Equally yoked

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Lanolin

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Calling it Communion is some specific scripture behind it. I find it odd if someone who goes to church has never heard of 'Communion' or 'Holy Communion.' You can find 'communion' in Calvin's writings. NT Wright uses the term in Anglicanism.
some people dont read the Bible and some churches dont call it that. Some churches dont even do communion. eg salvation army, quakers etc. The newer ones dont seem to do it, too busy doing hillsong. I attended a kjv only church for a while and they never did it on sundays. They had potlucks though.
 

Lanolin

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At least didnt go to Maccas and had food sacrificied to idols (Ronald Macdonald)
 

Lanolin

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Colonel Harland Sanders was a real person but I dont know about Ronald MacDonald. Is he meant to be a clown?

In the bad old days, Maccas used to give out idols with their Happy Meals, but I notice nowadays they are cleaning up their act, have sugar free fizzy drinks and water or juice and salads insteads of fries and instead of toys they give out books.

However, old habits die hard and they are still encouraging people to play Monopoly.
 

Lanolin

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I left a book in Maccas for children to read.
Its called 'Oh the Places you will go'

All children like going to Maccas when there is nothing left to eat in the house.

On unequal yoking, the best book about that is called The Wonky Donkey. He only had three legs and one eye.
 

FredVB

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We always hear the warning about being unequally yoked but...is anyone equally yoked and what does that actually look like.
What things do you look for or how do you know when someone is your equal?
Is it just, you partner is also a christian and thats all they need to be, or do they have to be the same age, height. weight, profession, skin colour, eye colour, culture, blood type, GPA, IQ, bank balance, have the same interests, speak the same langauge, wear the exact same brand sneakers or what??
I think for Christian believers they have God to pray to that is really an advantage over any others, about any prospect they see and become involved with, that God would answer if they are the right one. And God would answer, and the believer really should go with what God answers. I wish I had been shown this earlier. God would provide for a better marriage with this being followed.
 

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I think for Christian believers they have God to pray to that is really an advantage over any others, about any prospect they see and become involved with, that God would answer if they are the right one. And God would answer, and the believer really should go with what God answers. I wish I had been shown this earlier. God would provide for a better marriage with this being followed.
I think 1 Corinthians 7:33 and proverbs 31 are good descrptors of what the man and woman should be to each other in marriage
 

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We always hear the warning about being unequally yoked but...is anyone equally yoked and what does that actually look like.
What things do you look for or how do you know when someone is your equal?
Is it just, you partner is also a christian and thats all they need to be, or do they have to be the same age, height. weight, profession, skin colour, eye colour, culture, blood type, GPA, IQ, bank balance, have the same interests, speak the same langauge, wear the exact same brand sneakers or what??
Growing up...I was always told that marrying someone with a different skin color meant being unequally yoked and went against the Bible. WAS ANYONE ELSE told this? I believe that to be very wrong. Prejudice/hate trickled down through generations to divide us, twisting God's word by our adversary, the devil.

In God's sight we are all sinners, yet all loved and offered the gift of salvation. What really makes us unequally yoked is whether or not we have been cleansed by the blood of Jesus and choose to follow Him. In the end that is what will seperate us for eternity and all that matters.

When it comes to marriage, two people become one. If Christ is the firm foundation you BOTH are building on, you EACH keep Him front and center, seeking His will in YOUR lives, that house will stand. I have no doubt. Will you go through stuff, yes! Why? So He can grow your faith, stronger, TOGETHER.
 

Lanolin

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Growing up...I was always told that marrying someone with a different skin color meant being unequally yoked and went against the Bible. WAS ANYONE ELSE told this? I believe that to be very wrong. Prejudice/hate trickled down through generations to divide us, twisting God's word by our adversary, the devil.

In God's sight we are all sinners, yet all loved and offered the gift of salvation. What really makes us unequally yoked is whether or not we have been cleansed by the blood of Jesus and choose to follow Him. In the end that is what will seperate us for eternity and all that matters.

When it comes to marriage, two people become one. If Christ is the firm foundation you BOTH are building on, you EACH keep Him front and center, seeking His will in YOUR lives, that house will stand. I have no doubt. Will you go through stuff, yes! Why? So He can grow your faith, stronger, TOGETHER.
I was not told this, but some peoples attitudes were like they had to be the exact same cultural background. I suppose so if their in-laws werent fighting against each other, like in a war or something. But Romeo and Juliets are meant to be the romantic ideal for most.

Romeo and Juliet were only barely teenage gangstas in love though lol
 

Lanolin

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If someone is following the OT then maybe marrying a foreigner is wrong (see Ezra) only exception being if your foreign spouse makes a Ruth-like dying vow to follow you to the ends of the earth and your God
 

Lanolin

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I have a picture of being equally yoked and it looks like a brassiere.


However, apparently most people are not symmetrical unless they have a siamese twin.
 
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I truly enjoyed some of the post that I was able to read. I need to be going to bed so I will speak on my knowledge of being unequally yoked, considering I also went through it with my previous marriage.
To be unequally yoked is to be unequal period. That scripture doesn’t only apply to marriage though. And truth is in almost all your relationships. Whether it be friendships, partnerships, warships, lol just kidding, you have to be equal in a sense where you are able to carry everything of that relationship with balance. You can start off equally yet and unequal later down the road. It’s hard to know if you are truly equal to someone, most of the time you don’t know until after you’ve gotten to know someone and had your falling out. On the surface, you can have many things in common. But when it comes to the very important things, you can be so different. Opposites attract, and that can be good. In a sense that what one person cannot do or carry , the other person can. me and my ex-husband started off knowing that we were far from Christ. I had a strong sense that eventually I will overcome my flesh and grow. He said he would do the same as our relationship went on. I was the only one growing. Where I was taking steps forward, he was taking steps back. Because of the unequalness it was hard to get along. How to walk together except they agree? It got so bad to where I couldn’t even talk about a simple scripture in the Bible without him feel like I was trying to say something about him and attack him . If it ever gets to the point, that you can even speak about the Lord with happiness, then it is really bad. After several years of trying to hold onto that marriage, and get to a place where we could be equal again, eventually, I took the initiative to finally partways . You could say that I am far better off alone than he is. Even now he has gone through some crazy things with other people to wear his car got busted up.
Just to clear a few things up, I have been cheated on several times. I didn’t leave because I simply wasn’t happy. He also tried to divorce me not long after we had our child but messed it up with something he said. It wasn’t until my dad died And he approached me with something insensitive. It made me realize that I should’ve left a long time ago instead of constantly holding on and trying. I have been at my worst before without him caring, but when it came to my dad, who was gone and I loved dearly . …. I saw that it had to be done.
Hopefully that read wasn’t too depressing! I’m truly happy now!
 

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Make sure both are pulling their weight, to accomplish a task. You want to have the same goals, life choices, faith, and etc.

Deuteronomy 22:10
Do not plow with an ox and a donkey yoked together.
 

Lanolin

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Haha warships...

I have thought even in friendships with some I've just outgrown them and holding on to them would mean going backwards, and one friendship it seems like there is this huge chasm of non-comprehension since she is at a stage in life where she is wealthy and retired and I am poor and unemployed.

For example, there is no way I can just take off and go on holiday like she can practically every couple of weeks. I had a boss that used to do this, just go off overseas on junkets and jaunts leaving her staff to hold the fort while she was gone. In no way were we equal. We would cover her job while she was gone but with no reward or her level of pay...and we could never afford to do what she did.
 
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Haha warships...

I have thought even in friendships with some I've just outgrown them and holding on to them would mean going backwards, and one friendship it seems like there is this huge chasm of non-comprehension since she is at a stage in life where she is wealthy and retired and I am poor and unemployed.

For example, there is no way I can just take off and go on holiday like she can practically every couple of weeks. I had a boss that used to do this, just go off overseas on junkets and jaunts leaving her staff to hold the fort while she was gone. In no way were we equal. We would cover her job while she was gone but with no reward or her level of pay...and we could never afford to do what she did.
That sounds like the school system right now. I have a friend that I do not talk to much. We respect each other and know that we can’t converse about all the same things. She’s apart of the LBGT “Alphabet cause more letters keep getting added” community. She already knows my stance on it, but she also knows I’m not going to beat her on the head with the word. She also will not try to force me to say it is not a sin. Although we can still get along, we can’t do TOO much together as in days of old. I couldn’t have friends like your boss though, because if they EVER insisted on paying my way on anything then I’ve got that “my momma taught me to accept things that are free” mentality!
 

Lanolin

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Calling it Communion is some specific scripture behind it. I find it odd if someone who goes to church has never heard of 'Communion' or 'Holy Communion.' You can find 'communion' in Calvin's writings. NT Wright uses the term in Anglicanism.
I don't read Calvin's writings...unless its Calvin and Hobbes.
 

Lanolin

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That sounds like the school system right now. I have a friend that I do not talk to much. We respect each other and know that we can’t converse about all the same things. She’s apart of the LBGT “Alphabet cause more letters keep getting added” community. She already knows my stance on it, but she also knows I’m not going to beat her on the head with the word. She also will not try to force me to say it is not a sin. Although we can still get along, we can’t do TOO much together as in days of old. I couldn’t have friends like your boss though, because if they EVER insisted on paying my way on anything then I’ve got that “my momma taught me to accept things that are free” mentality!
school has always been unequal, and its often in high school the disparities show up even more when they stream students by ability

I find university, though it confers degrees, to be one of this institutions that played favourites as well and theres always an elite that snub everyone else.
 

Lanolin

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If you are naturally slender, most people dont want you on their team if playing rugby for example

But you may make a good jockey or coxswain
 
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school has always been unequal, and its often in high school the disparities show up even more when they stream students by ability

I find university, though it confers degrees, to be one of this institutions that played favourites as well and theres always an elite that snub everyone else.
The teachers aren’t getting enough pay. They have to do everyone’s job when they are out and it’s not just every blue moon. It’s just about every day. It’s making subs want to quit because they aren’t getting breaks and teachers want to find work elsewhere or even online so they don’t have to deal with the burdens of being overworked to run a school.