HOW ON EARTH AM I EVER GOING TO FIND A CHRISTIAN WOMAN TO MARRY

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selfdissolving

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So are you going to marry yourself. Lol.
No. I'm not into bald headed, muscular men :p
i see the point you are making, but I'm having trouble articulating a response. I don't spend much time thinking about my personality apart from my identity in Christ. And really, that is an accurate reflection of what I am looking for in a spouse: someone who's identity and being is rooted more and more in Jesus Christ.
 
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I think the bigger question is, instead of how you can find one, is, why do you want one? Finding the perfect woman, doesn’t usher in the perfect relationship. What is your end game? Finding her is the start. Then what? If your life is lacking, a woman won’t fix that. Think of how you are addressing this problem. Problem one; if you are chasing, they are running...away. What can you do to make yourself more attractive? Let them find you. If your life isn’t enough for you, it sure won’t be enough for her too. The idea is to find a partner to work together for a goal. Sometimes a partner helps, sometimes a partner hurts. Pick your goal before you pick your mate. If you’re lonely, get a dog.
 
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Jennie-Mae

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This thread really makes me appreciate the fact that I’m not looking for a Christian woman to marry😂😜.
 

melita916

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I didn’t meet my husband until I was 32. He was 36. I’m glad we met when we did because we both had unresolved issues prior to meeting. Issues only the Lord could heal and resolve. Meeting beforehand would have made things more difficult. We still have growing to do, but at least THOSE things of the past are the past :)
 

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Why is it soooo difficult to find a Godly Christian female????

One who's: never been married, is celibate, and ACTUALLY puts Jesus first???? And isn't hella old???? And is biblically orthodox in her theology???? And can hold her ground in a spiritual discussion???

I get lonely and discouraged and melancholy.

And then I remember...."all things work together for good for those who love God and are called according to his purpose".

Even this loneliness, discouragement and melancholy. Thank you Lord!
I understand about putting Jesus first but as you get older you have to have realistic expectations. I believe you are going to have a hard time finding a single woman who is age appropriate that meets all of your criteria. If she is not married she most likely has been in at least one long-term relationship. She may be currently celibate but probably is not a virgin but that doesn't necessarily mean that spiritually she is lacking. Oh, she probably has at least one child, probably older now or maybe now an adult. As we go through life we start to accumulate baggage, that's just the way it is. You can certainly find a Godly Christian female but naïve expectations will severely limit the available pool of single women.
 

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Well I've been told finding a woman isn't a good idea but, rather to not expect to find a woman then just casually talk with women instead of looking and possibly find an ideal bride, it might work or might not, I mean it's a possibility but, I still hope for a woman hope you find the woman you are looking for all we know the ideal women may be around the corner for us.
That's right, keep an open mind and expect the unexpected. You just never know who you are going to bump into on any given day. It could happen today or perhaps tomorrow, but it probably will happen in that is what you desire.
 

tourist

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Well if these are the qualifications for all men, no wonder I'm single.

I fail on not just one, but two crucial points: I was married to someone who left, and, gasp, I'm hella old (lol.)

All I can say is, thank goodness Godly Christian males are so much easier to find that Godly Christian females :rolleyes: (not), but best wishes in your endeavor to find one. :cool:
They are probably not the qualifications for al men but rather certain men. For the record the man that snags you will have the catch of a lifetime. :)
 

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I think one answer might be in your thread title ... 'how on earth' ... if you're looking to the world to provide a holy woman, you're going to be disappointed.
Well let's just jump on selfdissolving with both self-righteous, sanctimonious feet, why don't we?

Are you certain that's all? Surely you can find something else in his posts that you can twist into another holier-than-thou jab at him.

Nit-picking, word-twisting crap like this just gets on my last ever-loving nerve.
 

tourist

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Sorry Pippy.

You're just "purgatory old".

"Hella old" is a term reserved for just us REAL old-timers who've done the time ( and have to change the tennis balls on our walkers on a regular basis.)

You're not even close, Baby Girl. <3
Yeah, us real old-timers have been there, done that, bought the T shirt.
 

Lynx

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Sorry, I didn't mean to single Ricky out. There has been a lot of picking of nits by a lot of people in this thread. Ricky only made one post.

Sorry selfdissolving, sometimes this happens to a thread. Looks like the fault finders are out in full force today. Maybe it's a full moon tonight.
 

tourist

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Not a girlfriend before 21 and thus no girls forever!!!! That's not biblical. The first woman in the life of Isaac was when he turned 40.
Yeah, but people lived hundreds of years back then. In real time the equivalent to 40 would be in his teens.
 

tourist

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It was funny ,no worries, its just suddenly this remind me of this Isaac passage that shocked me a few years back.
Am happy to join this team and hear the heart of each.
Happy to have you onboard as well. Welcome to CC.
 

tourist

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I have no idea what constitutes this for other people but I have determined a few signs to watch for in my own life.

*When things I do for fun are too much trouble to bother with.

*When all new music is "just a bunch of noise."

*When I can no longer take stairs two at a time.

*When I no longer occasionally sprint across the parking lot to my car just because running sometimes is fun.

I'm a flat 40 years old and none of these things have happened yet, so I guess I haven't reached that level of old yet.
I believe that I have reached that level of old. The last time I sprinted was when I was 28 serving in the US Army. In the Army, as well as the other branches of service, it's hurry up and wait.
 

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Before I offend too many people with my jokes...

I hate to keep mentioning this because so many people here already know this about me, but here goes.

When I was 25, my then-husband left me for a 19-year-old redhead that we both worked with. I came home one day from work and half the house was gone. He had moved out without any warning or hint, and a not long after that, I received papers in the mail with the headline, "You Are Being Sued For Divorce."

I have a bit of an idea of how hard it is to find a good Christian spouse, so I completely empathize with anyone who is looking and I have several crazy stories to tell about the dating world that I have often shared here in Singles.

I've also followed all the good Christian advice you will find people giving over and over again for 20 years, and God has yet to cross my path with a husband, but maybe it's His will, and I've been working on accepting that.

As a single, you just can't win. People will tell you to throw your life into serving the Lord, and that you'll meet someone along the way, but then when you try to tell them that you've done that and are still strugglinrag, they'll tell you that you shouldn't even talk about it, lest you boast about your good deeds and therefore lose your reward in heaven.

I participated in the things I did not because I was trying to find something to boast about, and not just because I was trying to meet a good Christian man. I threw myself into every ministry I could find--Children's Church, Tween Church, choir, cleaning, classes, prayer groups, Bible studies, outreaches, ministries that involved talking to veterans, and a ministry that found me talking to guys in their 30's who were serving life sentences for crimes such as shooting their parents as a teenager--because I was lost, broken, unspeakably lonely, and desperate to get "closer to God" as all the good Christian advice tells you to do.

I never found a husband (maybe still someday? I don't know--that's up to God.)

But what I did find is that God CAN change your focus, and change your heart, but it is often in ways you never would have thought of (or entered into willingly), and takes a whole lot longer than you ever expected.

But that is just me.

Humor is one way that I mask the pain of feeling the things I don't want to admit, lest I be stoned with more good Christian advice, such as the pain of feeling as if God has overlooked me, but yet handed spouses out to everyone else around me.

We are all on individual walks with our Lord--may He bless you with the comfort of His presence during yours. :)
My first marriage ended in divorce at the age of 29 after 6 1/2 years. The sheriff delivered my papers to me personally. It is wonderful that you found God in your search so in the end, while perhaps painful at times, the search was worth it.
 

Mel85

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Sorry, I didn't mean to single Ricky out. There has been a lot of picking of nits by a lot of people in this thread. Ricky only made one post.

Sorry selfdissolving, sometimes this happens to a thread. Looks like the fault finders are out in full force today. Maybe it's a full moon tonight.
Just be straight up.

I’m one of them.

But now we’ve broken bread.