Because of the economy, covid etc, people are either unemployed, ill, or overworked.
I am not. I see lots of people walking around who appear to be in good health. I now plenty of people who have jobs. I don't ask them if they are overworked. Btw, this is 2023.
Our focus on a christian site is Jesus, not getting married. Did Jesus ever say I want women of a certain age HAVE to be married otherwise they will die alone and be a burden on society. This is the Twenty first century.
This is for "for other forum members interested in finding a Christian spouse." Read the OP. If this thread is not aimed at you, please respect the topic of the thread.
I Corinthians 7 teaches that to avoid fornication let every woman have her own husband and let every man have his own wife. Paul would have preferred everyone to be like himself. He encouraged celibacy for those who had the willpower not to be married, and marriage for those who 'cannot contain.' Paul considered both marriage and celibacy to be gifts from God. Celibacy is good for those who want to spend their time focusing on the Lord.
This quote, "n a christian site is Jesus, not getting married" sounds like false spirituality kind of statement. God is God over every area of life. Some people are encouraged to marry (I Corinthians 7) and our Christian faith should very much be involved in the decision of whether or not to marry and in our marriages if we go down that route.
I could say that a Christian site is about Jesus, not about being single, and not about talking about abuse. Anyone can make a faux spiritual-sounding statement like that.
Things have changed.
Get real.
The scriptures warn about being quarrelsome. Proverbs focuses a bit on the quarrelsome woman, also. You sure do know how to go loggerheads without decent grounds to do so.
And for anyone who thinks thats unethical or not nice. Is it ethical to expose women to bad marriages and have them abused. I dont think so.
And yes this happens in christian marriages too. Do you think christians are immune to sorrow and suffering or unemployment and illness, infertility etc.
The idea of this thread was for singles who were looking to marry to get in contact with each other, not just to jump into marriage. A couple moving in the direction of marriage should talk with their parents, spiritual leaders in their life like influential brothers or sisters in Christ who discipled them, church elders, etc., Christian friends, pray a lot, etc.
If a step on a butterfly on one side of the earth, I'm not responsible for a murder on the side of the earth next year. If two people met through this thread and one of them hits the other, that's not my fault. There are a lot of other steps in the decision to get married than just exchanging messages on a forum.
Are you trying to imply that the men on this forum would abuse a woman if they got the chance? That's a really negative attitude?
I see MGTOW men online sometimes who have accepted a philosophy that is against marriage. I can see and sympathize with some of their concerns-- a society full of women with low sexual morals, high self--worth, with unrealistic standards for a marriage partner, hard to get along with, a family law system that is biased against men, and a culture that is pro-divorce. (Not that the women in the west see a lot of great prospects with the modern men either.
But if a man really longs to marry a woman, and he won't even try because he gets brainwashed by MGTOW philosophy into being against marriage.... not because he wants to devote himself to serve the Lord, it seems likely that man is acting out of cowardice. A woman who really wants to marry who avoids it out of rear of a bad marriage may also be acting out of cowardice as well.
But there is also the issue of actually finding someone, or being proposed to. Western culture isn't that good at matching people up these days. Women tend to be much more picky on responding positively to dating profiles or requests than men from what I have read from the press. A lot of people date for recreation, fornicate here and there, with little thought of settling down, and some of those people claim to be Christians.
If you want to be celibate for life, fine. But this thread is not for you if that is the case.