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ChandlerFan

ChandlerFan

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As far as friend requests from people I don't know, I tend to reject them. I think it's weird. It's especially weird to me that there are a couple of people on here who friend request every single user they possibly can. But if I've had even one conversation with a person before, or have interacted with them on the boards even a small bit, I will accept. It's just a friend request after all. I think some people can get too uptight about them.

I also do not remove people from my friends list or reject friend requests out of spite as I believe that is passive aggressive and a little childish.

Since getting plugged into Singles, I've tried to friend request all of the regulars as I've enjoyed posting around all of you, so if you got a friend request from me recently, that's why.
 
Pipp

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For a while I accepted everyone...I was like why not...This is a Christian site.. now I'm a little more careful. I've never gotten mad and removed someone. I should probably go through and remove a few on mine now. People I don't interact with in any way.
 
rachelsedge

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I add pretty much anyone. It's not like Facebook where they can see my personal information, friends on CC doesn't really mean anything. Sometimes I go through and unfriend people who have been banned, but other than that... It's not too big a deal to me. Anyone, friend or not, can see my profile and my posts anyway.
 
Grace-Like-Rain

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I don't typically accept friend requests from people I've never seen posting in the forums or chatting. If we've never spoken before, or you just joined the site that day, or have zero posts and no info on your page... yeah, sorry no... (I feel bad about it, but honestly I think most of those people are just maybe on a friending spree and won't even notice if I don't accept.)

I have my profile set up to show photo albums only to friends, and I'm trying lately to be a little more careful who has access to those and other personal info.
 
secularhermit

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Interesting!

Those "petitions" are sent whenever a person thinks she / he likes another and, after a time, several have know it could be a "mean" to censorship, particularly when that is "inadvertedly" removed or ignored.

If it had a switch to disable that, I will use it because, as long I was online, I knew that will hurt some (and give "emotional" power to others).

I find it silly! I personally have asked two or three persons to be "friends" on CC. When I was new I thought "it´s amazing", but friendship is build on higher things than "likes" or those invitations.

I´m proud of having "met" and learned from several on CC but, as long as I can, i don´t need those features this community have (that´s why I have my discouraging "signature").

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gypsygirl

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unless they're known to be suspect (or a creeper) to me, i tend to give people the benefit of the doubt and accept their request.

generally, that gives me more insight into who they are, and if i find their posts to be not what i'm interested in reading, for whatever reason (they post 97 times a day--especially 3 word or cryptic posts) or for whatever reason, not the kind of stuff i prefer to read, i then remove them from my friends list.

i do tend to go through my list and remove people occasionally who don't post or people that have disappeared as well.

as rachel pointed out, here on CC, a "friend list" doesn't mean a lot to me. no security measures, filters and only serves to orient and assist me in identifying whose posts i'm likely to read, and i treat it as such.

therefore, i hope people don't get offended when i remove them, because it's usually not personal.
 
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persNickety

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If I have never spoken to the person, I don't add them. Especially if I have just changed my avatar to an actual photo of myself. Shoo shoo, go back into the woodwork, lurkers *uses broom in sweeping motion*
 
gypsygirl

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pnick, maybe that's why i don't like having my face in an avatar, and prefer the anonymity of boots.

being friend-requested by someone who could actually "identify" me feels too personal, too much like some quasi-dating site, too much exposure.

easier to "accept" people when they can't pick you out of a line-up. : )
 
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Raine

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zeroturbulence said:
If I get a friend request here from someone I don't know (which only happened like a couple of times) I go to their profile and read some of their posts and if they seem friendly I'll accept it. If they don't have any posts and I don't know them then I don't accept. I haven't felt the need to unfriend anyone here.
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I do this too. :). I prefer to have some form of personal connection with people on my friends list but this doesn't always happen. Otherwise, I will delete them if we haven't interacted for a while, or if I discover that I really don't like them, or if they are banned. Otherwise, some friends I keep anyways even tho we barely interact since I see them on the forums enough to get a sense of who they are and hold a certain level of respect for them.
 
Pipp

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I'm very frustrated ! One person deciding 'nope I'm not going to church today because I don't want to' is affecting 3 other people as well. I HATE it when one lazy persons decision dictates what the rest of us do. Days like today .... work is very hard for me :/

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Pipp

Pipp

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Lol sorry guys.... I was so distracted by being angry I didn't notice I posted this in the wrong thread.
 
violakat

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tourist said:
I keep my friends list to a minimum. If there is no interaction they eventually get deleted. This list is not a deal breaker for me. There are only 2 or 3 residents of CC that have a permanent place on my list, the others are fleeting and elusive. I have this strong urge to drink Coke now.
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Crazyteen said:
Beware of the dangers of dihydrogen monoxide! They put it everywhere nowadays, even in Coke!!
The illuminati puts this chemical in chemtrails from the airplanes, causing massive gas-clouds to form in the sky and causing this chemical to rain down on us every day!!!!
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And now you have to worry about the ones with the name Michael. Apparently there's been some top soil dumping in that particular group at the plant. Don't worry, Coke is recalling it, just won't refund your money unless you go to a store that doesn't sell Pepsi, or so I was told. Hmm, now I wonder if the person who told it to me was reading it from the Onion. Must go check.


TOTALLY FAKE
 
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Raine

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Pipp said:
I'm very frustrated ! One person deciding 'nope I'm not going to church today because I don't want to' is affecting 3 other people as well. I HATE it when one lazy persons decision dictates what the rest of us do. Days like today .... work is very hard for me :/

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Pipp!!! I hate it when this happens!!!!!! But I don't care, I go anyways. :)
 
tourist

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Pipp said:
Lol sorry guys.... I was so distracted by being angry I didn't notice I posted this in the wrong thread.
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What would be the right thread I am wondering? Don't be angry dear, it's not so bad :)
 
ChandlerFan

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Pipp said:
I'm very frustrated ! One person deciding 'nope I'm not going to church today because I don't want to' is affecting 3 other people as well. I HATE it when one lazy persons decision dictates what the rest of us do. Days like today .... work is very hard for me :/

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That's really lame :/
 
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waterlily said:
I have more people on my ignore list than I do on my friends list...lol
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Same here.



I will check them out. See where they're from, maybe their age. See if there's something about them where they responded to a post i've made. If i can't find a basis for why they sent the request or a few other persona criteria that cause rejection, then i i'll give them a chance. If they make no attempt to contact me i'll remove them. I'm not interested in building up peoples friends lists so they feel important.
And i clear my list out regularly.
 
tourist

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Ugly said:
Same here.



I will check them out. See where they're from, maybe their age. See if there's something about them where they responded to a post i've made. If i can't find a basis for why they sent the request or a few other persona criteria that cause rejection, then i i'll give them a chance. If they make no attempt to contact me i'll remove them. I'm not interested in building up peoples friends lists so they feel important.
And i clear my list out regularly.
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I did my friend's list clean-up an hour ago.
 
maxwel

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I would never lower myself to accept any friend request from anyone who'd have me as a friend.

: )
 
Descyple

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I only accept Friends Requests from stalkers (that is how AzureAfire and I met!!!).
 
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