HOW ON EARTH AM I EVER GOING TO FIND A CHRISTIAN WOMAN TO MARRY
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No. I'm not into bald headed, muscular men
i see the point you are making, but I'm having trouble articulating a response. I don't spend much time thinking about my personality apart from my identity in Christ. And really, that is an accurate reflection of what I am looking for in a spouse: someone who's identity and being is rooted more and more in Jesus Christ.
I think the bigger question is, instead of how you can find one, is, why do you want one? Finding the perfect woman, doesn’t usher in the perfect relationship. What is your end game? Finding her is the start. Then what? If your life is lacking, a woman won’t fix that. Think of how you are addressing this problem. Problem one; if you are chasing, they are running...away. What can you do to make yourself more attractive? Let them find you. If your life isn’t enough for you, it sure won’t be enough for her too. The idea is to find a partner to work together for a goal. Sometimes a partner helps, sometimes a partner hurts. Pick your goal before you pick your mate. If you’re lonely, get a dog.
I didn’t meet my husband until I was 32. He was 36. I’m glad we met when we did because we both had unresolved issues prior to meeting. Issues only the Lord could heal and resolve. Meeting beforehand would have made things more difficult. We still have growing to do, but at least THOSE things of the past are the past
Why is it soooo difficult to find a Godly Christian female????
One who's: never been married, is celibate, and ACTUALLY puts Jesus first???? And isn't hella old???? And is biblically orthodox in her theology???? And can hold her ground in a spiritual discussion???
I get lonely and discouraged and melancholy.
And then I remember...."all things work together for good for those who love God and are called according to his purpose".
Even this loneliness, discouragement and melancholy. Thank you Lord!
I understand about putting Jesus first but as you get older you have to have realistic expectations. I believe you are going to have a hard time finding a single woman who is age appropriate that meets all of your criteria. If she is not married she most likely has been in at least one long-term relationship. She may be currently celibate but probably is not a virgin but that doesn't necessarily mean that spiritually she is lacking. Oh, she probably has at least one child, probably older now or maybe now an adult. As we go through life we start to accumulate baggage, that's just the way it is. You can certainly find a Godly Christian female but naïve expectations will severely limit the available pool of single women.
Well I've been told finding a woman isn't a good idea but, rather to not expect to find a woman then just casually talk with women instead of looking and possibly find an ideal bride, it might work or might not, I mean it's a possibility but, I still hope for a woman hope you find the woman you are looking for all we know the ideal women may be around the corner for us.
That's right, keep an open mind and expect the unexpected. You just never know who you are going to bump into on any given day. It could happen today or perhaps tomorrow, but it probably will happen in that is what you desire.
I hate to keep mentioning this because so many people here already know this about me, but here goes.
When I was 25, my then-husband left me for a 19-year-old redhead that we both worked with. I came home one day from work and half the house was gone. He had moved out without any warning or hint, and a not long after that, I received papers in the mail with the headline, "You Are Being Sued For Divorce."
I have a bit of an idea of how hard it is to find a good Christian spouse, so I completely empathize with anyone who is looking and I have several crazy stories to tell about the dating world that I have often shared here in Singles.
I've also followed all the good Christian advice you will find people giving over and over again for 20 years, and God has yet to cross my path with a husband, but maybe it's His will, and I've been working on accepting that.
As a single, you just can't win. People will tell you to throw your life into serving the Lord, and that you'll meet someone along the way, but then when you try to tell them that you've done that and are still strugglinrag, they'll tell you that you shouldn't even talk about it, lest you boast about your good deeds and therefore lose your reward in heaven.
I participated in the things I did not because I was trying to find something to boast about, and not just because I was trying to meet a good Christian man. I threw myself into every ministry I could find--Children's Church, Tween Church, choir, cleaning, classes, prayer groups, Bible studies, outreaches, ministries that involved talking to veterans, and a ministry that found me talking to guys in their 30's who were serving life sentences for crimes such as shooting their parents as a teenager--because I was lost, broken, unspeakably lonely, and desperate to get "closer to God" as all the good Christian advice tells you to do.
I never found a husband (maybe still someday? I don't know--that's up to God.)
But what I did find is that God CAN change your focus, and change your heart, but it is often in ways you never would have thought of (or entered into willingly), and takes a whole lot longer than you ever expected.
But that is just me.
Humor is one way that I mask the pain of feeling the things I don't want to admit, lest I be stoned with more good Christian advice, such as the pain of feeling as if God has overlooked me, but yet handed spouses out to everyone else around me.
We are all on individual walks with our Lord--may He bless you with the comfort of His presence during yours.
My first marriage ended in divorce at the age of 29 after 6 1/2 years. The sheriff delivered my papers to me personally. It is wonderful that you found God in your search so in the end, while perhaps painful at times, the search was worth it.