How does one like 4 or 5 people at the same time...........
Well it works like this.
I start talking to a girl I'm attracted to. Talking to her makes me happy. If she enjoys talking to me, it tells me that the feeling is mutual. But she's not my wife, and she's not my girlfriend, but she could be. I'm not going to pressure her or try to force her to be in a relationship with me. But while we're interacting, those feelings are engaged, and they get inflated because it gets better as time goes on.
Because I haven't settled, and should not be expected to, since there's no indication that the girl I was talking to wants to be my girlfriend, I am free to talk to other girls. I'm not going to wait around or force the girl I have feelings for to interact with me if she doesn't want to. So while I'm waiting, i talk to other girls.
And the cycle begins again. I talk to a girl I like, I form feelings for her because she could be a potential partner, and so on.
I have a very small set of criteria. First, they must be a Christian, a born again believer in Christ. Second, well, I mean I have to want to talk to them, and I have to want to be around them. I suppose that has to do with being attracted to them.