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Hey VoiceofTruth. I am reading a book, a lot of people have heard about it, so you might have to. "I Kissed Dating Goodbye."
I have learned that when you meet a new guy or a new girl, you should accept them as a brother or a sister in Christ. No, they aren't BLOOD related...but they are created from the same God as you are. Before anything, accept him as that...as a brother in Christ. You should accept that first, THEN see if this is the man that God intended you to be with. You need to rely on God and you have to think with your mind AND heart. If you just rely on your heart, that's pretty dangerous. because you are just relying on your emotions...and they will come and go. That's why God gave us a mind as well. So we can use our heart and our minds, and God being the director of your life.
When you date, you need to know if this is who God wants you to be with! And if he isn't, don't worry, God will provide you with someone. God will give you the desires of your heart if you trust in HIM. Just trust Him. Pray about it. Is this guy going to be your future husband? If not, why waste your time? Not trying to be rude or anything, but just giving you some advice!
I know, you really like this guy. I was involved with this guy for 5 months, and I KNEW that God was telling me to end it. I mean, there were sooo many warning signs but I didn't listen. First, he was an Atheist. Second, he already had sex. Third, he drinks and gets drunk. Fourth, he swears. I mean, signs after signs. After he broke up with me (more like cheating, by going over to a girls house to have SEX with, he broke up with me the next day), I made a decision that I'm no longer going to date. That I'm just going to rely on God. He is the director of your life. HE ALREADY KNOWS WHATS GOING TO HAPPEN. Why worry? Hang in there!
I have learned that when you meet a new guy or a new girl, you should accept them as a brother or a sister in Christ. No, they aren't BLOOD related...but they are created from the same God as you are. Before anything, accept him as that...as a brother in Christ. You should accept that first, THEN see if this is the man that God intended you to be with. You need to rely on God and you have to think with your mind AND heart. If you just rely on your heart, that's pretty dangerous. because you are just relying on your emotions...and they will come and go. That's why God gave us a mind as well. So we can use our heart and our minds, and God being the director of your life.
When you date, you need to know if this is who God wants you to be with! And if he isn't, don't worry, God will provide you with someone. God will give you the desires of your heart if you trust in HIM. Just trust Him. Pray about it. Is this guy going to be your future husband? If not, why waste your time? Not trying to be rude or anything, but just giving you some advice!
I know, you really like this guy. I was involved with this guy for 5 months, and I KNEW that God was telling me to end it. I mean, there were sooo many warning signs but I didn't listen. First, he was an Atheist. Second, he already had sex. Third, he drinks and gets drunk. Fourth, he swears. I mean, signs after signs. After he broke up with me (more like cheating, by going over to a girls house to have SEX with, he broke up with me the next day), I made a decision that I'm no longer going to date. That I'm just going to rely on God. He is the director of your life. HE ALREADY KNOWS WHATS GOING TO HAPPEN. Why worry? Hang in there!
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You're very welcome. Another thing to look at is the book of Ruth. Ruth knew who she was going to marry, however, Naomi told her to wait. The man will not rest until the matter is settled. Basically, when God tugs on his heart he will not rest until he has you as his bride. In God's timing of course. I hate this advice but, be patient! Make sure not to look so hard for Mr. Right, that you don't allow God to make you Mrs. Right.
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You can take it or leave it, when people tell you to "wait for God to bring the right person along"
That's what I did (although i'll admit I can be a little shy).. Anyway this 'prophet' lady was preacing at church when I was about 17 and told me that God would show me the right person, ect.. blah,blah,blah, so I held onto that and didn't worry too much, because I KNEW that God had someone for me and was sure to bring her along at any minute...
Oh and did I mention that i'll be 30 this year and still single?
Pretty embarressing to be pretty much the oldest never-married guy in a church of 300 or so.
But I once dated a model years ago, so I guess it wasn't a total loss. Just wish I could have started a family earlier, because i'm just old now.
That's what I did (although i'll admit I can be a little shy).. Anyway this 'prophet' lady was preacing at church when I was about 17 and told me that God would show me the right person, ect.. blah,blah,blah, so I held onto that and didn't worry too much, because I KNEW that God had someone for me and was sure to bring her along at any minute...
Oh and did I mention that i'll be 30 this year and still single?
Pretty embarressing to be pretty much the oldest never-married guy in a church of 300 or so.
But I once dated a model years ago, so I guess it wasn't a total loss. Just wish I could have started a family earlier, because i'm just old now.
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One of the most important things for Christians on dates is that we have to remember that we are made to be attracted to one another physically, and so it is dangerous to be alone, especially when you really like them. You would be better off meeting in church together and watching his life and seeing his faithfulness to church attendance. I hope this doesn't seem old-fashioned to you, but I think it is practical since the Bible says that we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. You should know for sure whether he is a Christian or not before you get too serious with him, and the way you do that is in church. Do you attend church yourself?
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Alpha Unit,
I can't say that I know exactly how you feel, I am going to be 21 and I am a virgin, never dated, and have never kissed. I don't know what your past relationship(s) have been like, but I can tell you it's not until you can give God the praise for your singleness, and thank Him for allowing you to grow deeper, will you be on a path of holy matrimony. I'm not talking about with a man, I am talking about the Bridegroom. Reflect on this: In your years of single-hood, what have you done for the Kingdom? Have you fallen more and more in love with Christ? Have you prayed more for God to bring you your future mate, than for the deliverance from bondage of a brother or sister in Christ? One of the hardest questions, I think, Is the Love who is, and The Love who was, and the Love who is to come, not enough enough? I am not saying that it doesn't suck to not be in a relationship, but what if the person God has for you hasn't been brought to the point where he would benefit you? What if he is still growing in Christ? Do you like undercooked cake, sweet for a while, but will give you a stomach later?
I can't say that I know exactly how you feel, I am going to be 21 and I am a virgin, never dated, and have never kissed. I don't know what your past relationship(s) have been like, but I can tell you it's not until you can give God the praise for your singleness, and thank Him for allowing you to grow deeper, will you be on a path of holy matrimony. I'm not talking about with a man, I am talking about the Bridegroom. Reflect on this: In your years of single-hood, what have you done for the Kingdom? Have you fallen more and more in love with Christ? Have you prayed more for God to bring you your future mate, than for the deliverance from bondage of a brother or sister in Christ? One of the hardest questions, I think, Is the Love who is, and The Love who was, and the Love who is to come, not enough enough? I am not saying that it doesn't suck to not be in a relationship, but what if the person God has for you hasn't been brought to the point where he would benefit you? What if he is still growing in Christ? Do you like undercooked cake, sweet for a while, but will give you a stomach later?
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you know what i decided is to not tell him not hint at it not try and be around him a lot and just let things flow and try not to be to emotionally open with him because i donno how he feels and i don't want to go to far.
In a youth group i have been hanging out with we started reading the book Sex isn't the problem lust is and i feel like maybe that is what i have been doing lusting after him and i am honestly sick of it. I am finished.
This guy is a christian and very wise but i am done trying to chase him down and be around him all the time. In fact i would like God to almost keep me away from him for now unless he wants me to get to know this guy better for a better reason. But i donno it has been frustrating me for a long time now. I am so sick of it and i want it to be done.
In a youth group i have been hanging out with we started reading the book Sex isn't the problem lust is and i feel like maybe that is what i have been doing lusting after him and i am honestly sick of it. I am finished.
This guy is a christian and very wise but i am done trying to chase him down and be around him all the time. In fact i would like God to almost keep me away from him for now unless he wants me to get to know this guy better for a better reason. But i donno it has been frustrating me for a long time now. I am so sick of it and i want it to be done.
