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This thread has me thinking of all my past rejections and I'm arriving at the conclusion that there are just too many to list, but here are a few:
* The guy I asked to a school dance who told me he couldn't go because he was working; but when MY FRIEND asked him, he suddenly didn't have to work, and wound up going with her.
* Another guy I asked to yet another school dance and he told me no... but when the blond, blue-eyed sister of one of the rmost popular girls in school asked him, he said yes.
(Are y'all noticing a trend here? I guess it's pretty obvious--I can't dance and all of those guys must have known it.
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The worst was still on the way, though, which was the day I stood in court and had to hear my once-husband tell everyone publicly that he was leaving me. The judge asked him why, and he stammered with a reason, saying he couldn't talk to me anymore, and I think... that he was trying to tell them that he didn't love me anymore... But to be honest, I was trying to mentally project myself elsewhere because I couldn't bear to hear it, especially in front of an audience. After all, there's no better feeling than having your spouse tell the whole world that he is rejecting you.
As most people here know, I am adopted, so the toughest thing for me was trying to wrap my head around the thought of having both my birth parents and then my husband reject me, and without giving me any solid reasons. I mean, I would say that these are pretty crucial people in one's life, and when you aren't given a reason as to why someone (especially that important) can't love you, you start to make up the reasons in your own head.
I still do that to this day. As much as I might want someone to like me, there is a part of me that still thinks, "Oh no. You can't possibly feel anything for me. Just ask my parents and my ex-husband..." And you start to go through your list of about 3,000 reasons you've come up with that these people must have not been able to love you, and why anyone else won't be able to, either.
I'm sorry I can't pretty it up, but I'm fairly certain that death would hurt a lot less than that kind of rejection. To be honest, I try to block it out.
And I guess in time, life seems to distract you with other things, and, mercifully, you find that you don't think about it nearly as much as you used to.
This thread has me thinking of all my past rejections and I'm arriving at the conclusion that there are just too many to list, but here are a few:
* The guy I asked to a school dance who told me he couldn't go because he was working; but when MY FRIEND asked him, he suddenly didn't have to work, and wound up going with her.
* Another guy I asked to yet another school dance and he told me no... but when the blond, blue-eyed sister of one of the rmost popular girls in school asked him, he said yes.
(Are y'all noticing a trend here? I guess it's pretty obvious--I can't dance and all of those guys must have known it.
)The worst was still on the way, though, which was the day I stood in court and had to hear my once-husband tell everyone publicly that he was leaving me. The judge asked him why, and he stammered with a reason, saying he couldn't talk to me anymore, and I think... that he was trying to tell them that he didn't love me anymore... But to be honest, I was trying to mentally project myself elsewhere because I couldn't bear to hear it, especially in front of an audience. After all, there's no better feeling than having your spouse tell the whole world that he is rejecting you.
As most people here know, I am adopted, so the toughest thing for me was trying to wrap my head around the thought of having both my birth parents and then my husband reject me, and without giving me any solid reasons. I mean, I would say that these are pretty crucial people in one's life, and when you aren't given a reason as to why someone (especially that important) can't love you, you start to make up the reasons in your own head.
I still do that to this day. As much as I might want someone to like me, there is a part of me that still thinks, "Oh no. You can't possibly feel anything for me. Just ask my parents and my ex-husband..." And you start to go through your list of about 3,000 reasons you've come up with that these people must have not been able to love you, and why anyone else won't be able to, either.
I'm sorry I can't pretty it up, but I'm fairly certain that death would hurt a lot less than that kind of rejection. To be honest, I try to block it out.
And I guess in time, life seems to distract you with other things, and, mercifully, you find that you don't think about it nearly as much as you used to.
Thank you so much, Joseph and Tourist.
You are far too kind.
The inside of my head is kind of like a hurricane, and every now and then... It lets itself rain down in the form of words and sentences. I very much appreciate that someone would take the time to read the downpour of my thoughts.
Thank you even more for overlooking my many, many typos, which, try as I might, I can't seem to always catch, but I've come to feel as if the mistakes help make the writing a little more human.
You are far too kind.
The inside of my head is kind of like a hurricane, and every now and then... It lets itself rain down in the form of words and sentences. I very much appreciate that someone would take the time to read the downpour of my thoughts.
Thank you even more for overlooking my many, many typos, which, try as I might, I can't seem to always catch, but I've come to feel as if the mistakes help make the writing a little more human.
You have terrible confidence xD dude im sure you dont look that bad plus who cares about that anyway girls are a lot less vain then men it's more personality tbh and confidence women always talk about confidence but not only that but just cuz they aren't attracted doesn't mean there's something wrong with you it's personal preference so ima need you to chil on yourself fam or ill totally fight you cx
Yup and I don't see myself as ugly or anything it's not all about looks I've seen dudes that girls would usually drool over get turned down cuz they weren't the way the girls wanted them personality wise. But the feeling ehhh it sucks xD like someone put their hand through your chest and slowly pulled it out and stomped on it is kknda how i remember it but it does get easier the more you talk to women, don't be a thot please, but after getting rejected or even accepted you'll get used to it. Those girls that say yes don't hurt either sometimes it'll make you feel like you dont have the face of a foot or something. I wouldn't wprey about it I'd say wait anyway until God reveals that person I don't wanna make any emotional connections that aren't necessary romance wise anyway.
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HAHA... ;D Of course i too like white guy but its impossible to me because of distance and culture and language too..anyway please pray for me to get guy who is in God's plan for me.
Monica,India.
Monica,India.
Wait wait wait i said men are more vain it's not JUST looks geez women aren't just slabs of meat but the not mouthy part is nice but i mean that's not just asian women who knows what God wants for my life in that regard. I'm slightly embarrassed now xD one thing i can say for sure is that we should ask God who he wants us to be with and i believe he will reveal it in his time so until then we should be patient and use our singleness for doing things for the kingdom we can't do when we are married
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Japanese culture is extremely hedonistic and materialistic. It is not uncommon for people to commit suicide if they are not making as much money as they believe they should be making. Prostitution is legal in Japan. In South Korea, people are extremely obsessed with their looks. Their personal value stems from their appearances. I would not say Asian culture is more honorable than American culture.
Well we aren't too far from that just in different ways and Japan is just crazy as much as i want to go there I'm not going to defend them they are really...extra to be nice. And you're right in some cases but Asians are also known for beinguch more polite and obedient although that's not always the case. Either way I think we all have held onto some things we need honor just isn't one of them here in the USA at least imo