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What are your thoughts on hyphenated names?

  • I’m a dude and believe the dudette should take my last name as her own. Tradition, baby!

    Votes: 10 38.5%

  • I’m a dudette and believe that I should take his last name as my own.

    Votes: 8 30.8%

  • I’m a dude and I think that she should hyphenate her last name.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I’m a dudette and think that I should hyphenate my last name.

    Votes: 1 3.8%

  • I’m a dude and I don’t think either of us should change our names when we marry.

    Votes: 1 3.8%

  • I’m a dudette and I don’t think either of us should change our names when we marry.

    Votes: 2 7.7%

  • I’m a dude and think that if we both should hyphenate our names.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I’m a dudette and think that both of us should hyphenate our names.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • It doesn’t matter. I’ll never get married anyway….just gonna eat this pie….

    Votes: 8 30.8%
  • Total voters
    26
  • Poll closed .
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NukePooch

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VioletReigns said:
In the Bible they didn't have last names, they had names of cities. Jesus of Nazareth.... Saul (Paul) of Tarsus... John of Patmos... Mary & Martha of Bethany... Joseph of Arimathea... I'm Violet of Philadelphia. :eek:
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Tintin said:
Tintin of South Australia. Erm... It's not great. Haha!
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In Iceland (where I'd love to go visit one day), your last name is based on your dad's first name.

So, since my dad's name is Dan, I would be Nuke Dansson. If i was a girl, I would be Nuke Dansdottir. Or would it be Nukette Dansdottir?
Or Nukette Dansdottir-Pooch?
 
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Tintin

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#62
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NukePooch said:
In Iceland (where I'd love to go visit one day), your last name is based on your dad's first name.

So, since my dad's name is Dan, I would be Nuke Dansson. If i was a girl, I would be Nuke Dansdottir. Or would it be Nukette Dansdottir?
Or Nukette Dansdottir-Pooch?
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Beautiful, brother! I'd be Tintin Jonathan. Not very exotic. Haha!
 
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Miri

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#63
#63
It depends on the name. For some it might be beneficial to change it.

I knew someone who was called pretty - a Christian Asian lady.
She got engaged to a man whose surname was love.

They didn't marry in the end but could you honestly spend the rest
of your life called Pretty Love!

Or what about the woman called Amy who married someone called Mr Mann

A-Mann (amen)

Good job she was a Christian :D
 
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Little_Woman

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#64
I can't participate my friend!
I've never been married!
 
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NukePooch

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#65
Tintin said:
Beautiful, brother! I'd be Tintin Jonathan. Not very exotic. Haha!
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Actually, it'd be Tintin Jonathansson (Jonathan's Son).

Brings to mind something like this:

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NukePooch

Guest
#66
#66
Miri said:
It depends on the name. For some it might be beneficial to change it.

I knew someone who was called pretty - a Christian Asian lady.
She got engaged to a man whose surname was love.

They didn't marry in the end but could you honestly spend the rest
of your life called Pretty Love!
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How about if she'd married Mr. Ugly on this forum?

Yep, she'd be Pretty Ugly.

~bows~
Thank you, you've been a wonderful audience.
 
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Miri

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#67
#67
NukePooch said:
How about if she'd married Mr. Ugly on this forum?

Yep, she'd be Pretty Ugly.

~bows~
Thank you, you've been a wonderful audience.
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Cant find a roll around floor smiley but that made me laugh :D
 
Utah

Utah

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seoulsearch said:
When I used the word "liberal", I was quoting your original post.

I just chose not to use the word "pukism."

And, it's always nice to agree on something. :)

That's what keeps the Singles Forum such a harmonious place. :p

Besides. Everyone knows that if I got married, I would ask that he take the last name of "Rhode-Island" instead of "Utah."
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Okay, I see, you were referring to post #8 and I was referring to post #36. I stand corrected. :)
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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Utah said:
Okay, I see, you were referring to post #8 and I was referring to post #36. I stand corrected. :)
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Thank you for this, Utah.

We will probably disagree on a lot of things, but hopefully we can agree to disagree and still be friends. :)

Just ask my actual friends.

I disagree with them all the time. ;)

God bless, Utah.
 
Roh_Chris

Roh_Chris

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Jun 15, 2014
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NukePooch said:
In Iceland (where I'd love to go visit one day), your last name is based on your dad's first name.

So, since my dad's name is Dan, I would be Nuke Dansson. If i was a girl, I would be Nuke Dansdottir. Or would it be Nukette Dansdottir?
Or Nukette Dansdottir-Pooch?
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Oh that's the same in some parts of India too!!! The kids take the first names of their dads. And that tradition keeps continuing.

In other parts of India, they have a family name and people abide by it. Usually, the men take upon themselves to keep the family name while the women get "married off" into another family, and take that family's name.
 
Reborn

Reborn

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Nov 16, 2014
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seoulsearch said:
Just ask my actual friends.

I disagree with them all the time. ;)
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You do?
huh? You and I never disagree on any topic.


I like to think of it as this slow process.....
We have different opinions, and you have the hardest time admitting that I'm always right.

We get there..... eventually.



You're welcome, Kim.
 
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Mitspa

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#74
It sounds like he is not the male in the relationship anyway... I know he don't have any male friends.
 
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wwjd_kilden

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#75
#75
PoetMary said:
No...it's an invented name from the movie A Fish Called Wanda
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:D

(To the others, this is a movie quote, just so you don't club me down for being rude :p)

Oh, right! To call you stupid would be an insult to stupid people! I've known sheep that could outwit you. I've worn dresses with higher IQs.
 
PoetMary

PoetMary

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Utah said:
No, that's traditionalism.
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False. Traditionalism is maintaining traditions because "that's how things have always been done" and you find a particular value in that. If someone simply maintains a tradition because THEY find value in it, then they are a traditionalist. If they judge people who don't follow their tradition, then they are elitist because they are elevating their tradition above other practices.

I direct you to the second definition of the word "elitism."

Belief that a woman taking her husband's surname is "how it should be," (despite the fact that it's culturally and not biblically driven), and presuming that someone who does not do this is lesser (you used the word "pukism" I believe) is the creation of an ELITE system.

Those who do as you prefer are part of the "select group"...those who do otherwise are "outliers," "unbelievers," "puke-ish," "not members of the cool-kids club," etc.

So you are conscious that YOU are a member of a special group...and they are not.

Kind of like the Pharisee who prayed, "oooh God, I thank you that I am NOT like this tax collector..."

noun1.practice of or belief in rule by an elite.

2.consciousness of or pride in belonging to a select or favored group.
 
PoetMary

PoetMary

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Nov 25, 2014
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wwjd_kilden said:
:D

(To the others, this is a movie quote, just so you don't club me down for being rude :p)

Oh, right! To call you stupid would be an insult to stupid people! I've known sheep that could outwit you. I've worn dresses with higher IQs.
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Don't call me STUPID!
 
Utah

Utah

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seoulsearch said:
Thank you for this, Utah.

We will probably disagree on a lot of things, but hopefully we can agree to disagree and still be friends. :)

Just ask my actual friends.

I disagree with them all the time. ;)

God bless, Utah.
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I disagree that you probably disagree with your actual friends because they shouldn't disagree with you, and if they do, then I disagree with their disagreements.

SS, you are my sister in Christ, and that means more to me than you'll ever know. What's awesome about that is nothing can ever change that. Think Romans 8:38-39 and God's love; well, same thing with my brotherhood, faults and all.

God bless you too, my Sister. I truly mean that. :)
 
Utah

Utah

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PoetMary said:
False. Traditionalism is maintaining traditions because "that's how things have always been done" and you find a particular value in that. If someone simply maintains a tradition because THEY find value in it, then they are a traditionalist. If they judge people who don't follow their tradition, then they are elitist because they are elevating their tradition above other practices.

I direct you to the second definition of the word "elitism."

Belief that a woman taking her husband's surname is "how it should be," (despite the fact that it's culturally and not biblically driven), and presuming that someone who does not do this is lesser (you used the word "pukism" I believe) is the creation of an ELITE system.

Those who do as you prefer are part of the "select group"...those who do otherwise are "outliers," "unbelievers," "puke-ish," "not members of the cool-kids club," etc.

So you are conscious that YOU are a member of a special group...and they are not.

Kind of like the Pharisee who prayed, "oooh God, I thank you that I am NOT like this tax collector..."

noun1.practice of or belief in rule by an elite.

2.consciousness of or pride in belonging to a select or favored group.
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Judging elitists isn't elitism, its smart practice. Besides, this is so yesterday. I don't care.

On another note, I don't know if you're playing or being serious in post #77, but I assure you, if anyone is openly calling you stupid in a harmful manner, know full well I have your back.
 
CatHerder

CatHerder

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Thanks for everyone's input so far! I'm glad people chimed in with how surnames are used in different cultures and mentioned that the tradition of the woman taking the man's name is not universal.

An aside: I once gave piano lessons to some kids who have a hyphenated last name, but each of their parents, though married, kept their own names. One parent's surname was Keane, and the other Miller. The kids' last name was Keane-Miller, so naturally, I referred to them as the Mean-Killers.
 
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