Do you guys ever worry that you're gonna be alone forever like me?
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Loneliness is a part of life. God will fill that void but only if you let Him.
During your time of loneliness, focus on studying God's Word and growing stronger as One of His
Children. Sometimes God delays a certain person from entering our life till we have grown to the
point that God wants us to. Sometimes this is because God knows everything and knows that
once you do start a relationship, you will need the strength and spiritual growth you obtained
when alone to deal with your relationship and be a blessing to that relationship and your mate.
God will not allow things to happen that will hurt us. If getting into a relationship will hurt you
spiritually, God will wait till you are strong enough. But you will never be happy with someone
you choose. Ask God to direct you and He will. Remember, God isn't just an All Powerful God.
He is also your loving Heavenly Father that wants the best for you.
This may help you deal with your loneliness.
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Yeah, I know that feeling. I don't think I'll get married either. It's hard to think about it sometimes, and it's true that most people do marry, but the thing is, God never promised to give everyone a mate. I know some older people who never married and they always wanted to, but it just didn't happen. Most likely, God will send you someone, but if He doesn't, you need to remember that He'll take care of you and that He'll fill the void you might feel. You can also help fill the void yourself by filling your time with the things you enjoy doing, and by going after the other dreams you have besides marriage.
You're definitely not the only one who feels that way, Dothackzero.
Yes, I know everyone says that God will fill the void. I'm just not exactly sure how. When I ask people's advice, they say, "Pray more! Read your Bible! Do things for other people! Don't just think of yourself!" and when you try all that... (I've spent the last several years taking all the classes my church had to offer, being in groups, Bible studies, prayer groups, service teams, outreaches, etc. to the point where people were actually telling me to take a break)... Guess what? I still feel lonely. Especially watching everyone else in my family (including each of my grandparents) find someone during that time.
And when I try to ask other Christian's advice outside my church... they either tell me I'm not doing enough... or doing way too much and should "calm down" (they'll criticize and saying I'm somehow trying to win God's approval...) No, I'm trying to do what the good Christian folk tell me to do and keep my mind off the emptiness in the process, thanks.
Well... Jesus obviously had a relationship with God that none of us could ever fathom (aside from the fact that He IS God as well, of course, but yet He prayed to God the Father) and if you look closely at His words and the Gospels... I would have to say that there were many, many times during which Jesus felt extremely lonely as well. For example, when he would tell the disciples, "I've been with you this long and you still don't understand?" or "Oh, perverse and evil generation, how much longer will I stay with you?" and, of course, His agony and extreme feeling of being alone in the Garden of Gethsemane and on the Cross ("My God, My God, why have you forsaken Me?")
Jesus said, "Pick up your cross, and come and follow me."
As the years pass by... I start to wonder more and more if loneliness is just another cross some of us will have to bear for an undisclosed amount of time... or even until God finally decides it's time for us to come home.
Yes, I know everyone says that God will fill the void. I'm just not exactly sure how. When I ask people's advice, they say, "Pray more! Read your Bible! Do things for other people! Don't just think of yourself!" and when you try all that... (I've spent the last several years taking all the classes my church had to offer, being in groups, Bible studies, prayer groups, service teams, outreaches, etc. to the point where people were actually telling me to take a break)... Guess what? I still feel lonely. Especially watching everyone else in my family (including each of my grandparents) find someone during that time.
And when I try to ask other Christian's advice outside my church... they either tell me I'm not doing enough... or doing way too much and should "calm down" (they'll criticize and saying I'm somehow trying to win God's approval...) No, I'm trying to do what the good Christian folk tell me to do and keep my mind off the emptiness in the process, thanks.
Well... Jesus obviously had a relationship with God that none of us could ever fathom (aside from the fact that He IS God as well, of course, but yet He prayed to God the Father) and if you look closely at His words and the Gospels... I would have to say that there were many, many times during which Jesus felt extremely lonely as well. For example, when he would tell the disciples, "I've been with you this long and you still don't understand?" or "Oh, perverse and evil generation, how much longer will I stay with you?" and, of course, His agony and extreme feeling of being alone in the Garden of Gethsemane and on the Cross ("My God, My God, why have you forsaken Me?")
Jesus said, "Pick up your cross, and come and follow me."
As the years pass by... I start to wonder more and more if loneliness is just another cross some of us will have to bear for an undisclosed amount of time... or even until God finally decides it's time for us to come home.
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I would rather be alone forever, then be with the wrong person. Im feel perfectly content as i am. I do think your being way waaaaaaaaaaay to obsessive over this. Almost every thread of yours is how to get a girlfriend. While i can understand you want one, i dont think its good to be this obsessed over it. Like the guy said up there, focus on god, and get your focus on something else. What do you think having a girlfriend is gonna do for you? She wont fill all your lonliness. People always dissapoint us and let us down. I just think your lookin to the wrong thing here.
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I really believe a friendship is what you should focus on--- when i was younger i used to pray for a boyfriend-- God gave me one, but i ended after realizing that isn't what i needed. I needed a friend who could lift me up and be there for me and i for them. Focus on yourself and ask God how he needs to change you-- he may be wanting to change something in you. He's revealing that exact thing to me now-- I am the one he wants a relationship with-- He is wanting to change me. Focus on friends : )
Hi there!
Please dont be offended with what I am about to say to you, it is not intended to be condescending in any way.
Ok, I just want to say RELAX!!! (if I could bold this more and increase the size I would!)
Your 21!!!! Why are you so fixated with this? I affirm what Leilaii said. I mean, Im 35, single, and YES, I have had my fair share of stressing times where I wonder if I will ever get married! At my age it is against norms to be single and childless....so I understand the dilemma fully BUT BUT BUT!!
You are 21, you are in the prime of your life, the world is your oyster! Get out there with your friends, experience life, do the things you want to do! Ask God to give you a purpose and vision to fulfill!! Truly....if you were my age or older and stressing I would totally understand and empathise with you BUT you are not and to be honest I think you are placing far too big an emphasis on it.
So instead of focusing on a mate try asking God - ok, what is it that you want me to do? Keep asking and he WILL show you! Oh, and relax and be yourself....there is nothing more attractive to a Christian girl than a guy who is comfortable in his own skin, who has a focus on the Lord and honours him.
God bless
Please dont be offended with what I am about to say to you, it is not intended to be condescending in any way.
Ok, I just want to say RELAX!!! (if I could bold this more and increase the size I would!)
Your 21!!!! Why are you so fixated with this? I affirm what Leilaii said. I mean, Im 35, single, and YES, I have had my fair share of stressing times where I wonder if I will ever get married! At my age it is against norms to be single and childless....so I understand the dilemma fully BUT BUT BUT!!
You are 21, you are in the prime of your life, the world is your oyster! Get out there with your friends, experience life, do the things you want to do! Ask God to give you a purpose and vision to fulfill!! Truly....if you were my age or older and stressing I would totally understand and empathise with you BUT you are not and to be honest I think you are placing far too big an emphasis on it.
So instead of focusing on a mate try asking God - ok, what is it that you want me to do? Keep asking and he WILL show you! Oh, and relax and be yourself....there is nothing more attractive to a Christian girl than a guy who is comfortable in his own skin, who has a focus on the Lord and honours him.
God bless
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Hi there!
Please dont be offended with what I am about to say to you, it is not intended to be condescending in any way.
Ok, I just want to say RELAX!!! (if I could bold this more and increase the size I would!)
Your 21!!!! Why are you so fixated with this? I affirm what Leilaii said. I mean, Im 35, single, and YES, I have had my fair share of stressing times where I wonder if I will ever get married! At my age it is against norms to be single and childless....so I understand the dilemma fully BUT BUT BUT!!
You are 21, you are in the prime of your life, the world is your oyster! Get out there with your friends, experience life, do the things you want to do! Ask God to give you a purpose and vision to fulfill!! Truly....if you were my age or older and stressing I would totally understand and empathise with you BUT you are not and to be honest I think you are placing far too big an emphasis on it.
So instead of focusing on a mate try asking God - ok, what is it that you want me to do? Keep asking and he WILL show you! Oh, and relax and be yourself....there is nothing more attractive to a Christian girl than a guy who is comfortable in his own skin, who has a focus on the Lord and honours him.
God bless
Please dont be offended with what I am about to say to you, it is not intended to be condescending in any way.
Ok, I just want to say RELAX!!! (if I could bold this more and increase the size I would!)
Your 21!!!! Why are you so fixated with this? I affirm what Leilaii said. I mean, Im 35, single, and YES, I have had my fair share of stressing times where I wonder if I will ever get married! At my age it is against norms to be single and childless....so I understand the dilemma fully BUT BUT BUT!!
You are 21, you are in the prime of your life, the world is your oyster! Get out there with your friends, experience life, do the things you want to do! Ask God to give you a purpose and vision to fulfill!! Truly....if you were my age or older and stressing I would totally understand and empathise with you BUT you are not and to be honest I think you are placing far too big an emphasis on it.
So instead of focusing on a mate try asking God - ok, what is it that you want me to do? Keep asking and he WILL show you! Oh, and relax and be yourself....there is nothing more attractive to a Christian girl than a guy who is comfortable in his own skin, who has a focus on the Lord and honours him.
God bless
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Is it possible that the reason you don't have a girlfriend is that you just want one too much? Its hard to date someone who's worst fear is being alone forever. That's a lot of pressure to put on a girl. Its also quite possible to be completely unaware giving off a needy or desperate "vibe". Now, I obviously have no idea how you handle relationships with girls...or anyone for that matter. So don't read into my post too much. I hope that some day you get your heart's desire and that it is God's will.
B
I thought that for the longest time, I to suffered from anxiety & depression (still do on occasion). I always saw happy couples & that just made me feel worse, I thought i'd never get to experience any of that, but it all changed. You have to confide in the Lord to give you confidence & strength & train your mind not to think like that. I've currently been in a very good relationship for the past 6 months & up until this point, I never could picture myself finding someone. Just be yourself & stay positive, things happen when they're meant to & the Lord knows our hearts desires & will meet them in his own time.
J
I wouldnt worry about being alone FOREVER! Forever is a long period of time and you're only 21. Theres a time for everything and right now your are flying solo.....no big deal. If you put as much effort in the gift and plan God has for you, than you put into worring about "being alone" you would be surprised how much you would progress as an individual. Remember this NO matter who you end up with, when the judgement day comes you will answer to Him all by youself. So become that individual God intended you to be and dont worry so much about things that are out of your control!!