How to identify the right partner for love among your female friends?

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LittleMermaid

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Susanna

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Naw, he doesn’t wish he is American. He wants to be a Texan, like everyone else. 😜
 
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LaVieEnRose

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Dear NotImportant: I believe you have made a wrong turn. This forum is for fellowship. Excoriation is in the Bible Discussion Forum, three doors down on your left.

In the Bible Discussion Forum you can insult people all you want, and they will insult you back and you can have a good rousing argument to your heart's content.

Again, the Bible Discussion Forum is the place you really want to be. The forum you are currently in is for people to hang out and chat. The Bible Discussion Forum is the place to argue and insult people.

For your convenience here is a link to the Bible Discussion Forum.
https://christianchat.com/bible-discussion-forum/

If you haven't got the point yet, I really, really, REALLY think you should go to the Bible Discussion Forum.
But I like insulting and arguing with people, HERE!
 

jameen

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I want to further state, that marriage is a complete gamble.

You don't know what is really going on in your spouse's mind. You could match them up to everything the bible says a woman should be, and tomorrow they change their mind. God makes no one do anything. They could be the most Godly woman on earth, and still take off on you. If everyone did what God says to do, there wouldn't be any sin.

Think about this people.

My best advice; find someone you can somewhat get along with, and do everything YOU can to make it work. The rest of it is on the other person.

Good luck.
Okay finding a good wife is like finding a good friend too. choose what fits your taste. but as a Christian of course find someone who has Christian values.

but bro please tell me your story how you met your wife. how did you know her, courted her, until you married her.

what convinces you that she is given to you by God?
 

Tommy379

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Okay finding a good wife is like finding a good friend too. choose what fits your taste. but as a Christian of course find someone who has Christian values.

but bro please tell me your story how you met your wife. how did you know her, courted her, until you married her.

what convinces you that she is given to you by God?
Ok.

I met her on February 15, 2002 in one of the class rooms at Providence Baptist Church, in Hayes Virginia. It was a Friday. I had been attending a Friday Night Young adult group for the past 11 months. We usually met in the fellowship hall, but it was decorated for a wedding reception that was happening the next day. I was 22 at the time, getting ready to turn 23 the next month. I had just become a Christian 6 months prior at a revival. Prior to that, I was a devout atheist, who was sympathetic to Christianity, and I had been reading the bible since I was a teenager. I really came to my belief from a logical analysis of eye witness testimony in the bible. Anyways. I had been going to this church because I was invited by a girl I met a year earlier on a Yahoo chatroom. First time I had friends since high school, as I had moved from the city I grew up in.
When I was a teen, I had a dream of a girl with brown hair, who introduced me to someone as her husband, and she was proud of it.
So on February 15, that gal I met on Yahoo, brought a girl with her to church. As soon as she walked in, I recognized her from the dream I had years before. She was so beautiful, long brown hair, tight body, and time really did stand still. I was kinda shy back then, but it was like we were the only two in the room. I walked right up to her, and introduced myself. I was in love with her, before I knew her name. We sat and talked all that night. I learned she was 17 at the time. Just turned 17 actually. A bit young. She such a bright, shining Christian woman. We met again at that church the following Friday. I learned she had every quality I was looking for. Christian, parents were still together, no daddy issues, virgin, she even split wood with an axe.
After this, she started showing up at places I frequented. I could tell she was interested. I asked her on a date for my birthday that March. I went to her house to pick her up, and she came outside all dressed up, her parents took pictures of us together, like we were going to prom. Makes sense, she was homeschooled.
She was so young, we did this courtship thing were we went out once a month, and I came over and spent time with her family in between. Courtship is a tricky thing, as there was another guy after her, but he eventually flaked out and went nuts. Tried attacking her when she turned down his advances.
After awhile, we started dating. I spent every day off with her, and camped at her parents home often. We finally got married on December 23, 2005.
Marriage was great. She lined up with everything the bible states as a good wife.
Some things bothered me though. She quit working when we married, but had some demands for stuff. Money was tight, and we didn't have kids yet. We finally had our first in June 2010, and second child 2 years later. Our life seemed perfect. I noticed she seemed a bit off after a second was born, maybe postpartum depression. So God gave me the perfect wife, and perfect family, that I jad been praying for....... except God gave nothing.
November 7, 2015 was the last night I spent with her as her husband. She took the kids the next day to her parents for a visit, and called me while there, to tell me she was never come back.
Come to find out, I could never know what was really in her mind. What she thought, anything. That wonderful, Christian woman, had been talking to other men online, cause they were new, and she felt bit of euphoria she hadn't felt in awhile. She married one of them, weeks after her initiated divorce was finalized.
I spent nearly 2 years praying for marriage restoration. That's why I came to this site to begin with. I begged, pleaded, offered anything. All gone.

God gives no one a spouse. No one is entitled to a spouse. God does not take control of a person's mind, and force then to love another. God does not make inanimate objects into a spouse. There is no biblical evidence that God operates in that manner. I'm not denying Gods power, but no one can site a single instance in the past 2000 years, God has given anyone a spouse.
You may pray, and be the most worthy of all, but God is not going to drop a woman in your lap.
You may have miserable sexual frustrations, but being a believer does not entitle you to a spouse. You may very well, leave this earth as a bitter old man, having never been intimate with a woman, and having no sons to carry your name.
God has nothing to do with that. He has made no promises to anyone for a spouse.
It is up to you to be happy with your position in your life. No one is responsible for your happiness.
My best advice is to ask a girl out on a date. Talk to her. Get to know her. She may not be the one. That's fine, move on and ask another one out. Eventually you will come across a woman you will want to marry.
Just remember, you can never know what's going on in another person's mind. They could be the most devout today, and change their mind tomorrow.
 

maxwel

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Okay finding a good wife is like finding a good friend too. choose what fits your taste. but as a Christian of course find someone who has Christian values.

but bro please tell me your story how you met your wife. how did you know her, courted her, until you married her.

what convinces you that she is given to you by God?

Choose what fits your taste?

That would be a lot easier if the women hadn't thought of it too.


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NotImportant

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Is that why you are angry with God ?
Cos He united you two for real with a dream and all that but the evil one mislead her heart ?
That happens on daily basis! Now tell me that hearts cannot be influenced by Spirit after all that which happened!

Although you went against what i shared i will share again for your sake cos i really want you recovered.
1. The source of happiness is not you alone, happiness is fruit of the Holy Spirit.
2. You think that God didn't gave me people that strayed into evil for whom I pray to this very day?

Judah was one of the given to Jesus and he sold Him for 30 silver coins.
Eve was truly given to Adam and Adam to Eve but she hearkened to the serpent and Adam to her.

Grow in the Word Tommy, don't drawn into the bitterness.
I'm saying this for your sake to guard your heart. I don't share non-sense or falsities.

People sinned against God all the time and He restores them again and again.
Nothing is too hard for God.
God is able.

Every living being not grown in Maturity in God is in danger of falling away.

Can you make by thought a single hair on your head white?
Listen to me and don't harden your heart, don't worry, do what is right in the sight of God. He is more loving and more important than all and He will surely bless you.
Relieve the oppressed, feed the hungry, seek justice for the poor, keep His commandments. Do all that and those that left you will crawl in anguish in front of you.

it's not about 2000 years or 20000 years, God is One, Eternal, never changing, forever able, just because there are no records doesn't mean God does not bless and give in secret. He is able to this very day and God and many around me be my witness of the miracles i have seen.
God is able with power greater than imagination and the world.

The resurrection of Moses was revealed through Stephen by the Spirit of Truth way after it happened.

God unites his children in His Kingdom after they are scattered. You will get to know what this means.
I pray that God teach your children in secret so that they come and be with you. Just do what is right in His sight, not fasting with starvation, fasting with doing righteous works through Faith in His Word and teaching.

p.s. I don't have miserable sexual frustrations, God provides for my needs and i delight in Him.
God be my witness i will consider you as a brother in Christ for the time being but if you mock me and offend me for calling out people that say: God is not able, human rights blah blah, people that haven't heard of God... i will consider you as a heathen. Don't take me wrong, you might say i don't need all this, I don't need Faith, all I do is suffer... but you do.

everyone does, this is a Christian site.

I speak the Truth: God have destined people to the sword and to what so not, destining two souls together is hard ? And I fear God as much as I delight in Him.

don't say why are you giving me winter after summer, or hunger after food, even harder times are coming for the whole world and blessings for all His Children that are grafted into the Holy Tree of Israel, His Children won't see night nor hunger nor thirst nor winter anymore with Him.
 

NotImportant

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One more advise, discern fruit, not lip service.
devotion is inside, keeping the Truth of God, His Word in patience and love.
 

Tommy379

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Is that why you are angry with God ?
Cos He united you two for real with a dream and all that but the evil one mislead her heart ?
That happens on daily basis! Now tell me that hearts cannot be influenced by Spirit after all that which happened!

Although you went against what i shared i will share again for your sake cos i really want you recovered.
1. The source of happiness is not you alone, happiness is fruit of the Holy Spirit.
2. You think that God didn't gave me people that strayed into evil for whom I pray to this very day?

Judah was one of the given to Jesus and he sold Him for 30 silver coins.
Eve was truly given to Adam and Adam to Eve but she hearkened to the serpent and Adam to her.

Grow in the Word Tommy, don't drawn into the bitterness.
I'm saying this for your sake to guard your heart. I don't share non-sense or falsities.

People sinned against God all the time and He restores them again and again.
Nothing is too hard for God.
God is able.

Every living being not grown in Maturity in God is in danger of falling away.

Can you make by thought a single hair on your head white?
Listen to me and don't harden your heart, don't worry, do what is right in the sight of God. He is more loving and more important than all and He will surely bless you.
Relieve the oppressed, feed the hungry, seek justice for the poor, keep His commandments. Do all that and those that left you will crawl in anguish in front of you.

it's not about 2000 years or 20000 years, God is One, Eternal, never changing, forever able, just because there are no records doesn't mean God does not bless and give in secret. He is able to this very day and God and many around me be my witness of the miracles i have seen.
God is able with power greater than imagination and the world.

The resurrection of Moses was revealed through Stephen by the Spirit of Truth way after it happened.

God unites his children in His Kingdom after they are scattered. You will get to know what this means.
I pray that God teach your children in secret so that they come and be with you. Just do what is right in His sight, not fasting with starvation, fasting with doing righteous works through Faith in His Word and teaching.

p.s. I don't have miserable sexual frustrations, God provides for my needs and i delight in Him.
God be my witness i will consider you as a brother in Christ for the time being but if you mock me and offend me for calling out people that say: God is not able, human rights blah blah, people that haven't heard of God... i will consider you as a heathen. Don't take me wrong, you might say i don't need all this, I don't need Faith, all I do is suffer... but you do.

everyone does, this is a Christian site.

I speak the Truth: God have destined people to the sword and to what so not, destining two souls together is hard ? And I fear God as much as I delight in Him.

don't say why are you giving me winter after summer, or hunger after food, even harder times are coming for the whole world and blessings for all His Children that are grafted into the Holy Tree of Israel, His Children won't see night nor hunger nor thirst nor winter anymore with Him.
I'm not angry with God, I just don't like you.
 

Lynx

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No, I just think you are a douche bag.
I will translate this.

NotImportant, you seem to thrive on conflict, and you apparently seek it or generate it wherever you go. You happily take anything anybody says as an argument, and you enjoy ripping Bible verses out of context so you can use them to beat people over the head.

Frankly I'm glad you are just words on a screen in an internet forum. If you were in my area you would be giving christianity in general a very bad name. I am glad my friends are not seeing and hearing you and thinking you are what a christian is.

Basically you're a christian jerk. I wish you would either calm down or go away. I have a slight preference for the former because I would rather talk to a nice person, but I know the balance of probability is that you will eventually get your fill of argument (or be banned because of your argumentative nature) and latter option will be what we get.

Either way, it can't happen too soon.
 

trofimus

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You wish you were American.
If I could live in some good place without drugs, gangs, criminality, flag-adoration, corruption, police state and militarism, why not.

But these places are called Canada, generally.

(Shots fired).
 

NotImportant

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I will translate this.

NotImportant, you seem to thrive on conflict, and you apparently seek it or generate it wherever you go. You happily take anything anybody says as an argument, and you enjoy ripping Bible verses out of context so you can use them to beat people over the head.

Frankly I'm glad you are just words on a screen in an internet forum. If you were in my area you would be giving christianity in general a very bad name. I am glad my friends are not seeing and hearing you and thinking you are what a christian is.

Basically you're a christian jerk. I wish you would either calm down or go away. I have a slight preference for the former because I would rather talk to a nice person, but I know the balance of probability is that you will eventually get your fill of argument (or be banned because of your argumentative nature) and latter option will be what we get.

Either way, it can't happen too soon.
In other words: you like soothsayers, people that say stuff that please your ears and not things that are True.
And God has given you to such, people that say: I'll pray and nothing happens nor they tell you what God replied.
Repent and seek sanctification in Spirit, in the Kingdom of God.

Edify one another in the Word not in false hopes, ask what God says not what you imagine right or wrong.

Go do righteousness, don't just congregate against me trying to discern me in all falsities coming out of your own mind and heart.
Go do what is pleasing for God!

You are the ones that started to cause arguments when I told the OP to eat the Word of God, that God is able.. and called out people that don't like lordship over their head - fakers.

God doesn't "force", who are you kidding ! me or yourself?
What does having a Lord means if not to have Christ living in you leading your life.

What, you are free from God in Jesus ? NO! Jesus Christ is to reunite the Children UNDER God, to be free from sin and not from God, for God to have control over your life in a good way not in His Wrath.

Did Israel, His Children said: Hey I have free will, I choose not to be imprisoned by Babylon.
God said: indeed you have free will, you can stay and die from famine, disease and the sword and be a horror to all, or listen to me and go where I send you to live there.
OBEY Gods Instructions !!!
The sin of one brings death to all the world and the righteousness and Faith of One brings life to all that listen.

I don't take out verses to twist them, you are lacking discernment, instruction and His Word abiding in you.
Those words that you say are just on screen testify of you and all i have said so that you don't say: He was speaking false after all that you come to taste in your life.

For you know well that the Words of the Bible are not just some Words on a paper.
Jesus Christ said: It is the Spirit that quickens, the flesh profits nothing, these Words that I Speak are Spirit and are Life.

And what, is it so hard for anyone to hear a reproof ? How else would there be learning if there is no reproof ?
A good gardener circumcise His vine so that the same gets renewed and grow to produce fruit.

Who gives Christianity a bad name? I'll tell you who: those that speak one thing in public, all nicy nicy things and sooth-say to all, but in secret, they do things not pleasing to the Spirit of God.
 

NotImportant

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And when God sends a nation against another nation do they say: God, you are offending our free will and our own desires?
Why are people lying to themselves that anyone is able to live without God ?
People don't even know that God sends them the enemies and everything that happens in their life to them if they are not told by a servant of God.
I am here and I tell you: God does all! In mercy or in wrath.
Nothing happens outside of God!
Everything belongs to him, every person, every nation, every king and queen, the prideful and the humble, every spirit as well to do with all as He finds pleasing. The trees belong to God, the stones belong to God, the whole earth His footstool and the heaven which is His throne.
Blessed are those that survive for the reward is great and cannot be compared to anything of this world.
 

Lynx

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You are definitely Bible Discussion Forum material. I guess you are here because they were too rough for you there. Or perhaps they proved you wrong too many times, so you stay here where people don't bother to prove you wrong as it is not worth the effort.