwill from a x can be very bad indeed.
I know someone who has experienced this and the x did eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeverything to ruin her life and split them apart.She incited hatred upon her and did criminal things also and in a false manner so she covered it up as if it never happened.She had lots of money, was wellknown and popular, many friends and had position of power in community (which she missused in hatred and illwill upon someone innocent)
But if you truly deeply love this man your love may survive the x s illwill and there is such thing as restrainingorder if it get so bad.
Not always law works on those with positions of power but eventually perhaps with persistance.
"dont tell God how great the problem is tell the problem how great God is"
2)They may hate me.
Specially if their mother is bitter and incites hate upon you by talking badly of you to the child.
But one can endure this and miracles do happen.
Maybe with time they will change the hate to love.
3) This is a good thing.
I have a stepmother who I often call my soulmother.I say I have two mothers as such.
My Father split up from my soulmother but we still have contact and I have just been to visit and live with her for few weeks.
I am so blessed to have had her in my life.
My biological mother was jealous I think of our "bond" and didnt want me talk of her but now she appreciates her so much.
I just had cancer and my step/soul mother helped me and was there for me while my other mother was overseas.My mother said her admiration for my stepmother has just grown.(this is the woman who wouldnt let me talk of her even when I was child and who I think was jealous and bitter perhaps).
Miracles do happen and love is one of them.
B
Then again I also had a stepfather who would say I was not a member of the family, not "one of them".he suffocated me with pillow and strangled me once so I almost died and said he would of killed me if it was not for his son and not wanting go to jail.My mother did not care to listen to me and I was rideculed and made fun of instead.
I do not dislike him but dislike the behaviour he had when he could not handle/footle my person I was then.
To feel or/and be told you dont belong in society or/and family does not feel nice and I always felt like outsider everywhere I went, alone, not "one of them", not belonging.
Theres many different scenarios and situations.
I definately beleive in love.
and because one has positions of power to missuse it for personal vendetta is not ok.To missuse energy in hate is sad also when should be used to love.
Or to get away with true evil behaviours because you are actor, politician, in position of power, wellknown etc or simply because you are mother.....
24/7 the angels love Jesus
24/7 hate on someone,
and moreso
better love
Sorry my writings are wierd
but I still agree with my above answer without a shadow of a doubt I would marry my partner has child and badbehaved x
Problemo is if the x behaviour is extremely bad and no action is taken and it continues....One would need to parent the x, but if society law doesnt apply to her if she politician and finds ways ..one day Gods law will.....
Just wishing everyone the best.
Love
I do not dislike him but dislike the behaviour he had when he could not handle/footle my person I was then.
To feel or/and be told you dont belong in society or/and family does not feel nice and I always felt like outsider everywhere I went, alone, not "one of them", not belonging.
Theres many different scenarios and situations.
I definately beleive in love.
and because one has positions of power to missuse it for personal vendetta is not ok.To missuse energy in hate is sad also when should be used to love.
Or to get away with true evil behaviours because you are actor, politician, in position of power, wellknown etc or simply because you are mother.....
24/7 the angels love Jesus
24/7 hate on someone,
and moreso
better love
Sorry my writings are wierd
but I still agree with my above answer without a shadow of a doubt I would marry my partner has child and badbehaved x
Problemo is if the x behaviour is extremely bad and no action is taken and it continues....One would need to parent the x, but if society law doesnt apply to her if she politician and finds ways ..one day Gods law will.....
Just wishing everyone the best.
Love