How do you decide to have feelings for?

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adekruif

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They're everywhere...

...everywhere...

I think he actually meant unicorns. Unicorns are everywhere. :0

How does one like 4 or 5 people at the same time........... :confused:
Guys's minds are like compartments. Each girl gets her own "container" and if another girl gets "liked", she gets a "container". The containers stack neatly so liking more than one thing at a time is not a problem. You can't multi task when you stack containers though. Or maybe it's akin to liking a post on bookFace. IDK
 
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How does one like 4 or 5 people at the same time........... :confused:
Well it works like this.
I start talking to a girl I'm attracted to. Talking to her makes me happy. If she enjoys talking to me, it tells me that the feeling is mutual. But she's not my wife, and she's not my girlfriend, but she could be. I'm not going to pressure her or try to force her to be in a relationship with me. But while we're interacting, those feelings are engaged, and they get inflated because it gets better as time goes on.
Because I haven't settled, and should not be expected to, since there's no indication that the girl I was talking to wants to be my girlfriend, I am free to talk to other girls. I'm not going to wait around or force the girl I have feelings for to interact with me if she doesn't want to. So while I'm waiting, i talk to other girls.
And the cycle begins again. I talk to a girl I like, I form feelings for her because she could be a potential partner, and so on.
I have a very small set of criteria. First, they must be a Christian, a born again believer in Christ. Second, well, I mean I have to want to talk to them, and I have to want to be around them. I suppose that has to do with being attracted to them.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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#43
I think he actually meant unicorns. Unicorns are everywhere. :0



Guys's minds are like compartments. Each girl gets her own "container" and if another girl gets "liked", she gets a "container". The containers stack neatly so liking more than one thing at a time is not a problem. You can't multi task when you stack containers though. Or maybe it's akin to liking a post on bookFace. IDK
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seoulsearch

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How does one like 4 or 5 people at the same time........... :confused:
It's always good to have a backup plan... Just in case the 1st, 2nd, 3rd, or 4th person you're stalking decides to say no (or slap you with a restraining order)...

It's one of the first rules of stalking. "Always Have A Secondary (or Third, or Fourth, or Fifth) Victim in Sight."

Works for me. Er... I mean... I've HEARD this is what can happen...
 
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rachelsedge

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I guess I'm different in that I tend to jump from one person to the next in who I like. Some of the "crush" feelings don't last hardly any time at all, and there have been a few that lasted quite a while. I think the person I like now has been the longest I've stuck on one person. I don't recall having significant feelings for more than one person at a time, but to each their own I suppose. :)
 

seoulsearch

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View attachment 70945 <---I have a container too... it looks a little like sooo
I'm having a pretty hard time deciding what feelings to have right now, too.

I am feeling that I really, really... want a rubber duckie.

My sensible side says, "Don't do it! It will only cause you heartache and pain (from all the people laughing at you.)"

But all my other side says is, "Duckie. So. Yellow. So. Squeaky. Must Have."

When the feelings are this strong... Is it really a choice?!
 
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I dont get this whole "crush" thing people talk about. what in the world is that crap