Do you date, where do you go, who pays for the meal?

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peacenik

peacenik

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just one last question - when you have a chaperone, does he/she pay for their own dinner or do you both have to do so?
 
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Tintin

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ntw1103 said:
Yes.
Places.
I pay for the meal/activity. For both the date, and chaperone. Unless agreed upon before hand, and I would be skeptical to do so, this is how I believe it should be.
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Most women these days have their own income. And dates can be expensive. If you're taking a chaperone, that's even more expensive. That sort of thing may have been necessary in the distant past when women didn't have their own income, but that's not the case nowadays.
 
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crosstweed

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peacenik said:
Wow. Just wow. I learned something there. I honestly did not know people did things like that nowadays.






I wonder, are most of these male or female ? does anyone know??
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It's not uncommon in a lot of the more conservative churches. From what I have observed, the chaperon is generally a friend or sibling/cousin.
peacenik said:
Do chaperones get paid or are they just fellow church goers who voluntarily go with them (I assume they are female)?
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I've never heard of a paid chaperon, or really anyone who wasn't close to one or both of the members, although I suppose it might be a church member under certain circumstances. Generally speaking, the company and food is considered payment.
Tintin said:
How does it work? How do you learn to communicate one-on-one? It must be super-awkward for all parties involved.

Can you imagine:
We need to invite Third Wheel over so we can chat to each other.
Oh, wait. They should already be here.
What do we do?
Okay, I'll wait outside in the blizzard until Third Wheel arrives.


Nope. Not cool.

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Well, there's a cool thing called telephones that were invented not long ago... xD

Since it's usually a friend or a family member, it's not all that hard to indicate/ask for a few minutes of alone time, even if it is a bit awkward. :rolleyes: This is why it would pay to have a socially adept chaperon so that they pick up on those subtle "give us a minute" indicators, instead of going the route Studio C recommends...
 
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chancer

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Tintin said:
Most women these days have their own income. And dates can be expensive. If you're taking a chaperone, that's even more expensive. That sort of thing may have been necessary in the distant past when women didn't have their own income, but that's not the case nowadays.
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You have a chaperone?!?!
 
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chancer

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Tintin said:
No, I don't have a date. I just have Jesus.
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So you haven't had the older woman prayer warriors from your church approach you yet? I had them pounce on me in church asking me about my relational state, when I told them I was single ... they referred me to their relational prayer master who told me she would pray for me to meet the right person, but to be sure because when she prayed it would happen quickly ... I was terrified ...
 
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Tintin

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chancer said:
So you haven't had the older woman prayer warriors from your church approach you yet? I had them pounce on me in church asking me about my relational state, when I told them I was single ... they referred me to their relational prayer master who told me she would pray for me to meet the right person, but to be sure because when she prayed it would happen quickly ... I was terrified ...
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Nope. I mean I've prayed with some older woman prayer warriors, but that was only because I was part of our church's intercession group. Thankfully, they don't try to play the matchmaker with me. No-one really does. But yikes! I'm sorry to hear about your experiences, brother. That is not cool!
 
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crosstweed

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chancer said:
So you haven't had the older woman prayer warriors from your church approach you yet? I had them pounce on me in church asking me about my relational state, when I told them I was single ... they referred me to their relational prayer master who told me she would pray for me to meet the right person, but to be sure because when she prayed it would happen quickly ... I was terrified ...
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Tintin said:
Nope. I mean I've prayed with some older woman prayer warriors, but that was only because I was part of our church's intercession group. Thankfully, they don't try to play the matchmaker with me. No-one really does. But yikes! I'm sorry to hear about your experiences, brother. That is not cool!
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*shudders* Matchmakers...
 
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Tintin

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chancer said:
IKR? Those woman scare me lol ...
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I used to get a bit of that back in my early 20s from all kinds of people (generally older women) but now I think people have given up on me. :)
 
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chancer

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Tintin said:
I used to get a bit of that back in my early 20s from all kinds of people (generally older women) but now I think people have given up on me. :)
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They maybe think you got to old and crabby to approach :p
 
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crosstweed

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>u> As a matter of fact, I had a lovely time the other day smashing the hopes and dreams/OTP of one of those friends who is eternally composing bad matches in her head and who kept offering me "helpful" comments about a certain bloke with whom I am completely incompatible.

My favorite bad match of hers was when she hinted to one of my other friends that she would be a very good match with one of the guys at my church... until this friend amusedly informed her that she was 3rd cousins with that particular fellow and that in spite of his looking much older he was in fact only 16 years of age.

You would think she would have learned her lesson, but no.
 
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crosstweed

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peacenik said:
just one last question - when you have a chaperone, does he/she pay for their own dinner or do you both have to do so?
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I think that depends on the circumstances, but it seems whoever is paying for the meal usually buys the chaperon's meal, too.
 
LOLOKGal

LOLOKGal

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Ahhhh.... Dating? What's that?
 
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chancer

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crosstweed said:
I think that depends on the circumstances, but it seems whoever is paying for the meal usually buys the chaperon's meal, too.
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Honestly if the chaperone is trying to get a free meal! ... man I knew there was a perfectly rational explanation behind their motives ...
 
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