Here It Is! The Gi-Normous List of Everything YOU Have to Offer YOUR Perfect Partner!

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tourist

tourist

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JesusLives said:
When I was younger I had the LONG DETAILED LIST. After 50 the list consisted of one thing... Breathing that was it the guy just had to be alive... I gave up on my expectations of him and settled on letting him be himself and wanting to just be myself and find someone who could live with me being myself.... Thank God for CC as I found my Tourist who is still breathing and lets me be me... and accepts me just as I am.
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...and what a beautiful woman that you are with a heart to match. I thank God that CC brought us together too.
 
zeroturbulence

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Solemateleft said:
Dude - in order for you to catch a fish - you have to cast your line...
I wouldn't be surprised that there aren't a few CC ladies in here who are already attracted to your heart and soul...
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Thank you for the advice, but I've already been burnt a few too many times. :cautious:
 
Solemateleft

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zeroturbulence said:
Thank you for the advice, but I've already been burnt a few too many times. :cautious:
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Faith... Consider thinking of it as the difference between hunting and fishing. Ultimately, since it is his plan, yes, we need to refrain from taking a hunters mindset. Not that I know anything about fishing, but it more about the cavalier mindset, where there is no pressure, and lots of patience... No harm in casting your line in HIS ponds...
Anyway, this is the approach I'm considering for myself...
 
zeroturbulence

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Solemateleft said:
Faith... Consider thinking of it as the difference between hunting and fishing. Ultimately, since it is his plan, yes, we need to refrain from taking a hunters mindset. Not that I know anything about fishing, but it more about the cavalier mindset, where there is no pressure, and lots of patience... No harm in casting your line in HIS ponds...
Anyway, this is the approach I'm considering for myself...
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Well if you put it that way, my line is always out there hoping for a bite or at least a nibble. :sneaky:
 
zeroturbulence

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Solemateleft said:
Would recognize a nibble if you got one? ;)
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Oh yes. In fact one of my other problems is that I get overly excited and attached whenever I sense a nibble. Then I spend all my time thinking about that person and trying to get to know them better.. Only to find out that it wasn't a nibble after all. :confused:
 
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Hamarr

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zeroturbulence said:
Oh yes. In fact one of my other problems is that I get overly excited and attached whenever I sense a nibble. Then I spend all my time thinking about that person and trying to get to know them better.. Only to find out that it wasn't a nibble after all. :confused:
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I feel that way myself at times. I think it’s sort anxious attachment and also lack of experirnce maybe? Building things up to potentially be something they are not by worrying about it. (I go avoidant most of the time).

In my case, at least, I have been placing too much importance in potentially being rejected or at least not accepted. As if they are commenting on me as a person and not just they are not interested. Therapy has been helping a ton with this.
 
1christian1

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seoulsearch said:
Hey Everyone,

I have to admit. Cinder knows me all too well (and has been here a while as well) -- she knew exactly what I had planned as a sequel to the "Huge Honkin' List" of things we're looking for in a future spouse.

True confession: many of these thread ideas are not new at all, but get recycled many times over the years. However, the CC crowd changes all the time, so it's always interesting to reindroduce popular thread topics to entirely new audiences with a whole new crop of insights. :)

So, without further ado...

* What things/characteristics/qualities do you have to offer the kind of partner you are looking for?

* Would you say that your list of things to offer is just as long, or longer, than the list of things you're looking for in someone else?

* Do you anticipate any problems if two people are bringing lists of qualities/wants into a relationship that are unequal? (In other words, would having a long list of wants, but a short list of things to offer, mean that these two people would be unequally yoked?)

I think the topic of what people are looking for in someone is asked all the time... So it seems like an interesting way to balance it out is to talk about what people feel they can give to someone in return.

Thanks very much for sharing, and we'll be looking forward to hearing your thoughts and answers! :)
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Honesty, Love, Hope, and Happiness I guess...
 
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