Do you date, where do you go, who pays for the meal?

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chancer

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#61
I think the chaperone should pay for everyone ...
 
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crosstweed

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#62
Honestly if the chaperone is trying to get a free meal! ... man I knew there was a perfectly rational explanation behind their motives ...
Hehehe... I guess if you're a single person being asked to tag along with a couple of your disgustingly smitten friends, it's not completely unreasonable to expect to be fed for having to endure it, unless you just really love hanging out with those friends anyway xD
 

AsifinPassing

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Yes, on occasion.

Wherever she would like. That usually involves somewhere food-related, fun-activity related, and romantic/beautiful scenery related. These could be separate places. It doesn't have to be simultaneous.

If she defers to me, then *see above answer* with the edition of wherever *I* would like. Sometimes it's a compromise of the two (or a complimentary blending) depending on the individual.

Who pays for the meal?
If at all possible, me. I was raised, choose to believe, and adhere to that way of thinking. Even against the behest of my date...

That said, if it's a deal-breaker, earth-shattering issue to her, then she's more than welcome to pay or go dutch, but most women, I find, whether they admit or not, enjoy/are appreciative of genuine southern-gentlemanly gestures. (FE: Paying for things, holding the door open, taking their hand when walking down stairs in heels, letting them be first, etc...)
 

Lynx

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#65
I think the chaperone should pay for everyone ...
Actually you're paying for all three of us. I thought that was the reason you handed me your credit card...

What, you don't remember giving me your card? Wow, that really must have been SOME party! :p
 

Lynx

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And you're certain you're not logoleptic? :rolleyes:
Now that word I am CERTAIN people still use. It's not a word you hear in every conversation but people still use it.

If you really want to get into arcane, archaic verbiage that is redolent of ages past, I can provide all the thrasonical bombast and profuse profundity required. :cool:
 

melita916

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when my sister and brother-in-law were "talking"/dating, they would only hang out in groups (church youth group).

when they got engaged, he was able to take my sister out, but they always had a chaperone...

me.

i was 9 yrs old. the most boring times evah!!!!!! but i did get free meals lol.
 

peacenik

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Honestly if the chaperone is trying to get a free meal! ... man I knew there was a perfectly rational explanation behind their motives ...

Aha! The secret is out - now we know the real reason why people choose to be chaperones.
 
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crosstweed

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Now that word I am CERTAIN people still use. It's not a word you hear in every conversation but people still use it.

If you really want to get into arcane, archaic verbiage that is redolent of ages past, I can provide all the thrasonical bombast and profuse profundity required. :cool:
>u> Indubitably. I have utmost confidence in your magniloquent capacity.
#logoleptconfirmed
 

peacenik

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*shudders* Matchmakers...

IKR? Those woman scare me lol ...




A woman I knew many years ago claimed to be the world's most successful match maker with a 100% success rate. She claimed to have someone in mind for me. Months went by and I assumed she changed her mind. Finally her husband introduced me to a friend of hers, but we were all busy and had to be on our way. Two days went by and the match maker gave me a frantic phone call and asked why I did not go out on a date with her friend as she was the match she had in mind for me.

My reply was that I had no idea she was the match as her promise was made months before, I had forgotten about her promise, nobody told me she was the one you intended, and, somehow, every body knew about the match except for me. So I asked, why didn't she say she was the one? I then told the match maker, since there was a misunderstanding and she has my name, address, and phone number let her give me a call and we'll go out.


Naturally, I never heard from her again.
 

Lynx

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>u> Indubitably. I have utmost confidence in your magniloquent capacity.
#logoleptconfirmed
Pfft! You can't claim logolepsy until you start using words that Android speech-to-text does not recognize. :p
 

Born_Again

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Just take her to Chuck E Cheese... Everyone wins!! LOL
 
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crosstweed

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Pfft! You can't claim logolepsy until you start using words that Android speech-to-text does not recognize. :p
>u> To be fair, I don't think it would take that much...
 
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Rosesrock

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when my sister and brother-in-law were "talking"/dating, they would only hang out in groups (church youth group).

when they got engaged, he was able to take my sister out, but they always had a chaperone...

me.

i was 9 yrs old. the most boring times evah!!!!!! but i did get free meals lol.
My oldest daughter has deemed herself queen of the third wheel.
Lol.
 

melita916

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my brother-in-law and sister waited for the day they could send one of my nephews to be a chaperone for me.

unfortunately (for them), i didn't date til i was an adult. lol
 

Lynx

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>u> To be fair, I don't think it would take that much...
You might be surprised. I posted that last post from my phone and it recognized "logolepsy."
 
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Tintin

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I'm pretty good at being the third or fifth wheel. I don't have a problem with it, because my said friends are the ones who invite me over or out. I would never want to be the unwelcome guest. But that skit on the previous page still cracks me up!
 
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I saw an academic presentation of some research that found evidence that, after controlling for a number of factors like hours worked per week, dangerous jobs, and dirty jobs, that women got paid more than men. Pay was not just a dollar-per-hour thing. In his data, if someone worked 44 hours per week or more, he or she got paid a lot more. By far, men worked longer hours and got more salary. Men tended to do more jobs where they were exposed to the elements and where the work was dangerous or unpleasant (construction, garbage collection) which paid a premium for these unfavorable factors. Women tend to gravitate toward some of the lower-paying jobs like teaching and social work. (I'd imagine nursing is an exception.)

There are also more women in college these days.

Pouring money into raising women's wages and getting more women in college may be putting the money in the wrong place.
I'm guessing you reversed the genders in that first sentence?

I've heard/read similar thoughts to what you've stated.

Men tend to work longer hours, work jobs that are more difficult and/or dangerous, and are less likely to want to take time off for different situations/holidays/events. All scenarios that factor into higher pay.

That said, if a woman works a difficult and/or dangerous job and performs as well as a man & has the same tenure as a man, then she ought to get paid the same.

As she's leaving work to go home, though, she still has to hold the door open for a guy if she gets to the exit door first.

Again, I wish to avoid the "war on women"...just like I would when it comes to paying for a meal on a date. :)
 
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MollyConnor

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I haven't dated since 2009.
But if I did date, I would go to SeaWorld..or maybe to dinner in a quiet restaurant. I love SeaWorld and they will probably go out of business soon. :(
I don't know how the paying thing goes now with all the feminism junk. I guess we would go halfsies, unless he or I wanted to treat the other.