Girl needing encouragement...

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voiceoftruth

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oooh i want to read that book Jen... i could get it in a christian book store right?

awww that is precious... can you share with me the story Jen?


also i really like all the other advice you guys have been giving me. it is really helpful. i definatly want God to be first in the relationship. My friend is is a bad relationship right now and it is really hard to watch actually. this guy i am interested in and my friend and I all got together and we talked about it and it was really neat to hear what he said about relationships... he did mention that the problem with a lot of christian relationships is they put so much time into eachother but they don't put much time into God soo i can't remember what exactly he said but he said that God needs to be the center not on the side. So it was neat hearing that because i have thought that way for awhile now. and i guess for practicing that i could do that with my friendships. I think as a single i have all this time to do good works for God and get to know him better and i need to focus on that. I still would like to get to know this guy better and i think right now if he didn't like me anymore then a friend i wouldn't mind. :) because it think he is a good friend and very encouraging and stuff.
 
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voiceoftruth

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Okay I just want to say i am really realizing God is more important and i want to put him first and stop trying to chase after this Guy so please pray that I can let him go and give my feelings about him to God.
 
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goth4god

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for sure! ^_^
God is deff more important!
 
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voiceoftruth

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Yeah i was thinking this morning and praying and i realized that I haven't been putting God first and need to give this all to him because he can handle it way better then me. I want him to write my love story not me. I realized that i was trying to write it and it wasn't going well so i handed him the pen. Thank you goth for God for praying for you.
 
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goth4god

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yeah, we all have our moments when we lose sight!
and you are welcome!
 
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Compassion

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It is very, very easy to get in an 'emotional' relationship online. For many people it is easier to share your heart online, than in person. I don't doubt your feelings for him at all. Just be mindful that the person you spoke with online, may be completely different in person. I know from personal experience. It's a weird situation, but I talked to a guy online for a couple years. I loved talking to him, we talked about God all the time. We would talk for hours thru texts, online, and over the phone. I wasn't 'attracted' to him, he wasn't my type. He was just an awesome friend. My roommate at the time had talked to him a few times, and she got the bright idea for us to meet him one day. So, I went along with it. We met him, less than a year later they were married and expecting a child. Less than a year after that, they had both dropped out of church. She was a leader in the church, she ministered some and led the praise and worship. She was so desperate for companionship, that she compromised...and decided it would be too embarrassing for her to go to church without her husband. It still makes me angry to think about him, and how I was kinda responsible for them meeting. We did warn her about marrying him though, it didn't take long for his true colors to shine thru. Sorry to bore you with all that, but my point is people are not always like they appear to be. Do not get so emotionally involved that you lose site of God and are blinded by his true colors. Spend time with him around others...see how he relates to other people in different situations. Just take is slow.
 
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goth4god

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^ yeah same to ppl in person. I have seen good guys go bad once they have the girl. so you just have to be careful with everyone you come in contact with. especially if you plan on giving them your heart. thats why you have to make sure it is in God's will!
 
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Compassion

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I also forgot to say that during the two years I had been talking to him he was counseling and living in a Christian drug rehab ministry...he was pumped full of God daily. Yet once he got out of that environment, he crumbled. THat's why I say you need to spend time with him away from a Godly environment..no I'm not talking about a bar. Just see how he is when he isn't surround by Christianity 24/7 like the trip he was on when you were messaging.
 
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voiceoftruth

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Yeah i can understand that. I am not always around a christian environment but i know when i am i feel a lot stronger. When i am at home i sometimes feel useless and like a total mess up like i can't do anything right. But it is totally the devil that is making me feel this way and i need to stand up and trust God will give me the tools i need to carry on.


this guy i have been talking to i have known for 8 years but i haven't hung out with him a lot. me and one of my friends might start a small bible study with him and his brother. But I am no longer going to focus on liking him. I am not doing that to impress him anymore i want to focus on God and growing deeper with my relationship with him. Maybe this guy will be in impress but i don't care its because i wanna know God more and stop sitting here feeling sorry for myself.
 
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goth4god

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I can totally relate to the first part of your post ^

thats awesome! I hope you guys become better friends! ^_^
 
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voiceoftruth

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Yeah I just have to keep in mind that i don't need to impress him and I don't need to agree with everything he says and that I need to just be myself and try my best to glorify God in everything i do. Oh man i hate how i always say things like this but its like i never end up doing it.

I want to stay good friends with this guy but i don't wanna hang on to the feeling that there could be more in the future. I need to realize that I will not write a love story as well as God will :)

Oh man I am really enjoying this discussion. Hey thanks Goth4God for sticking in here and talking to me :)
 
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goth4god

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lol no problem! I love talking about guys! =P
 
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worldlover

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I think the easiest way to answer your question is to say to him what you feel about him. Be honest to him and i'm pretty sure God will help you:]
 
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voiceoftruth

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Yeah me too.. i really like talking about guys but I am trying to get out of that habit...
I guess talk about them more as brothers in Christ.. I donno

I have always struggled with guys and stuff.
 
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goth4god

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I just give advice to my friends about their guy problems, even tho i have only had one online bf! lol! but my advice seems to be good! lol
 
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voiceoftruth

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yeah true....

I don't really like the idea of online boyfriends and girlfriends really i mean like its just not the same... i haven't had any serious relationships really but i am pretty sure it is better to have a face to face reala
 
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goth4god

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well I've never been asked out in person, so I've never had the chance. and my online relationship worked, it prolly would have lasted longer if we got to see each other. but it was for a good 6months!
 
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voiceoftruth

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yeah now that i think of it both of the boyfriends i had i started dating online

but i knew them in real life
 
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goth4god

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yeah.
my sister thinks its funny that i have had a bf but have never gone on a date.
 
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voiceoftruth

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haha i have only been on two dates... with a bf.. i have had tons of other dates like with my grannie and friends and stuff.. its fun :)
 
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